“Perfect” intimacy? A question for wives.
Wives, I’m curious as to how you would describe a perfect or near perfect intimate encounter with your husband. What are the circumstances, the surroundings, the place, the time? How do the two of you connect? What does he do to you and for you that makes this encounter so special? What do you do to him and for him? Are there special items – clothes, jewelry, furniture, candles, flowers, oils, etc. that increase the intimacy for each of you? Anything else that makes this encounter so special? Maybe this is something you’ve already experienced or maybe it’s still an aspiration.
Thanks for sharing.
When you say “intimate encounter” I am assuming you mean a sexual encounter? My favorite ones have been when there are no walls between us, we are playful, I feel confident, and we laugh….laughing together is the best.
But to take your question literally, an intimate (to know and be known) encounter, have been in the midst of conflict and working through tough situations between us. These are not “perfect” and in many ways I wish we could avoid them, but we always come out of these times knowing the other and being know better. Walls are torn down and true intimacy has been experienced. Conflict handled wisely is actually a very good thing in relationships, because intimacy is had.
I don’t need jewelry or oils, lingerie or fancy dinners. I just need his full attention, and for him to set his mind and attention on pleasing me. I pour a lot into making intimacy everything that he desires, and in a perfect scenario we’d both be filling one another’s cup. That’s all that I see as perfection.