Part 2- Cunnilingus: What can a wife do to make it better, 1) for her husband, and/or 2) for herself?

    This is Part 2 to the question to the husbands.

    This is for men and women to answer.  It’s really about tips and ideas, from both perspectives.

    Under the stars Asked on January 27, 2020 in Oral Sex.

    Guide his head.

    Hold your lips open so his tongue can hit your clit better.

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    Marge, why are you posting solely in the comments section? Are you getting weary with the down votes? Please consider why you are getting them so you can participate better and more fully on the forum.

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      • As was said, relax. But more than that,
      • give feedback with groans, words, sounds, thrusting, etc.
      • Allow full access and freedom
      • Don’t rush it. Allow time for various stages and levels of arousal
      • Find a comfortable position for both
      • If your breasts and nipples have a good clitoral connection – stimulate them while he is busy down there!
      • Be expressive in your appreciation
      • Squeeze his head between her legs
      • If you are able to FE, don’t hold back
      • Ask for more! Often 😀
      Under the stars Answered on January 27, 2020.
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        Ok…so first!..stay in the moment and stop thinking about this question while your laying there! LOL

        And not just stay in the moment, but LIVE in the moment, get into it with him. Don’t be afraid to grab the back of his head and help him find the good spots! Tell him how it feels, be vocal, and show it by letting your body move to what you feel.

        On the floor Answered on January 27, 2020.

        “stay in the moment and stop thinking about this question while your laying there! LOL”

        ROTFL!

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          Just relax and let him pleasure you without thinking “its taking too long”,  “He is doing this so I have to do him”.

          Let your husband pleasure you!

          Fell out of ... Answered on January 27, 2020.
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            Pretty well covered already, but to add, (most) of us DH’s want to do it for our DW’s, as well as enjoy it, and we feel a great sense of accomplishment when we get her to the big O.

            It’s not dirty, naughty, or taboo. It’s perfectly normal.

            So, lay back, and enjoy the ride! Tell us what is good, and not so good, when we are down there. Pointers and instructions gladly accepted, and followed, Ask for it. We like that! (a lot)

            Queen bed Answered on January 27, 2020.

            “It’s not “naughty” but I don’t think it’s just “normal” either.  I am guessing it’s more like exploring an island that says “no trespassing” but you know you have been invited in, when no other has, rather than exploring the neighborhood park.  There’s a thrill to the mystery of it being a “secret place”… a place that no other gets to explore.  Even if a woman was walking around nude, no other gets to actually see it and explore it, like a husband can in the moments of OS.  It is for him, and him alone…. that’s not “normal”.   It’s not “naughty”, but there’s a thrill of going to a private place no other can go.

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              From a man: ladies, vocalize…gently direct & encourage…don’t rush…please relax & receive this gift…if you can, look each other in the eyes when possible. If you’re concerned about cleanliness or odor, keep baby wipes by the bed for a quick clean up before OS or offer to take a quick shower alone or if possible, together.

              Personally, I enjoy using my hands and fingers for various types of play and ways to heighten the experience and I also enjoy my wife using her hands to touch herself and myself.

              On the floor Answered on January 27, 2020.

              That’s what my husband does, he’ll put my hands “there” and encourage me to use my toy.

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                I can’t pick out one thing and recommend it as a way to enhance the experience. Actually my recommendation would be to experiment and try everything you can think of(not all at once).

                It is probaly the one act that allows the most variety. Who is on top? Which way are they facing, etc. What part of the anatomy is focused on,(clitoris, labia, mons, etc. Is there penetration, fingers or other? What is being penetrated (vagina or anus)?

                Last but not least, it doesn’t have to be serious. In fact, it is supposed to be fun, and a lot of the responses seem to make it almost a religious experience. Treat it more like a carnival ride..

                Fell out of ... Answered on January 28, 2020.

                What!? You mean I am not laying myself on the altar (bed) as a sacrifice!?!

                I get your point… the fun and enjoyment can get some of us out of our head so we can “live” it, and can keep the too intense emotions at bay for us emotional avoiders 😉 .  But, I can also understand, somewhat, why others make it “almost a religious experience”,  I have a spouse who is almost worshipful about it, plus there is something innately spiritual about it, but that is true while having fun too.

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                  I’ve been thinking about my DH’s neck and the angle he has to maintain for it and thinking maybe it’s time to invest in one of those ramp pillows or something. I would definitely have to clear some clutter out to make room for one, but since my DH doesn’t give me much feedback, that’s really the only thing I can think of to make it better for him.

                  Under the stars Answered on January 27, 2020.

                  Or get a stool for him to sit on at the side of the bed. 😉

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                  I like it when DW gets on top…then my neck doesn’t hurt and I have better access to her breasts..She can also control depth with her legs and at times has even got her hips grinding against my tounge

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                  @SC–The stool could work, but only if we figure out somewhere for me to prop my legs, lol! I don’t do hanging off the side well! 😀

                  @AI–If you mean straddling the face, gravity does bad things in that instance and worries me about presenting him with a little too much of me at once, lol! If 69, we do like 69, but the length of our torsos are disparate enough that for me to reach him, he has a hard time reaching me. 🙁

                  Good ideas, though.

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                  There are these straps/restraints, that can rest behind your knees/thighs and it goes around your neck, and it holds your legs up for you. It’s much more comfortable than having to hold your legs up by your own effort.

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                    @Doug…If I treat it like a carnival ride…someone is throwing up!! LOL!!

                    On the floor Answered on January 28, 2020.

                    ROTFL!!!

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