Place for more intimate back and forth?
After seeing how the “new site” works, with the question – answer format, it seems it is not designed to be conducive to a discussion format. That’s fine. But where would one go if they didn’t have a specific question but sought more of a running dialogue on a subject?
I’ll be an outlier and say that, even though it isn’t designed for intimate/deep discussion, this board could still be utilized that way. There is nothing keeping us from keeping threads “alive” days, weeks, or even months after they’re originally posted. If one doesn’t “unfollow” a thread they’ve participated in, they’ll receive an e-mail notification of any new answers. Even if they have “unfollowed” it, the new answer will show up under “latest answers”, and we could always “poke” someone with a PM if they seem to have missed it, and this is especially true for comments. Honestly, doing those “pokes” might be a better way to get to know people, as I don’t PM with many here at all.
Personally, the above is what I would like to see happen. I’m the type that can and does sit around and process things for extended times and eventually want to go back to throw in some more thoughts. The two things holding me back are (1) time available to me, and (2) I’m wary of seeming like the sole weirdo that goes and answers/comments on a bunch of old topics.
The poorly designed comment system, the weak phone interface, and the bugs notwithstanding, this system is adequate enough to work in said capacity. Now, I really would like to see a “group PM” option, but I have my doubts that will happen.
Just my two cents as someone who didn’t use the old boards.
Ya, I have also wished we could keep some of those older threads ongoing. I am on a phone, so I can’t just click on latest answers. I do unfollow many threads, except for the ones that I have started, as our daughter occasionally uses my phone. And I don’t want to have a pile of emails to delete before she emails a friend.
One way to keep up with threads you have participated in and check for comments is to go to your own profile page and click on your answers from there (as a way of uniformly remembering all that you have answered lately). The only problem is the tendency to get that Oops, 404 message if you go back too many pages.
I like this format (without having experienced the old one) because some message boards I have considered joining were so complicated to figure out what was being talked about that I just gave up. This feels accessible and friendly; like a real conversation among friends. (So much so that at times I forget I don’t actually know you all!)
“The two things holding me back are (1) time available to me, and (2) I’m wary of seeming like the sole weirdo that goes and answers/comments on a bunch of old topics.”
LOL! Maybe you are a “weirdo”!?! Just do it! There are always some who are deeper thinkers and are slower at processing, they may join in as well. Also, there are always new people, so when you bring a thread back up, it my encourage the newer folks to answer the question for the first time.
I am thankful we have this place to join and be a part of, it is far better than having nothing.
@SC: I’m definitely a weirdo! Maybe I’ll give it a go and people can scratch their heads at what I’m doing.
@Brynna: Try bookmarking this link: https://qna.themarriagebed.com/latest-answers/ That’s not a “click”, but easy enough to see (and I believe longer than the latest-answer list on the side bar of computers). Finally, can you have an e-mail filter pick up all your QNA e-mails and deposit them into some folder that’s not your inbox so that they never touch your inbox?