October 16, 2020 – QOTD
Walt Disney said, “I think what I want Disneyland to be most of all is a happy place – a place where adults and children can experience together some of the wonders of life, of adventure, and feel better because of it.”
Happy Gilmore had to find his “happy place” to calm down and hit his shot.
Where is your happy place? Where do you go or what do you enjoy doing that helps you feel better because of it/doing that? In a year like 2020, this is critical more than ever. In other words, what are you doing or where do you go to replenish your soul?
- Being with Mrs. OWM, is a special, happy place. I look forward to dates, shopping, going for a walk or drive, watching a movie, etc.
- Spending time listening to Jesus and learning new things when I do a Bible study.
- Taking time to work on my hobby
- Mentoring people
Date night has been one of the key things keeping me steady through this crazy and stressful season. We’ve always been pretty good about regular dates (2-3 times per month). Since Covid we’ve gone on a date almost every week. Sometimes it’s the only time my wife has left the house all week. We get takeout and sit in the car to eat, talk, and enjoy the view (we have several good scenic choices in town). We’ve also gone through lots of lists of questions, which have led to enlightening, and at times challenging, discussions (lately we’ve been using the Intimately Us app for questions because we’ve been through every list we can find online). The time away from our kids, sitting still, talking and laughing has been immensely rejuvenating (and it’s keeping the pilot light of intimacy alive 😉).
This is a hard question, this is my third attempt to answer it, because what once was, isn’t any more. What I have come down to, is I currently don’t have such a place.
At the beginning of the lockdowns, I was listening to a Beth Moore series about “bringing happy back”. Maybe I need to dig into that more. It’s not that I don’t find some happiness in things, it’s the “replenishing” part that I am running short on. I find happiness with my family, but they can be very draining.
This is what brought me joy, and fed my soul, this morning.
-DH poked his head in our bedroom door this morning to see if I was up. Seeing I was awake but still in bed, he gave me a big grin, waved, and shut the door again.
-when I asked DH this question, he told me what brought him joy. Than I informed him that it had fed my soul by him waving to me at the bedroom door. I also said that this one family pet, an outdoor one, brought me joy and fed my soul, by climbing into my lap and sitting there. A bit later, that animal was at the door and DH brought him straight to my lap!😍
On a more regular basis, I’m dreaming of a couple winter hobbies. There’s something about doing detailed work, and seeing things come together, that do great things for me. Even just planning them does wonders for me.
Wow, has this changed for me in the past few months!
My happy place used to be in the forest, preferably while camping or backpacking with friends. That’s out for now. No time. I enjoy long walks, but that is also largely out due to time constraints.
I suppose right now, my happy place is on my couch, watching Dr. Quinn reruns with my daughter while I’m working on a crochet project. She’s the same age that I was when I started watching that show with my mother. I crocheted then, too. It gives me a sense of completing a circle. I miss my mom. She’s high risk, and I’ve only been able to see her once this year from a distance.
Right now, nothing. In the past, I had several interests and hobbies that I always found some relaxation and recharging in. Unfortunately, our house burned down earlier this year and I lost all my tools I used in those hobbies. So since, I haven’t found anything to fill in that gap. Sometimes it was just enjoying a series online or my favorite YouTube channels or something from my movie collection, but all the movies burned up and we have no home internet (just limited cell data) at our temporary home, so escaping with entertainment is a very limited option. I’m hoping that finances will soon allow re-aquiring tools to engage in my former hobbies.
In no particular order
- Golfing. For 4 or 5 hours I am completely absorbed in the seemingly silly task of putting a small white ball into a 4″ diameter hole. It fully engages my mind and body. Additionally, I enjoy the scenery as well as the fresh air.
- Going out to eat with DW and friends. During the pandemic we have only gone to those restaurants that offer outdoor dining. I enjoy the good conversation, fresh air, food, and drink.
- Attending meetings of the ‘Tolkien Society’. As you might guess from the name of this group, we meet (once a month) to discuss one chapter of ‘The Lord of the Rings’. We are currently near the end of ‘The Return of the King’, and in fact when I am done here I have to read my chapter to be prepared for tomorrow’s meeting. LoTR is my favorite novel, and going through it slowly has been amazing. Tolkien’s writing is so beautiful and moving.
- And of course, last, but far from least, spending intimate time with my DW. In the last month or so, we try to spend time naked-cuddling in the morning 5 days a week for at least 30 minutes. We talk about the day ahead, and on most of those days engage in some kind of sexual play. I have found doing this makes the start of the day more ‘mellow’, and in general I am more relaxed.
I play tennis at a club every Monday. The physical excercise and light banter during tennis is like a chill out as I have a few spiritual responsibilities. Over half of them seem to be christians in a secular club. If it is not tennis I walk with DW or on my own and what I have found really enjoyable is decorating a spare room that used to be one of my son’s and was a real mess.
Endurance exercise is my #1, especially running. There’s just something about it–just the path and me. Plenty of runs include the running stroller with one of our younger ones as well as one of our older ones on their bike, and they’re good too. However, nothing really does it like just me, especially if it’s at night or in conditions where no one else is around (actively snowing is the best). Going out for a 45+ min run regenerates my mind and body, making me better at everything I do.