Music For Lovemaking

    How often do you use music to set the mood and/or provide ambiance for your lovemaking?

    If you use music what are some of your go to songs?

    Early in our marriage I liked to play Candy Dulfer’s jazz sax instrumental Lily Was Here a lot.  But once we got rid of the stereo from the bedroom (an older double cassette deck/turn table set up that didn’t have home after we got rid of the shelving unit it lived on) regular use of music went bye bye.

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      Chicago songs are our go-to.  Air Supply as well.  Probably dating ourselves, but we like it.  (:

      Twin bed Answered on July 13, 2019.
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        Good question. But we rarely play music for lovemaking. In fact, I can’t remember the last time we did.

        I’ve often thought we were making music together 😉

        Under the stars Answered on July 12, 2019.
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          I find music to be too distracting for sex, and it would make it harder to hear ourselves and each other (which is an erotic aspect of sex for us).

          Hammock Answered on July 12, 2019.
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            I find it helpful for setting the mood with DW who has a LD. Maybe play music 1/2 the time? I would be the one to play the music and will always choose something with out singing or vocals, such as “Indian Chill,” “Jazz Vibes,” or something just super ambient and spacey. I would surely get distracted with music with vocals in it.

            Queen bed Answered on July 12, 2019.
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              “Alexa, play soft classical.”

              King bed Answered on July 12, 2019.
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                We sometimes use music to help Wifey get out of her own head. She’s a sensory person by nature so a song with good sexy vibes helps her feel sexy. I’ve given her homework to write down the songs she likes and I will make a playlist for her.

                California King Answered on July 13, 2019.
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                  We don’t play music during sex, but I have nothing against it. If it enhances your experience, why not?

                  I would recommend against playing a Sousa march. 🙂

                  Queen bed Answered on July 14, 2019.
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                    Our hottest sex was while on vacation in Hawaii for a week. So, now, when we are feeling extra frisky, we turn in a Hawaiian playlist and use floral scented room spray we bought while there. Takes us back there everytime!

                    Twin bed Answered on July 29, 2019.
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                      I remember when we used to play music occasionally it was a bit distracting for me; the instrumentals less so than the songs with lyrics. I think the only way music can TRULY add to my experience is if it could be responsive to what we were doing–Wouldn’t it be cool if someone could invent a device to put under the mattress that would interpret our movements and make the music “move” accordingly. Let a slow build keep building as slowly as I need it to if it’s taking me a while to get there and then drop a crescendo in at the right moment, with plenty of trills and sighs to bring it all (including me) back down to earth. That would be nifty.

                      Under the stars Answered on July 12, 2019.
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                        I might like music but my DW would be distracted and i really need her attention.

                        On the floor Answered on July 12, 2019.
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