Monday, January 6, 2020 – Today’s Question(s) of the Day

    • What is something you secretly long for in your marriage bed yet honestly you have been afraid to bring up to your spouse?
    • Why?
    • What small step can you take to share with your spouse?
    On the floor Asked on January 6, 2020 in Question of the Day.
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      I am not afraid to suggest this to DH, but I have decided not to, out of respect for him and because it would stress him out, as he is not a risk taker.

      I would love to have sex outside either on our deck (not an option as our daughter’s bedroom window overlooks it) or on our patio, or by our fireplace.

      On the floor Answered on January 6, 2020.

      Do it when she isn’t home

      on January 11, 2020.
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        N/A …… have a good day 🙂

        Under the stars Answered on January 6, 2020.

        I was thinking the exact same thing…I wanted to comment, but didn’t have a comment to make!

        on January 6, 2020.

        I know some people might see your answer and think it’s a waste or even disrespectful, but I like it. These kind of things serve as a reminder to people that not everyone has these kinds of desires, and that’s okay. It makes me think of your low-drive roll call thread several months ago, as LD spouses are highly underrepresented in forums like this and could easily feel broken (related to how I referenced that potentially happening in a comment in McGruff’s erotica thread). However, it’s certainly possible that HD spouses may not have secret desires either.

        That said, I personally really like this QOTD and suspect it will lead to good discussion tonight in my own MB. Thus, I upvoted both the question and your answer. Congratulations. 😛

        Oh, and I will challenge you to come up with an answer, even if it’s out of the box. Maybe an answer like “I long to understand what really motivates my DH.” Maybe that’s not a secret, but something along those lines!


        on January 6, 2020.

        I actually answered out of respect for Elevation, and I hope he sees that and knows that. I want him to know that his question, that he took time and effort to ask, was read and considered, even if I have no specific answer. It’s the directness I prefer for myself, and I want to show my respect for him by not ignoring him (his questions.)

        on January 6, 2020.
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          Scott thank you for that and not only that, LD spouses are constantly admonished to knock it off and step up to the plate ( realize this verbage is probably too strong, just making a point). LD spouses ARE NOT BROKEN. Kudo’s should be given to those honestly trying to meet their spouses needs and not bashed w/specific scriptures. I think in all things, GRACE should be given.

          That said, i’m not the LD spouse, i think my H’s and my drive are pretty much matched although i respond like a woman, meaning rarely initiate and he’s usually the pursuer. So i guess “my” answer would be i want to bring as much passion to the marriage bed as possible and constantly try to get out of my head and have my body respond that way too. There’s really not much else we can bring as we are both limited physically.  There is one thing but i’ve already brought it up and it’s not really important enough to be discontent should it not happen.

          Fell out of ... Answered on January 6, 2020.
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            I can’t think of anything either!  Unless it was being in our 20s again! lol!

            Under the stars Answered on January 6, 2020.
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              I have told my DW all my longings regarding things  I would like to do in our marriage bed. For those who have read my previous posts, my DW ha a pretty restricted set of activities she is comfortable doing. It is my hope that in 2020 we can expand our repertoire a bit.

              Hammock Answered on January 11, 2020.
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                There’s nothing I am afraid to bring up to him in the way I think you mean; it is more that I don’t want to harp on it, since we have discussed it before, because we are doing some new and different things and I don’t want him to feel like he or his efforts are not enough or are unsatisfactory. I’m not going to complain about waiting for a certain dish when we are enjoying such improvement to our regular meals of late. There are many meals to come and we will get around to my dish eventually. 😉

                Under the stars Answered 6 days ago.
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