Opinions on going silver/gray…

    This is truly a “chit chat” subject, but I would like some opinions….

    What are your thoughts, opinions &/or feelings, on letting your (or your wife’s) hair go gray?

    Does looking older or more aged bother you?  Is there a certain age span it’s appropriate or not appropriate?

    When you see a youngish (40s) woman with gray hair, what is your first thoughts?

    If you have experience from dyeing, to going to your natural gray, what are some benefits &/or downfalls you faced?

     

    If you share your experiences, can you include the age on which you are speaking of.  There’s a difference between someone nearing 70 deciding to be gray versus 40, IMO.

    Under the stars Asked on February 1, 2020 in Chit Chat, Jokes, and More .
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      I color my hair (i’m blonde) but mainly because i was a blonde my entire life until about 4 yrs ago when it started going at least 2 shades darker! Plus my stylist said there were grays and i would rather look younger even though i already look much younger than my age, i would rather stay that way plus i wanted to stay my blonde which would require coloring anyway. My husband likes it that way also and recently he just started really going gray and would like to do Just for Men, LOL.

      On the floor Answered on February 1, 2020.

      Actually my blonde began darkening (just like my mom’s did) before it started greying. The silver lining (pun intended) of greying is that I actually look a lot more blonde again.

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      Silver and grey are really “in” even among young people. I really really do think the key is in well maintained hair. A good cut, a good length for whatever fits you, keep the frizzies under control, use a good shampoo and conditioner and style it if that’s what looks good on you. There are great toners on the market that make silver shine.

      on February 1, 2020.

      I naturally had dark hair. I honestly don’t know what it would look like natural now. Next to the dye line, it seems lighter more than darker, but that could be an illusion. I know my temples are solid white.

      When I look in the mirror, I don’t see “young”, and not wanting to look older has kept me dyeing. So I am not sure why I am considering letting the gray shine… maybe because it is “in”, and so timing is good?

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        My wife has been getting some gray hair since she was in her 20’s, and she chooses to dye it. I have been slow at getting gray hair, and was actually looking for a way to naturally make it go gray sooner because I think gray hair helps to make thinning hair less noticeable on guy, and I think it would make me look more distinguished and intelligent (and I need all the help I can get there). As it turns out, if you want premature gray hair you either have to dye it, or give yourself enough stress to also give you massive ulcers at the same time. I don’t personally consider gray hair to be unattractive at all and wouldn’t care if my wife stopped dying her gray hair out.

        Queen bed Answered on February 1, 2020.

        How old are you guys?

        on February 1, 2020.

        Right about 40 for both of us.

        on February 1, 2020.

        Thanks

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          @SongOf Angels mentioned that “grey is in” for younger people; Mrs. Oldbear mentioned that to me before Christmas. She has always stayed attractive in hairstyle, color tone, and length. Now, in her very early 70s (as am I), she continues to be a ‘head turner’ . . . not just mine!

          In her younger days, her natural hair color was taffy blonde, and she has kept that color with a tasteful tinge to reflect her age. Now her plan (spurred on with the new trend) is to let her hair show more of her beautiful silver grey through the lighter taffy blonde. I’m all for it – she’s stunning now and will continue to be. The main reason is that she has a knack for elegantly looking her age.

          My darker blonde hair is now a silver grey and much thinner than my youthful thick, wavy hair.  Color it? Never crossed my mind!  It wouldn’t match-up with who I am and how I look and carry myself.

          Personal opinion – ladies embrace your naturally greying (silvery) hair with confidence!

          Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on February 1, 2020.
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            I am grey and receding and thinking about getting little rabbit tattoos in the bare patches. You know ……… because from a distance they look like hares! 🤣 🤣

            Ah …….. dad jokes …….. crack me up every time.

            Speaking of on trend grey last time I saw my mother – who is close to 80 and I assume grey –  she seemed to have her hair dyed that deliberate modern grey over her dark dye over natural grey. Seemed like a lot of trouble to go to.

            Queen bed Answered on February 2, 2020.
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              We are in our 60’s. I started going gray in my 40’s.  DW still has very little gray hair.

              DW never indicated she had a problem with my gray hair, and frankly coloring it was never something I ever considered doing. And, I am still not completely gray. I take good care of myself physically, often turning the heads of younger women at the gym.

              I love DW’s hair color.  I find the few streaks of gray she has now attractive.  I will hate it if she ever goes totally gray, but we are into natural — both in appearance and minimal chemical exposure, so she isn’t going to color routinely. Plus it would be difficult to get her to look natural if she colored.  Might try it once in a while though.  She also takes great care of herself — everyone thinks I robbed the cradle. That is way more important to me than her hair color.  I find gray hair attractive in other women.

              The hair on both of us that really matters has hardly grayed at all — our public hair :lol:.

              PS.  Try taking 2 or 3 mg of copper per day. It might slow or even reverse your graying a bit.

              Queen bed Answered on February 2, 2020.
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                We are both in our late 60’s. My beloved wife has her hair colored at a salon and I love the results. I am certain that she would be mostly gray were it not for her hair stylist. I will love her the same if she doesn’t  have her hair colored.

                I will admit that I colored my hair for about a dozen years, a pure vanity thing! I stopped about 8 years ago. I’m mostly gray now along with with a lot of white in my mustache and goatee.

                On a lighter note, neither us us have any gray or white pubic hairs, ha!!

                King bed Answered on February 2, 2020.
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                  For me, as a man, I don’t give a hoot about being in the process of going gray. My wife is a bit more concerned with some gray showing, but I’ve told her it looks hot to me.

                  California King Answered on February 2, 2020.
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                    Wifey started going gray in her early 20s. Her grandmother was completely white by the time she was 40, and Wifey is following the genetic trend. She colored it for a few years, but in the last 2 has embraced the gray. She’s about 50-60% gray now. There’s a Facebook page called “gray and proud” that she follows for encouragement.

                    My perspective is that I’d rather see her in all of her natural God-given glory than have her hair covered up. I’m the same way about makeup.

                    California King Answered on February 2, 2020.
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                      There is a double standard. Men are said to look distinguished when they have gray hair. And then there’s the ‘Silver Fox’ thing.

                      I also don’t get the aging gracefully thing. I’d rather be kicking and screaming. And I don’t want my obit to say I died gracefully because I doubt it will be by candlelight with someone playing Mozart on the piano.

                      On the floor Answered on February 2, 2020.
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                        I am my wife’s hair colorer… that one way I serve her, so for. now, we’ll keep coloring her hair. We are planning on hiking the Appalachian Trail in 4 years… that will be the no hair coloring beginning

                        On the floor Answered on February 2, 2020.
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