Pillow under DW during PIV?


    I hear a lot about using a pillow or wedge under DW during PIV…

    Is that common? How many of you do that?

    Where do you put it? Under the butt or under the small of her back?

    What is the benefit/difference (for both spouses) between nothing/under the butt/under the small of her back?


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      Yes, we do under the butt for lift/tilt of her pelvis sometimes when on the bed. We also have Liberator shapes for usage too. Dear wife may also choose to use a pillow if I’m bending her over the bed and coming in from behind. (That or a Liberator doggie-style belt is really her favorite toy because of the “different pressure she feels” and the deeper penetration I can create.) The tilt and penetration angle is basically the same effect if you or DW hold her legs back or put them above her head while on her back. With a pillow/wedge, the extra effort isn’t needed because the pillow/wedge under the butt create the angle and hold it for a couple.

      A pillow under the butt vs back has to do with the penetration angle and internal stimulation. While I do enjoy it, I think it’s more pleasure able for my wife.

      Under the stars Answered on July 13, 2020.
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        We use pillows on occasion.   It’s typically placed under my hips so that it tilts my pelvis at a different angle.  This typically creates a deeper penetration.  It can be used for easier access for him, whether it’s for OS, “playing/exploring” or for PIV.  A common time to use it for us is when he is standing at the edge of the bed and I am lying on my back…. again it changes the angle, and in that situation it raises my pelvis a little higher to accommodate his height.

        Under the stars Answered on July 13, 2020.
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          We have used pillows and/or a wedge for a long time. I think in every position except side of the bed (Butterfly) and WOT…and we’ve even tried them in both of those positions.

          As NWNL stated, penetration angle can be important. Another thing is the spousal comfort level. Zelda finds that pillows and especially the wedge can reduce strain on the back, be softer on the butt, prevent breasts slapping together or on something else, etc. In some cases with the wedge, she’s opted for increased comfort at the expense of a slightly worse (re: pleasure) penetration angle because she knows we’re going to be at it for potentially a long time.

          At this point, our wedge is pretty much assumed to be involved with every LM session.


          Under the stars Answered on July 13, 2020.
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            We use a pillow under her backside quite often. It improves the angle!

            Hammock Answered on July 13, 2020.
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              We used to do this, but haven’t for a long time. I think it made PIV easier and more pleasurable. Thanks for the suggestion. I think we’ll try this again soon.

              Under the stars Answered on July 13, 2020.
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                Pillows don’t really work for us because DW says it arches her back uncomfortably but a bit of elevation can be a lot of fun.

                We found two things that work. A folded duvet that DW lies on so that her whole body above the hip is raised by 2 or 3 inches allows really good access to her vulva without me bending my neck, so it’s very nice for long sessions of oral play.

                The other thing is making the whole bed higher (which can be done by using two mattresses) and DW lying on the bed and me standing in front so that our hips are at the same height. This is great for visual pleasure as when we do PIV I can see my penis moving inside her. I can also rub her clitoris with the head of my penis. Sometimes we carry on all the way like this and I finish on her vulva. If you are a visual type like me, you’ll love that.

                Fell out of ... Answered on July 13, 2020.
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                  We do that when DH is on top.  I put my feet by my ears, or over his shoulders.  The modified angle allows for perfect G spot stimulation.

                  The only time I have ever O’ed was when we first tried the pillow technique.

                  Good luck!  🙂

                  King bed Answered on July 13, 2020.
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                    We have found that soft, flat pillows really don’t help much. Sure they are good for comfort and such, but folded blankets also help. We have never bought any furniture for this.

                    Under the stars Answered on July 13, 2020.
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                      Well… We tried a pillow under DW’s butt last night… It backfired completely and was not appreciated by DW to the extent that she didn’t want to continue our LM… She said she felt vulnerable, exposed and on display… Maybe we may try it again after some time, but for now it was a failure…

                      Hammock Answered on July 14, 2020.

                      Well, congrats on trying! I’m sorry it didn’t work out as planned. Any idea why she felt the way she did? Would it help if the lights were very dim or completely off?

                      (Edited: typo)

                      on July 14, 2020.
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                        Way to go on trying! I can understand why she feels exposed, because there IS a reason we use it for OS and for “play/exploring”, it exposes and makes easier access. It would be interesting to know how you used it…but I don’t want to make you uncomfortable with asking for details to be shared. When we use it in a more missionary like position, it does make it where my legs need to come up, but because his body is coming forward over mine, he “covers” that “exposure”, and the angle is the sole purpose.

                        Under the stars Answered on July 14, 2020.

                        I have no problem sharing information, I just don’t know how explicit I can be without getting moderated or thrown out… I’ll try and see what happens…

                        We used a rather firm pillow first under DW’s butt while she was on her back for some OS and then she turned around on her front and I performed some manual stim and also a bit of PIV from behind.

                        I think it was mostly the OS part that killed her arousal/desire as she felt exposed in that position… Then the rest didn’t work out very well either, so we called it a night and went to sleep instead…


                        on July 15, 2020.

                        Dc9, was she fully aroused or did you just start with OS? Did you or she stimulate her breasts or another part while giving OS? Even a vibrator can be used for external stimulation on breasts and such while giving OS.

                        DW usually doesn’t care for OS when shes not aroused, especially if she can’t see me, my eyes or what I’m doing because she’s just flat on her back. So very rarely do I go there without a head start/help of some kind…unless on occasion, it’s just for me to quickly express my love for her vulva and I know it’s just a minute or two of enjoyment because of time constraints.  BUT if she is aroused, it’s enjoyable when I initiate and DW will at times, ask for it, even to finish with an O.

                        on July 16, 2020.
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