Monday, January 13, 2020 – Today’s Question(s) of the Day
In the context of our marriage, because I realize there are crazy things out there that aren’t applicable to us at all, 1) Rimming him, at least at this point in life. And, 2) those things God says “no” to.
There are other things I don’t care to do, I might be squeamish about, or I am uncomfortable with, but I wouldn’t call them a hard no, because I am still willing to consider doing them for him.
As everyone else has pointed out…obviously if God’s Word says no…it’s NO
From my perspective…if my DW came to me and wanted to try something that was Biblically allowed, I can only think of two things I’d say no to. I CANNOT be restrained or have a blindfold put on me.
No’s from her would be a long list. She is very timid in the marriage bed, so for all of our marriage, it’s been a half dozen positions, in the bedroom only…except the once in the shower. But it’s cool…it’s about the quality of connection anyway, not the positions, or hardware, or places etc…
Anything to do with the submission of the man which to me means pegging, it sickens me (sorry to offend) and anal is probably off for me due to health issues and everything that SC said and i don’t even fantasize about those things (such as same sex, other people in our marriage bed–just no), other than that i can’t think of anything except positions that would hurt my bone on bone hip!
Oh, one thing that i would be extremely squeamish about is finishing my husband after he’s been inside me, i’ve offered to do so but after asking him to wipe himself.
There has only been 1 hard no in our marriage after having actually done it, and that has been to have porn on in the act. We did it a couple of times before we both agreed it wasn’t acceptable in our relationship.
There are likely many things I would also say no to if they ever came up, although I also know they are not things Dh would want. Hence, we’ve never had the conversation. Most of these are things that are against what God would want in our marriage bed. Also, anything that takes away my need for feminity would be out – pegging comes to mind. These are all moot points, however.
Although there was a time earlier in our marriage that my wife tolerated it, sadly I would say that OS either way is functionally an “absolute No” as far as my wife is concerned. She’s very conservative and is almost always good for PIV in it’s several positions that don’t hurt her back (she’s had several back surgeries) but things quickly come to a stop when I initiate any OS or AP. I do long for some other flavors than vanilla.