Nakedness in the daylight

    I’m sure this applies almost exclusively to the wives as we can really suffer from body image issues due to what the enemy is constantly telling us in how we’re not good enough and the society in addition that expect women to be young/beautiful (even if we’re not to listen to the world), i was thinking about how my favorite season is Spring because of the newness of life, how the year is still before us and especially living in the Pac NW, how i love the increasing daylight and was thinking how if your usual is ML in the daytime, how if you have body images…do you approach this?  Not really any way to dim the lights except to close the curtains and it’s still a far cry from being in the dark.

    Even though i’m not overweight, i do suffer from body issues but since losing weight, allow my husband to see me in daylight but only really in certain positions..i cannot do most of them because of physical limitations but i know how body images affect a woman profoundly and was thinking about the ladies on this forum and what they feel about the increasing daylight and their MB?

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      We’ve been together for almost 57 years, 52 married.  In that time I’d guestimate that 99%  of  times we’ve ML it’s  been during the day or at least with lights on or curtains open.  We’re now both overweight, a problem that we’ve fought all our years together, but our bedroom still has full-length mirrors on the closet doors.  Body image is not going to keep us from enjoying what God gave us. We make the most of each time, knowing that we’re burning the candle down, but we’ll keep going until the last dying ember.

      Queen bed Answered on January 26, 2020.

      That’s wonderful! I am glad i’m blossoming in that way although i probably will never feel enough even though my husband is gaga over me 🙂

      on January 26, 2020.

      Wish we were all that healthy.

      on January 26, 2020.
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        I choose to trust my husband and what he says he feels about me when he looks at me.  I push through my own discomfort and not hide.  The other way, when there is a major emotional disconnect, we don’t have sex in the daylight, or I just disconnect even further, harden up and “not care”.

        Under the stars Answered on January 26, 2020.
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          My favorite season is summer, because SUN! We have very rarely made love in the dark. I need the visual aspect to become aroused. Fortunately, I’ve always had a positive body image.

          Fell out of ... Answered on January 26, 2020.
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            Daylight or darkness doesn’t bother me, either way. We have had lots of sex in the dark, due to having a baby sleep in our room with us. Now its only lights on or in daylight.

            Its only been the last few years, that I have had a positive body image. When we got married, I decided that I would throw all caution to the wind and let DH see all of me on our wedding night. So, even though I didn’t like my body, he always did and therefore, I guess he was rewarded!

            Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on January 27, 2020.
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              Until recently, I have never felt very positive about my body except in brief bursts that fizzled easily. I still don’t really love how it looks naked, but it’s not my highest priority to deal with that at this moment. When we got married, DH had only seen brief glimpses a part or two at a time, but never the entirety naked.

              Regardless, I knew sex would be fun and feel good and I wanted to enjoy it, so when it came time to get naked, I took the Nike approach and just did it. In the early years, I preferred the dark as much as possible, and if we had light, it was never more than candlelight. I also insisted he avoid touching certain spots that were particularly embarrassing (which also happened to be very ticklish, but I suspect that it was ticklish instead of erotic because of my embarrassment.)

              More recently, especially with our sexual renaissance, I have come to be much more comfortable with daylight nakedness. It also helps that we often change clothes together in the bedroom and I’m disorganized and sometimes running around all over the upstairs half-dressed trying to get things together, so it has been almost as much a matter of just too much trouble to remain too uptight about it. Same as I used to be really uptight about dog spit and had to wash my hands whenever I even petted one. Then we got two dogs and that little foible just became far too inconvenient.

              Under the stars Answered on January 27, 2020.

              LOL i would joke about how my Akita probably was absolutely aghast when he saw my naked body coming out of the shower or maybe he thought…mom has no fur!

              on January 27, 2020.

              Ha ha! Our dogs mainly like(d) to stick cold wet noses on bare skin. Who knows? Maybe they are wondering where our fur is! Our surviving dog loves to lick every single inch of us she can reach…constantly! Thus if I still felt the need to wash dog spit off immediately each time, I’d never stop washing! It’s amazing what we can get used to!

              on January 28, 2020.

              The dog licking the body of my feet while we were ML was the strangest feeling ever. But luckily we both laughed.

              Maybe Mom should have left a little fur.lol

              on January 28, 2020.
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                Despite my flaws, my husband would always compliment my positives. I loved him so I believed him enough to think he could enjoy the good parts without being turned off by the bad. When he finally convinced me to take a walk down a clothing optional beach I noticed none of the bodies, men or women were like those in magazines or TV yet still sexy. That people after awhile were not looking at blotch here or bulge there. Then reading how even the sexiest were retouched for magazines I started to feel better about myself.

                They say if you are allergic to something you take a small dose of it and start to adjust. I guess my being nude around others was like that for me. I can better accept my body now because others have seen it and been accepting.

                Double bed Answered on January 26, 2020.

                Nice to hear of your experience on a CO beach.  You quickly realize, everyone has flaws (when compared to how the human body is portrayed in magazines), doesn’t matter if your are a size 2 or 22.

                Concerning retouching of images, there is a very interesting documentary from the UK called Dawn Gets Naked.  She studies various aspects of the human body, from all ends of the spectrum.  In one part, she goes in for a photo shoot.  Hair, make-up, etc.  Then they take her photos and run them through a process she calls digital cosmetic surgery.  It’s quite enlightening about the images we see today.  It’s available on YouTube.  4 part video.  The retouching is in part 3.

                on January 27, 2020.

                And people wonder why women have such problems with self image. Bad enough we need to be skinny, our proportions need to be perfect to match the Barbie Doll type unrealistic looking girls in magazines that aren’t even how they really look.

                Yes being naked and having naked real people around me taught me more lessons than I ever could have imagined. It also taught me how big a range of people can be sexy. Hopefully even me.

                on January 28, 2020.

                100% Agree.  Sorry that on a site that is suppose to be so “open” for sexual discussions, there still our some D.B. that find it necessary to take the time to vote down someones comment.

                on January 29, 2020.

                She was down voted because most married Christians (and really, any other faith) would not find going to a nude beach to be ‘helpful’ or useful.’ That’s the purpose of downvoting.

                on January 30, 2020.
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