Planning an evening for DH

    It’s a very busy week here at our house.  We are both working, then have other commitments at church.  I am already looking forward to one evening when neither of us has to be anywhere and we can be together.  *sigh*

    I have plans for the evening in….including him coming home to me just in my apron…dinner made, and music playing.  Then a bath for him, and cuddle/snuggle time together on the floor in front of the fire place…and we will see where it leads from there.

    Being intentional (making plans for us to be together and make love) is fun!  I’m looking forward to blessing him and loving on him.

    What are other ways you are intentional for your spouse?

    Uh…wow. Fantastic! Wish my wife would do something similar. I heard a pastor say once; “what do men want? Show up naked, bring food.”

    on September 22, 2020.
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      To answer your question, “What are other ways you are intentional for your spouse?”

      I have to be intentional about almost everything, because it seems nothing that promotes “togetherness” comes natural for me.

      I have to be intentional with….

      … greeting and saying goodbyes with a kiss.

      … letting him touch me and show me affection.

      … putting what I am doing down or aside, so he feels I am present and listening to him.

      …. keep my mouth shut about things that come to mind before or during sex.

      … letting him see me naked as I change, getting in or out of the shower, for sex, etc.

      … asking him how he feels and what he wants, especially sexually.

      … going to bed early enough, so that we have time together.

      With more fun stuff… I have been intentional with surprises, like…

      … flashing him unexpectedly while he’s working around the house.

      … fondling him unexpectedly in public private way.

      … going pantiless under a skirt/dress.

      … planning a place and time for sex while “parking”.

      … a big night of a striptease.

      … washing his feet, naked. (Not so fun, but very symbolic and sentimental.)

      … play/experimental nights, where he gets to pretty much do what he wants with me.

      … initiating sex.

      … sending him some sexully suggestive, or nude, messages when apart.

      … jumping in the shower with him, washing him, and going down.

      I know there’s more, but that’s a start and gives ideas

      Under the stars Answered on September 22, 2020.

      Yes, Yes, Yes!!!

       

      on September 22, 2020.
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        Uhmmm….seeing me in an apron OR underwear alone wouldn’t be a sight DW (or anyone else for that matter) would want to see!  DW is not that visual and me doing a strip tease just makes her laugh (which is a pretty good aphrodisiac BTW).

        Now if I planned a date, got rid of the kids, made a meal, did some projects around the house that she’s wanted done or cleaned and vacuumed, that would get her motor running. I will also send texts during the day, get gas in her car, buy flowers on occasion for “no reason”, call during the day, we intentionally kiss longer hellos and goodbye (not a peck). We will both intentionally cuddle, touch privates in tender moments of affection, shower together, DW is great about loving on my penis (without sex).

        I think what you’re planning is awesome! Way to go! I celebrate you and what you’re doing. DW did that for me a few months ago with some lingerie & making dinner when I came home for work! LOVE LOVE LOVE!!!

        Under the stars Answered on September 22, 2020.
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          I can barely imagine such. But I do know we would not make it out of the kitchen….and dinner might need warmed back up.

          Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on September 22, 2020.
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            Wow!  What a treat.  Will he be surprised?

            On the floor Answered on September 22, 2020.
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              Sounds like you have all the bases covered from getting to first base and then scoring. Not sure what advice we could add, just encouragement. I think he’ll be both surprised as JLoydH said, but excited. Way to WOW your man. Without the details, let us know how it was received.

              Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on September 22, 2020.
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                That will be an awesome treat for him! I have done almost the exact same thing for my wife, had dinner cooked wearing some sexy underwear. She enjoyed it or said she did. She has NEVER done anything like that in 30 years!

                On the floor Answered on September 22, 2020.
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                  Wife of Dan, good on you for making such plans! I’m sure you’ll do well and it will turn out to be great!

                  I would suggest some of these that we like to do

                  • a romantic walk
                  • Shopping for clothes for her or for sexy underwear
                  • Enjoying a sunset
                  • giving her a full body massage
                  • tender hugs and kisses
                  • notes or texts
                  • flowers or chocolate
                  • watching a movie the she picks
                  • etc.
                  Under the stars Answered on September 22, 2020.
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                    The fatigue that my wife (perhaps other wives) built up over the years and her lack of her own appreciation for her body (well, I appreciate her body!) makes it an impossible dream.

                    California King Answered on September 22, 2020.
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                      I would do something sexually that he likes or has wanted to do if it doesn’t cross some hard boundaries in you.

                      Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on September 23, 2020.
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                        I buy the lingerie that I want to see her in.

                        When she’s in the shower I sometimes put the knickers I want to see her in later out on the bed, and the ones she’s chosen back in the drawer.

                        Some days I work a shifted day. This means that in the morning I have time to  soap her in the shower and make love briefly before going to work with a promise that we’ll pick up where we left off.

                        On the floor Answered on September 23, 2020.
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