Nakedness in the daylight
I’m sure this applies almost exclusively to the wives as we can really suffer from body image issues due to what the enemy is constantly telling us in how we’re not good enough and the society in addition that expect women to be young/beautiful (even if we’re not to listen to the world), i was thinking about how my favorite season is Spring because of the newness of life, how the year is still before us and especially living in the Pac NW, how i love the increasing daylight and was thinking how if your usual is ML in the daytime, how if you have body images…do you approach this? Not really any way to dim the lights except to close the curtains and it’s still a far cry from being in the dark.
Even though i’m not overweight, i do suffer from body issues but since losing weight, allow my husband to see me in daylight but only really in certain positions..i cannot do most of them because of physical limitations but i know how body images affect a woman profoundly and was thinking about the ladies on this forum and what they feel about the increasing daylight and their MB?
We’ve been together for almost 57 years, 52 married. In that time I’d guestimate that 99% of times we’ve ML it’s been during the day or at least with lights on or curtains open. We’re now both overweight, a problem that we’ve fought all our years together, but our bedroom still has full-length mirrors on the closet doors. Body image is not going to keep us from enjoying what God gave us. We make the most of each time, knowing that we’re burning the candle down, but we’ll keep going until the last dying ember.
I choose to trust my husband and what he says he feels about me when he looks at me. I push through my own discomfort and not hide. The other way, when there is a major emotional disconnect, we don’t have sex in the daylight, or I just disconnect even further, harden up and “not care”.
Daylight or darkness doesn’t bother me, either way. We have had lots of sex in the dark, due to having a baby sleep in our room with us. Now its only lights on or in daylight.
Its only been the last few years, that I have had a positive body image. When we got married, I decided that I would throw all caution to the wind and let DH see all of me on our wedding night. So, even though I didn’t like my body, he always did and therefore, I guess he was rewarded!
Until recently, I have never felt very positive about my body except in brief bursts that fizzled easily. I still don’t really love how it looks naked, but it’s not my highest priority to deal with that at this moment. When we got married, DH had only seen brief glimpses a part or two at a time, but never the entirety naked.
Regardless, I knew sex would be fun and feel good and I wanted to enjoy it, so when it came time to get naked, I took the Nike approach and just did it. In the early years, I preferred the dark as much as possible, and if we had light, it was never more than candlelight. I also insisted he avoid touching certain spots that were particularly embarrassing (which also happened to be very ticklish, but I suspect that it was ticklish instead of erotic because of my embarrassment.)
More recently, especially with our sexual renaissance, I have come to be much more comfortable with daylight nakedness. It also helps that we often change clothes together in the bedroom and I’m disorganized and sometimes running around all over the upstairs half-dressed trying to get things together, so it has been almost as much a matter of just too much trouble to remain too uptight about it. Same as I used to be really uptight about dog spit and had to wash my hands whenever I even petted one. Then we got two dogs and that little foible just became far too inconvenient.
Despite my flaws, my husband would always compliment my positives. I loved him so I believed him enough to think he could enjoy the good parts without being turned off by the bad. When he finally convinced me to take a walk down a clothing optional beach I noticed none of the bodies, men or women were like those in magazines or TV yet still sexy. That people after awhile were not looking at blotch here or bulge there. Then reading how even the sexiest were retouched for magazines I started to feel better about myself.
They say if you are allergic to something you take a small dose of it and start to adjust. I guess my being nude around others was like that for me. I can better accept my body now because others have seen it and been accepting.