Negative side effects from tubal ligation?
Some of the medications Wifey is taking or about to start have some serious warnings about not getting pregnant while taking them. We’ve used condoms for years with no unplanned “surprises”, but we’re looking for a more permanent solution and I long for there to be nothing between us, so to speak.
I tried for a vasectomy first. Long story short, the doc couldn’t get everything lined up and I left with severe bruising and no vasectomy. So we’re talking with her OB in a few weeks about tubal ligation. Have any of the good ladies of TMB gone through this and what side effects have you noticed that weren’t advertised?
No tubal-ligation history here, but quick question on the vasectomy:
Have you considered going for a second attempt? Was your first doc a dedicated urologist, or just a general practitioner? Might be worth a second attempt, as the surgery for most people is pretty easy to recover from. Certainly was for me.
Any competent urologist should be able to perform a vasectomy. As the daughter of a surgeon, I can tell you that there are quacks out there who have no business in the medical profession. The stories I’ve heard my father tell….
I would seriously consider finding another board-certified urologist to perform a vasectomy. I watched my husband’s. While the procedure is more complicated than it sounds, there should be no guesswork on the part of the doctor. It sounds like you got someone who didn’t know what he was doing.
Tubal ligations are just risky because it’s a general anesthesia. While generals are mostly safe, you want to avoid them if you can. They take a toll on the body.I
Also, thank you for keeping your wife’s best interests in mind. My husband ‘s vasectomy happened because I was in a similar situation with medication. I was so scared every single month as I waited for my period. It wasn’t good for me.
I would advise you to consider a second attempt at the vasectomy as well. With everything your wife is dealing with already, not only will any kind of surgery add to her challenges, but the emotional ramifications of losing her fertility could throw her for a loop as well. Even women who are absolutely thrilled to have procedures like this (and mine) and have no interest in additional children can face significant psychological processing of the drastic, final, irreversible end of their fertility.
I was never fertile in the first place, but every once in a while catch myself fantasizing about a baby and thinking, “I’m not really too old to start over with parenting, am I?” Then I remember I literally don’t have a womb and I grieve. Even as the other half of my mind is screaming, “OMG of course I am too old to start over with a baby! What am I thinking?! I’ll be lucky if I survive through DD’s graduation!”
Maybe your DW is not like me, but you should make sure.
The doctor was a board certified urologist that had performed plenty before me, and has since done one on a friend with no issues. A little more personal history, I have existing scar tissue from an incident when I was younger that complicates things. Even I can’t find my vas deferens very easily. If I go for a second try I will be under general anesthesia at the hospital and my insurance only covers the procedure in the office.
We haven’t ruled a vasectomy out completely, we’re just looking to explore all of our options and understand the risks associated. We are both on the same page about more children. Wifey had post partem depression with our second and we both don’t want to take that risk again.