Overcoming my aversion

    I’m curious about trying oral sex, and hope that it might be another and maybe better way of pleasuring my wife. But I’ve got an aversion to it. I don’t know exactly why I’ve got the aversion, maybe just a thought that it’ll smell bad, or taste bad, or just something totally irrational about putting my mouth on her genitals, or vice versa. Has anyone tried to overcome an aversion to OS, and if so, how did you succeed?

    Queen bed Asked on October 29, 2019 in Oral Sex.
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      First of all my husband and i always take a shower before sex which ensures cleanliness of course and usually there really isn’t any smell, second of all how i overcame the aversion is just to DO IT. Third of all, although i don’t enjoy the taste of semen or the amount of it, i approach it with a good and positive attitude which is amazingly helpful!

      On the floor Answered on October 29, 2019.
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        I agree, make sure she is freshly washed. I do think that there could be a smell, but hopefully it won’t be off putting. I can smell myself on my husband when he comes up and kisses me after OS.

        Have you ever fingered her and smelled or tasted your fingers? I would suggest to start there. If you can get a taste of her from your fingers, it can help you overcome that fear. I had to push myself to actually taste myself, and it really didn’t have a strong taste.

        Under the stars Answered on October 29, 2019.

        Well, yes I have, but not very often. She needs a lot of foreplay to get aroused, so my fingers always pick up some of whatever is in there. And I’ve tasted it. I think I’ll try doing that more often to get used to the idea.

        on October 29, 2019.

        Additionally, you might try tasting and smelling her (or whatever is on your fingers) immediately post orgasm (yours) when your pleasure hormones are at their height, and your brain will create memory pathways that link the scent to your feelings of pleasure thus (hopefully) helping to overcome your aversion.

        on November 4, 2019.
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          I’ve never had an aversion to it. Mrs. OWM wouldn’t allow me to do it freely for several years. But, when I finally convinced her that I really wanted to, that it would very likely be enjoyable, many others are doing it, and that if she had showered, there was virtually no taste or odor, she let me try. Now she is very pleased that she made that decision! When I suck her clit, I find there is no taste nor odor. Even when I venture near and into her v, there is virtually no taste. She too has found this out by taking me into her mouth after doing PIV. So, take the dive!

          Under the stars Answered on October 29, 2019.
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            The best way to proceed is forget everything negative you have ever heard about the scent of a woman, especially the crude and funny but factually incorrect jokes that include words like “fish” and “feminine deodorant.”

            Healthy women will have a scent and flavor, but it is in no way distasteful. To the contrary, it is designed by God to taste good, smell good, and arouse you.  It is LOADED with pheromones :-).  See
            https://eroticsongofsolomon.blogspot.com/2018/06/song-ofsolomon-4-1-you-mylove-are.html
            This translation uses proper body part names instead of the metaphors.

            My wife always has a scent there, even when fresh out of the shower. Very mild, but definately there. I think I have a better sense of smell than most guys. We like to wait an hour or so after her shower to give the scent time to build. I love to give her oral sex after she has been exercising, when the scent is the strongest.  She is hesitant let  me give her oral sex then, but allows me to occasionally because I enjoy it so much.  That whole area is self-cleaning, like your eye.  I have never tasted or smelled anything remotely unpleasant or  urine-like.

            I wouldn’t worry about whether she is trimmed/shaved or not.  Pubic hair does seem to collect the aroma.  DW prefers to be squeaky-clean, so she will wash her labia but not the hair.  If she washes the hair too, the aroma is not nearly as intense.  There is plenty of hairless space around her clitoris, vagina, and between her labia that I rarely get hair in my mouth (no big deal if I do).  Feeling her hair on my cheeks and nose is one of the best parts of cunnilingus for me.

            Anyway, try just putting your face in her love garden, closing your eyes, and experiencing being close to it.  My bet is that you will be pleasantly surprised and want more.  Assuming your wife doesn’t have any hangups about her vulva, she will enjoy it very much too!

            Queen bed Answered on October 30, 2019.
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              never really had an aversion to it–I think both my DW and I just saw it as a natural thing that couples would want to do, so we just did it. Like others here have mentioned, we have always kept clean and it’s always best to do it when you’re freshly showered, of course. If the receiving person is healthy and recently bathed, there shouldn’t be more odor than a faint “musk” scent. And that can be thought of as the exciting scent of arousal, like a perfume or a cologne, rather than something “dirty.”

              California King Answered on October 29, 2019.
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                As someone suggested, fingering and tasting her that way would be one idea. I’d also suggest trying to other things: 1) read SHE COMES FIRST and 2) maybe if you’re afraid of the taste or smell (besides freshly showering), how about getting some flavored lube/massage oil that you’d enjoy and use that on her as well.

                For what it’s worth, I’ll also mention that I prefer my wife to be trimmed and not running wild down south because I don’t like getting a lot of hair in my mouth and if I’m using my hands to hold back some hair, they are unavailable for other uses.  Also, by running wild & bushy, the hair can collect smells.

                As George mentioned, a little smell reminds me of her womanhood and is enjoyable for me.

                On the floor Answered on October 30, 2019.

                Nice mention on the trimming. Not only does that make it easier on the man, but at least for DW, she also find herself more attractive that way and is more open to OS then.

                on October 30, 2019.
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                  A big reason my wife won’t let me go down on her is that she can smell herself when I kiss her. She’s never given it enough of a chance to see if she actually enjoys it, much to my disappointment.

                  Fell out of ... Answered on October 29, 2019.

                  For me, I equated any kind of smell to being “dirty”. That takes work and knowledge to get over and change ones thinking.

                  on October 29, 2019.

                  My wife is grossed out by the fluids from both of us. Ironic because blood doesn’t gross her out, and she’s always teasing me for being squeamish about blood/injuries. To each their own I guess. I’d love if OS were part of our repertoire, but I’m quite satisfied without it. No need to force the issue when everything else is great!

                  on October 29, 2019.

                  I used to not like tasting or smelling myself on my husband when he kissed me, but it helped when he would kiss my thigh or tummy afterward and discreetly wipe what he could off of his face and back onto my body through kissing.

                  on November 4, 2019.
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                    We did OS before doing PIV, so I don’t have direct experience. Like SoA said, we just did it. She was NOT freshly showered, so I pulled back some and made a face, which certainly made her embarrassed and self conscious. If you do it, work to only show and say positive things. At this point, OS on her is my second favorite thing behind PIV.
                    One thing you can try for acclimating yourself is to taste some of her natural lube during PIV (though artificial lube will mess with the taste if present, and unless flavored will taste way worse). I have found it highly erotic to just wipe some my wife’s lube off my penis using my finger and then lick it. Note that even this is not perfect, as much of OS should be focused on the clit.
                    However you choose to try, make sure you are highly aroused, as that will lower inhibitions. Also, don’t expect success your first time, as it takes some time to learn (and she will need to tell you what feels good!) Aside from a vibrator, OS is the most physical pleasure my wife can get. It is a deeply intimate way to bless her, I just wish she’d permit it more. All that said, I have heard that some wives simply don’t like it.

                    On the floor Answered on October 29, 2019.
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                      DW never allows any kisses after I give her OS. In fact, she doesn’t like me to give her OS any more. She used to really like it but now she prefers my fingers to do the walking instead of my lips and tongue. Oh for the days when we experienced more fun. Go for it! Give it a try and think of it as a way to really show your DW how much you really love her and enjoy her….every inch of her.

                      Twin bed Answered on November 4, 2019.
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