MomOf5

    Hello, I’m back to TMB and am getting used to the points system. Hubby and I have been married 21 years and have struggled with gatekeeping. I am the higher drive spouse. Right now we are in a good place and communicating well – I say that to say there is hope if you are struggling with that. 

    Yes, we have 5 kids. Yes, they’re a handful. And yes, we know how that happens. 🤭  

    King bed Asked on August 24, 2020 in Introduce Yourself.

    I’m not calling ya lightweights but we got more kids than you.

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      What?  You only have 5 kids?  We have 6 kids.  Amateur.

      On the floor Answered on August 24, 2020.

      au contraire…don’t tell anyone but….10 here. Most are adults but we (married 35yrs) started over…

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        Yes, we have 5 kids. Yes, they’re a handful. And yes, we know how that happens. 🤭   

        I was gonna say….looks like someone got past the gate a few times at least… 🙂

        Welcome back! Share the positive stories, we’d all like to hear more of those!

        Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on August 24, 2020.
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          Nice to ‘meet’ you, and welcome!

          Under the stars Answered on August 24, 2020.
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            Welcome back!

            King bed Answered on August 24, 2020.
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              Welcome back!  Glad you are here!

              Under the stars Answered on August 25, 2020.
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                Hello MomOf5,

                Welcome! We weren’t part of the old TMB, so nice to meet you. Glad to hear you’re in a good place and communicating well now despite the gatekeeping past.

                In terms of the points system, here is the best primer for that: https://qna.themarriagebed.com/badges-2/

                And perhaps the best thread for describing/discussing the system is here: How To and General Information

                Also, the site is FAR superior on a computer/Chromebook/iPad than it is on phones.

                -Scott

                Under the stars Answered on August 24, 2020.

                @Scott, how does a tablet compare with a computer? I just got one and I’m trying to figure it out. I have never viewed TMB on a computer, only a phone. I’m far from techy, as you can tell.

                on August 24, 2020.

                It’s the same on an iPad as my computer

                on August 24, 2020.

                Same here as with @NWNL–our iPad is the same as a computer and quite different from our iPhones. I’ve also seen another user say that the Chromebook experience is like that of a computer.

                -Scott

                ETA: @Brynna, if you start using the computer/tablet interface, you’ll absolutely love the ability to edit, bold/italicize, etc!

                on August 24, 2020.

                Thanks @newwifenewlife and @Scott. I’ll have to look into it more. Can’t have the children show me on this one!

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                  Like Scott+Zelda I wasn’t on the old forum either. I’ve been here for several months or so. Happy to make your acquaintance. Look forward to your contributions/discussions/questions.

                  Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on August 24, 2020.
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                    Welcome back! Were you MomOf5 before? I don’t recall that name. We have 5 adult kids. 🙂

                    I’m glad to hear you are communicating better and getting past the gatekeeping issue. Good for you! Have fun as the higher drive spouse! May you have many good years to make up for what “the locusts have eaten.”

                    Under the stars Answered on August 24, 2020.
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                      @one_woman_man I don’t remember what my username was on the old boards, it’s been a little while.

                      King bed Answered on August 25, 2020.
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                        Welcome! I’m a new site only user, and have only one kid but I am also the higher drive spouse, so we have that in common!

                        Under the stars Answered on August 26, 2020.
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