Pillow under DW during PIV?
I hear a lot about using a pillow or wedge under DW during PIV…
Is that common? How many of you do that?
Where do you put it? Under the butt or under the small of her back?
What is the benefit/difference (for both spouses) between nothing/under the butt/under the small of her back?
Yes, we do under the butt for lift/tilt of her pelvis sometimes when on the bed. We also have Liberator shapes for usage too. Dear wife may also choose to use a pillow if I’m bending her over the bed and coming in from behind. (That or a Liberator doggie-style belt is really her favorite toy because of the “different pressure she feels” and the deeper penetration I can create.) The tilt and penetration angle is basically the same effect if you or DW hold her legs back or put them above her head while on her back. With a pillow/wedge, the extra effort isn’t needed because the pillow/wedge under the butt create the angle and hold it for a couple.
A pillow under the butt vs back has to do with the penetration angle and internal stimulation. While I do enjoy it, I think it’s more pleasure able for my wife.
We use pillows on occasion. It’s typically placed under my hips so that it tilts my pelvis at a different angle. This typically creates a deeper penetration. It can be used for easier access for him, whether it’s for OS, “playing/exploring” or for PIV. A common time to use it for us is when he is standing at the edge of the bed and I am lying on my back…. again it changes the angle, and in that situation it raises my pelvis a little higher to accommodate his height.
We have used pillows and/or a wedge for a long time. I think in every position except side of the bed (Butterfly) and WOT…and we’ve even tried them in both of those positions.
As NWNL stated, penetration angle can be important. Another thing is the spousal comfort level. Zelda finds that pillows and especially the wedge can reduce strain on the back, be softer on the butt, prevent breasts slapping together or on something else, etc. In some cases with the wedge, she’s opted for increased comfort at the expense of a slightly worse (re: pleasure) penetration angle because she knows we’re going to be at it for potentially a long time.
At this point, our wedge is pretty much assumed to be involved with every LM session.
Pillows don’t really work for us because DW says it arches her back uncomfortably but a bit of elevation can be a lot of fun.
We found two things that work. A folded duvet that DW lies on so that her whole body above the hip is raised by 2 or 3 inches allows really good access to her vulva without me bending my neck, so it’s very nice for long sessions of oral play.
The other thing is making the whole bed higher (which can be done by using two mattresses) and DW lying on the bed and me standing in front so that our hips are at the same height. This is great for visual pleasure as when we do PIV I can see my penis moving inside her. I can also rub her clitoris with the head of my penis. Sometimes we carry on all the way like this and I finish on her vulva. If you are a visual type like me, you’ll love that.
Well… We tried a pillow under DW’s butt last night… It backfired completely and was not appreciated by DW to the extent that she didn’t want to continue our LM… She said she felt vulnerable, exposed and on display… Maybe we may try it again after some time, but for now it was a failure…
Way to go on trying! I can understand why she feels exposed, because there IS a reason we use it for OS and for “play/exploring”, it exposes and makes easier access. It would be interesting to know how you used it…but I don’t want to make you uncomfortable with asking for details to be shared. When we use it in a more missionary like position, it does make it where my legs need to come up, but because his body is coming forward over mine, he “covers” that “exposure”, and the angle is the sole purpose.