Number of Orgasms She Has During Sex?
What is the number of orgasms your wife, or you wives, have during a sexual session, whether intercourse or whatever else you do?
I am not sure what the average is. If my wife does not really get into it or is in a hurry, she may have two or three. She may have between five to ten if she kind of gets into it. I’d guess the average is maybe around four.
When we were newly weds, she could go on and on like the energizer bunny. Once she estimated she had 40 when I was giving her a lot of OS. It took her a couple of weeks of marriage for us to work up to her having orgasms every time. She probably did not have an orgasm until the third or fourth time we had sex. Since those first few weeks of marriage, we’ve probably had sex when she did not have an orgasm a couple of times.
This is a fine question, as many of us here are curious – but answering it might result in some sadness or discouragement through comparison. So, I want to be sensitive to those who struggle to achieve even one or cannot have them consistently. Clearly this varies from woman to woman. And, the definition of what constitutes an O probably also varies, as a single O can come in waves
In our first two decades of marriage, DW had about 2! She always felt aroused and had good sensations. Yet, the O was elusive. But through much learning on my part and perseverance for both of us, and then her awakening – everything changed! 🙂
DW has a minimum of 3 per session. Usually 4 or 5, and sometimes up to 7. But by then she has had enough 🙂
One and done here, too. One time I had 3 and that was about too much. A few times I’ve had 2 and that’s plenty. I really have wondered how some women manage to have so many. One’s enough for me, unless all the stars align and conditions and positions are just right, than 2 is more than enough.
Assuming we have spent the time to really connect and DH has put the effort in to wake my body up with all-over touching and attention, using a vibrator I will almost certainly O, and if I do, I can usually continue for at least 5 to 7. Sometimes, they come easily one after another and sometimes I slide back down the hill and have to climb again. Unlike Zelda, I have to be careful to assess whether I will be able to get all the way up and over the hill or not because if I get almost to the top but not over, I will be frustrated, even if I’ve already had one. Sometimes they just keep coming so easily I just have to stop because it doesn’t seem fair to make DH keep waiting for his turn. I can’t get “almost there” and switch to PIV; the change in sensation is jarring and I lose momentum. I have only O’ed maybe twice from PIV, and it was kind of an accident we don’t know how to repeat. (Other than those other, less intense but somehow deeper ones I’ve mentioned before.) I can only get just almost there from OS, though DH seems to have made it a goal and I am enjoying the effort!
I can hardly ever tell when my wife orgasms because it’s not like the “OH, YES!” moments you see in movies and we’re quiet a lot because of kids. She also doesn’t like to talk about it. She assures me she is very satisfied every session. So, I think she is one of those minority of women that orgasms easily from PIV. I’ve never lasted terribly long, so I’m not 100% sure, but I’m taking her word for it. She is always the first one to say, “Thank you. That was awesome.” after each LM session. So, based on how long I usually last each session, I would say she has 0-1 each session, and probably more when I’m able to last a long time.
In our case, a way to ensure she has at least two Os per session is:
Start with OS on her = 1st O.
Immediately (I mean immediately) after the 1st O. Move to PIV = 2nd O.
If you have good control of yourself (avoiding ejaculation), you will be able to give her a 3rd or 4th one.
About 75% of the time I am just one, 20% of the time a second one, and rarely more than two. I cannot orgasm from PIV to start, so my first orgasm is from OS or manual. Then if we move to PIV, I will sometimes have another. The second and third ones aren’t like the first…they don’t have a climb and then a peak, it’s more like a flash of peak again.
DW usually has one orgasm every time we have sex, and she hasn’t been interested to try for another so far. We’ve had sex again 1, 2 or a few hours later on occasion, and then she has another orgasm, so more than one orgasm a day is definitely possible and pleasurable. It’s been like that for 19 years now.
Usually it’s just one. I’m more than willing to keep going manually or orally for her but most of the time, she’s so turned on, she just want to feel me inside of her. She’s only O’d 1x with PIV. I regularly encourage and ask if she’d like to go for more and on occasion, she’ll say yes, but I think that has more to do with hormones and where she’s at in her flux as a menopausal woman in her beginning 40’s.