Music and arousal, music during sex

    This is my first question so forgive me if it’s been asked before. 
    As a musician, composer, and just all-around music lover, music deeply moves me.
    Some music, for me, is sexually arousing, whether from the lyrics or musical structure. DH isn’t this way. 
    Does anyone else feel this way at times or from certain songs/pieces? If so, when, or what song/piece?

    Also some music is great to have going while making love. Do you feel that way? If so, what are your favorite songs/pieces to have going while making love?

    Hammock Asked on July 26, 2020 in Activities & Items .
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      I’m very susceptible to music, and since I’m not always in the mood when my DH is, music often makes all the difference. There is some jazz that really gets me. A slow, sensual trumpet is really erotic sometimes. There are certain songs and artists that are bedroom favorites, but they are so specific to me that I don’t want to write them here in case my DH stumbles onto this site 😅
      We have also chosen music during role playing that fits whatever we are acting out and that has enhanced the experience.
      What kind of music do you like? If we have similar tastes I can send you a PM with my list.

      Queen bed Answered on July 26, 2020.
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        Yes, music is almost always on in our house and cars. DW & I haven’t tried too much to find music for making love since it’s typcially more spontaneous, we don’t usually try to “set a mood” unless it starting with a massage or we’re starting for the most part at night after talking in bed or in the morning from bed….AND we also disagree some on what is relaxing or mood-enhancing. LOL! Not unlike a bunch of other things. At least we agree on Jesus and principles & values that matter in life and love. Voicing the rest is just my fear, err…I mean, healthy respect of her red hair, and Kentucky roots (which include the mastery of shotguns and frying pan throwing), my allergy to lead and the law of physics which says that while I can outrun and dodge a frying pan, my ability to move my lard butt faster than buckshot or a 9mm is slower than my ability to move my mouth and fingers, so if I know what’s good for me, I won’t say anymore. 😀 

        PS – If you don’t hear from me again say a prayer, light a candle, and have the mods notify the authorities that my passing wasn’t related to covid19, despite whatever my wife might say on this forum, it was foot-in-mouth disease. 😉

        Under the stars Answered on July 26, 2020.
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          We both love worship music (Bethel, Elevation, Hillsong, Vertical, Tomlin, Maverick City, Passion, Cody Carnes, and so many more)…but we both have confessed that we can’t wait for the kids to be gone so we can stand in the kitchen naked eating peanut butter or Nutella out of a jar while attempting to rap an old school Eminem song! 😀

          Personally, I am an 80’s rocker at heart but I’ll burn DW a love mix CD on occasion from 70’s classics to the latest and greatest pop, modern & new country.

           

          Under the stars Answered on July 26, 2020.

          What is this CD thing you mention? Never heard of it.

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            Music doesn’t arouse me, it’s either just background noise or a distraction….. can’t have lyrics, and not even instrumental music of songs with lyrics, because then all I am doing is singing in my head.  😀  That’s not conducive to focusing and getting in the mood or aroused.   But I love music.  Songs have a way of expressing things my heart and soul feel, but I lack the words to express myself.

            Under the stars Answered on July 26, 2020.
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              I like hot music to keep me in the mood. But my DW doesn’t like that kind of music.

              I have a full collection. From soft/lounge ones, to some hot techno ones.

              One that I really like is ‘Org…’ by ‘Anymood’.

              Others:

              ATB – 9pm Till I Come

              The Fig Tree Project – My Swet 66

              Rare Earth – Come With Me

               

              This one will be a bit too much for many, but puts you in the mood: ‘Mal & Susy – Stop! And Go! ‘

               

              Important, look for the soft version of ‘Org…’ by ‘Anymood’. There is one version with a couple of words that I don’t agree when they are used.

              on July 26, 2020.
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                In the early 2000s, we went through streak of a few years of enjoying soft jazz (Kenny G could really put us in the mood) as we engaged in foreplay and sexual intimacy. When I would turn on our Bose stereo from our bed, as we snuggled together, it sort of electrified our senses and sexuality. Wonderful memories!

                We’ve found, over the years, that mixing things up and changing routines from time to time spices up the marriage bed. Perhaps in our elder years we’ll go back to our soft jazz – perfect for cuddling and intimacy of every kind..

                Under the stars Answered on July 26, 2020.
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                  I sometimes create sexually explicit lyrics to totally unrelated music.

                  Twin bed Answered on July 26, 2020.
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                    @HisGirl Thanks for your answer, it’s nice to know I’m not the only one. 🙂 But my music tastes are vast, a great variety. 😄 I’d Love to see your list, and I will try to compile a brief list today.

                    Hammock Answered on July 26, 2020.

                    Sent you a pm!

                    on July 26, 2020.

                    Great thanks! It’s not showing though.

                    on July 26, 2020.

                    Is there anything in your email maybe, even the spam folder?

                    on July 26, 2020.
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                      @newwifenewlife Hilarious! 😄 DH and I have a few music preferences in common, but oftentimes the divide is age-related (though we’re only five yrs apart) because I’m a millennial. 😂😂 The music we agree on is timeless.

                      Hammock Answered on July 26, 2020.
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                        I would never use music during sex even though music above anything (well, except my animals) has the power to make me feel the most joy i’ve ever felt, it absolutely is my “drug” of choice.  But during sex it wouldn’t appeal to me.

                        Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on July 26, 2020.
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