Please pray for me
This is the first time that I’m having thoughts of considering stepping outside of my marriage for sexual gratification. I feel like I am slowly giving up hope that things will change for the both of us, and that I should take matters into my own hands. I know that this isn’t anything but the devil trying to attack me mentally. I don’t want to seek the gratification of a quick thrill
I know the feeling all too well, Brother.
Look up Scriptures that warn about fornication. The one that stops me cold in my tracks is this one:
For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: – 1 Thess. 4:3
And the concluding verses (vv. 4-5):
hat every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour;
Not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God:
Ask God to fulfil your deepest needs by getting to know Him and to rest in Him. I know this is hard and we are all called to carry our own burdens (Galatians 6:5) however you do not need to carry this burden on your own:
For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.
I am praying for you.
As you are thinking about this option, I would like to encourage for you to think about it even further. Get a pen and paper, so that 1) you can see it in black and white, and 2) if needed, it can be destroyed, or tucked away as a reminder.
Then, sit down and think past the temporary sexual gratification you will receive and start writing all that could be affected afterwards, and how it will be affected… reputations (a cheater, untrustworthy, etc), jobs, your health, your marriage, your children, relationships with the Lord, your church, your family, etc. etc. What about generational sin entering in and you opening the door for the path your own kids to follow in their marriages? Study King David, see how his sin had a major negative effect on his own family, he ended up having one son rape a daughter and another son killing that son and trying to overthrow him.
If you are considering sin, please consider ALL of it… for your sake and for the sake of others, especially any children you have, or may have in the future. Now is the time for reality of worst case scenarios to come in and be thought through. I am praying that the Holy Spirit will open your eyes to the destruction sin can and will cause, and that He will pierce your heart.
Looking back at your other posts, I can tell you have been struggling mightily to meet your situation in a Godly way. I commend you for confessing the temptation and seeking help. If you really wanted to give in, you would have kept it to yourself so you could hide your sin. Hang on tightly to that part of yourself–the one guided by the Holy Spirit–that is trying desperately to avoid sin.
Lord, I pray for your hedge of protection around WifeysWarrior. Thwart the evil one’s efforts to pull him into sin. Give him your supernatural strength to endure his situation and draw him tightly to yourself. I further pray that you would work a miracle in his beloved wife. Give her healing in her heart and soul and make her supernaturally able to recover from the events of her past and ready to join fully, joyfully–and frequently–with WifeysWarrior in sexual intimacy. I pray that you would restore the years the locusts have stolen and give this couple a fresh start and smooth sailing in the future, all in accordance with your will.
Thank you all for your kind words and your prayers. This has been a particularly hard week for me and I’m struggling to find a way to cope with it all. I in no way intend to brag, but at 29 I’m a muscular build. Although I always reject them, there are a large number of model-level gorgeous women within my workplace who have boldly made sexual advances at me daily, and I find myself talking with them or staring at them longer than I should be. I my supervisor even went as far as to tell me there are managers and supervisors who look my way, and conversations they had about me. Smh.
It just hurts knowing the one that you want the sexual attention from isn’t, when so many others are willing and able. As mentioned in a previous post, I had an affair with another woman from another city sexting and sending dirty messages and fantasies, but it tore my heart to pieces knowing that all the attention I wanted wasn’t coming from my wife. I don’t think I could ever act on my impulses, but I don’t like my current train of thought right now. I just want the reciprocity I guess. Thanx for Listening to me vent.