Opinions on doggy style/rear entry

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    Hi everyone, so my husband is really into rear-entry/doggy style position (we often don’t like to call it doggy style but rather rear-entry on all fours), and although I like a variety of sexual positions, I’ve been having a hard time with this one as I feel sort of uninvolved and it doesn’t feel very intimate to me.  Also, I can’t see him.  I know that a lot of people do like this position but I have a difficult time seeing the pleasure of it.  However, I want to find reasons to like it because my husband enjoys it a lot.   So, if you enjoy this position, why do you like it?   What are some ways to make it more enjoyable?

    Double bed Asked on September 22, 2019 in Intercourse (PIV) & Positions.
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      I can only second (or third, I think there were several people who mentioned a mirror) what OML said. This position and a few others is exactly why we got a floor mirror, about 10′ H x 4′ W and put it next to the bed. It’s been great!! One thing you mentioned was how it did not seem intimate. Well, it’s not intimate in the way missionary might be, but I can tell you that many women can have missionary sex and it’s not at all intimate for their DH or vice versa. This is a heart issue.

      I have found over the years that the more positions we try, and it’s especially fun to try several in one session, the more close I feel to DH. It’s not really the positions, it’s the whole act. Sometimes I’m in charge, sometimes DH, sometimes I’m in a more vulnerable position, sometimes DH. Intimacy comes from experiencing levels of pleasure and completeness any and every way we can think of, something we can share with and give to no one but each other.

      Another added bonus of the mirror? DH told me he felt very “large” down there when he viewed it going in and out from a different angle, something I’ve always told him but not something he really believed.  I was sort of surprised by both of our reactions to the mirror, slightly expecting it would cause a little bit of anxiety about what we would see, but I’ve found… we look HOT, 😉 .

      King bed Answered on September 22, 2019.
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        Get a full-length mirror and put it on the opposite side of the bed, facing you both.  You will be able to see each others faces, and he will be able to see your breasts.  That way you can make eye contact during, which is very intimate.

        Hammock Answered on September 22, 2019.
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          Thanks for the answers!  I definitely hadn’t thought of the mirror idea, which might be pretty erotic, and my husband has mentioned that he particularly likes this position because it feels sort of forbidden or “naughty” in a way.   I think part of the reason it is difficult is that I do feel particularly vulnerable, but rear entry has been easy in terms of pain during intercourse (during the first month of marriage, I dealt with a lot of pain during intercourse which has improved with plenty of lube, communication, and experimentation on what positions were the best), except we would be lying side by side and that felt good because we were close.   I definitely think that I will try to stimulate myself more during that position, especially when aroused, and try more movement to be more involved.

          Double bed Answered on September 22, 2019.

          Yes, that position is very animalistic,  which is actually part of the appeal for me.  It feels like being “taken”.  Me counter-thrusting (backing into him with each thrust) makes it even better.

          We did rear entry 98% of the time for the first 35 or so years of our marriage, but then I had both of my knees replaced (old age, arthritis, and 40 years in retail killed them) and I can no longer kneel, even on a soft mattress or pillows.  🙁   My husband had already decided before then that he preferred modified missionary (me on my back at the edge of the bed, him standing), but some days I really miss being able to do rear entry, especially with the mirror involved.

          on September 22, 2019.
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            Rear entry, in any position (reverse cowgirl, both of us standing, just him standing, or on the bed or floor or other furniture) happens a lot for us.  Definitely use mirrors so you can make eye contact and feel more connected.  You might want to have you DH hold a hand mirror or take a short video from his perspective, at least once, so you’ll understand why he likes it so much (you might too!).

            I like that I can adjust the angle and depth by leaning down or raising up on my arms and by the tilt of my hips.  I find that with my breasts hanging down, my nipples get even more sensitive which is always a good thing.  And both of us have easy access to my clitoris, my nipples and other opening  so there’s no shortage of stimulation.

            Fell out of ... Answered on September 23, 2019.
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              I like how thoroughly I can tell my DH is turned on when he takes me from behind. It makes me feel extremely sexy and wanted. We’ve never even tried it with mirrors; none have been conveniently situated thus far in our experience.  Maybe it will work out to try that someday.

              Under the stars Answered on September 23, 2019.
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                I enjoy it because in that position the entrance of my wife’s vagina forms a nice tight ring around my penis and as I move back and forth, it stimulates the frenulum really intensively.

                Your husband might also like it because it gives him a view of his penis inside your vagina. When my wife was heavily pregnant we used to do it a lot and it was a real visual feast.

                If he is visual, your husband might also enjoy the sight of your bum and anus, which is really intimate and a bit “naughty”.

                Queen bed Answered on September 22, 2019.
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                  We enjoy this position when we are ready for it. ‘Ready’ for us is when Mrs. Oldbear is nearly desperate to orgasm. Her heightened desire makes rear entry incredibly pleasurable for us. From this position, my penis reaches her fornix (A-spot) easily. If she is fully aroused, fornix stimulation provides her with pleasurable pain. This position also gives her maximum access to her clitoris and she is incredibly skillful at stimulating herself. It also gives me access to her fully extended breasts. Since she loves me on her breasts and nipples it adds intensity for her in this position. We’ve also found that we can control our orgasm simultaneously, with ease (particularly me), from the rear entry position. Lastly, as we head toward the crest of our Os, we ease forward so that by the end of our Os we are prone; her lying with her breasts on my hands and on her hand providing final massage to her clitoris. It’s a position worth perfecting and enjoying!

                  Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on September 22, 2019.
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                    I agree with OML. Having a mirror in front of you during this position for you to see both yourself and him and be able to make eye contact via the mirror is very erotic.

                    I used to reach around and stimulate my wife’s clitoris during, but she usually does it herself these days. Easier on my shoulder. But I do reach down and fondle her breasts while thrusting, which she enjoys. I talk to her throughout, which helps maintain connection–how much I’m enjoying it, how good her vagina feels, etc. Of course, like others, I really love the view. For you, I’d say try stimulating yourself as I mentioned, and try different angles. Some women find an all-fours position to be most stimulating, others find one that puts their head and shoulders all the way down on the bed to be more stimulating. It has to do with the angle of the penis matching the vagina. Depending on the angle, he can stimulate g-spot or the a-spot (if he can go deep enough and if the angle is right). Hope all that makes sense. Many couples find this to be one of their favorites!

                    California King Answered on September 22, 2019.
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                      I think the others have covered most of the points. Clearly it is a great position!

                      For me it is the tightness of PIV, the sensation of pushing against her buttock, the great feeling on the boys, being able to stimulate her clitoris, having the freedom to cup and play with her dangling boobs, stimulate her nipples, massage her back, etc. We do it in front of a mirror so both of us have good visuals. She is able to push back against me, rock her hips to position us for maximize stimulation inside , raise or lower herself by extending her arms, bending them or resting on a pillow.

                      Under the stars Answered on September 22, 2019.
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                        As a man, it’s definitely my favorite position because of the view. The position is very erotic and sometimes she will slam back into me for extra pleasure. I find it sexy to take control, hold her hips, and use my hands in other spots while in this position. And it’s my wife’s favorite position too.

                        Queen bed Answered on September 22, 2019.
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