Orgasm for DW during refractory period
Usually, I get her there with oral. I know, it’s easy not to be into it so much at first after my orgasm, and would be willing to just roll over and take a nice nap,. I just go for it, and get past it, and it doesn’t take long until I am into getting her there. That’s helped along with her having a good time!
I rarely finish before my wife, but if I do, we usually use a vibrator on her. I used to give her oral, but several years ago, she didn’t want to do oral anymore at all, giving or getting.
I try to always make sure she has an orgasm first though, if she wants one.
DH usually makes sure I get as many as I want first, but if he goes first, one of us uses the vibrator on me to my satisfaction. I admit, I could wish he were able to muster a bit more enthusiasm for it when that happens. He often seems really bored, though he claims he is not. Sometimes I decide I’d just rather keep the good feelings of the intercourse and not worry about chasing an O.
She normally has one or more orgasms during PIV, ( I think, anyway ) but will frequently want more after I finish, so after a brief interval to catch my breath, I provide MS to her clitoris to provide that one more orgasm for her. She says the PIV and MS are ‘different’ types of orgasms and the two provide a complete experience for her.
I use the same kind of reasoning when requesting more variety in the MB, but haven’t made progress in that area.
It’s a choice to serve. What should you do? SERVE HER!!!
Don’t be a selfish lover. Be a generous one. Give her a reason to come back for more…and so that she’ll want to be a generous one as well and not be resentful that you’re getting there but she isn’t as much and feel like you’re using her. Unless it’s a quickie, I usually make sure that my wife gets there first (if she can – sometimes hormones inhibit it) and then it’s my turn. BUT if I get there first, I’m gonna try my best to help her along after before we’ll rest in each other’s arms (time and situation allowing).
What helps us is solo (in the presence of each other) masturbation. More often it’s Mrs. Oldbear enjoying my masturbation, although there are times (in my elder years) when it’s just for her. Giving yourself to your spouse for their pleasure (without your own orgasm) can help, particularly a husband, to fully engage and enjoy the process of bringing one’s wife to her orgasm during his refractory time.