Positions and the routine for manual clitoral stimulation
So I was curious what are Some things husbands do to wifes in order to achive orgasm through manual stimulation. What is the preferred position.
We tried 2 or 3 but we somehow end up in the same, because it is more comfortable, especially when I feel close. So in this one we lay next to eachother with DH using his right hand and occasionally kissing and fondling breasts. It usually takes 1 or 2 minutes, of rubbing slowly and I sometimes help with tilting my hips in the way I want it. Then I sense I am there and ask him to press harder. The orgasm are quite small, last 2 3 seconds and after that things are senzitive there and pulsing for a few seconds. I would be curious about others experience so we can also improve. I am not sure why it is only a few seconds and I juat say they are small, but cannot compare them, i compare with what I previously read when women share their experiences.
It sounds like you are talking about MS alone, not as a supplementation to IC, is that right?
The only MS orgasms my husband has ever tried giving me are G-spot orgasms. When this happens, he is usually sitting down there, though I am not positive of the exact positioning of my legs around him, I just know I try to be comfortable and “open”. This allows him to get his arm/hand in the right position to use a couple of fingers to stimulate the g-spot and sometimes he will simultaneously use his thumb to stimulate the clitoris or we will use the bullet vibe we use during PIV for it.
I know for me, this happens after PIV and he O’d before I, so I am already aroused, and desire my own form of completion. That makes it easier to relax and not be so self-conscious… versus if were trying this from the beginning.
My wife is almost exclusively a MS girl in regards to her O so we have an almost guaranteed position to get her there. I kneel on her left side using my right hand to work on her clitoris. Left hand is free to roam head, hair, nipples, etc. She very much likes me moving and stimulating with the left as she says this shows engagement/interest on my end.(We use MS so often she sometimes is afraid I’m getting bored with it.)
She also enjoys giving me oral in this position until she is close and needs to focus to get her O. This in turn keeps me very much engaged in what’s going on and gets me closer to my own O when she’s done. We are amazingly consistent and efficient with this sequence/position.
I’ll admit I’d rather give her oral a little more often(she has stronger Os that way but has to be in the right mood). Have longed dreamed of giving her great Os thru PIV, but it doesn’t do much for her 😥, so we stick with what works.
My wife cannot O through just manual stimulation; she requires a vibrator to get her over the top. Our typical position we use is to have her lying on her stomach with a wand vibrator located near her clitoris. I lay down next to her left side on my stomach, which makes it possible for her left hand to stroke my penis. My right hand is free to massage her butt, as well as provide manual stimulation to her vulva. She especially enjoys having her butt massaged while she uses the vibrator. After she O’s, we switch to PIV sex.
We like to spoon. We are both in a comfortable position where I can use my hand to rub the right area while we do PIV
Another method of PIV is for DW to lay on her back, and I lay on my side perpendicular to her, Her right leg is between my legs , and she holds her left leg straight upand folds her leg down at the knee. It allows me to manually stimulate her down there with my left hand.
If we’re in the bed we generally lay side by side with my left hand stimulating her clitoris combined with oral stimulation of the breasts. If we’re standing we will stand side by side or she will bend over to support herself while I reach in and stimulate her.
My wife has both full-fledged Os lasting 30 sec or more and what I call “mini-Os” that are less pleasurable and last a second or two. By what you described in the OP you appear to be having these mini-Os quite often. One thing I have noticed is that if we pursue a clitoris only strategy DW is a bit more likely to have a mini-O. When simultaneously stimulating the breasts though she almost always has a full-fledged O.
My wife needs quite a bit of clitoral stimulation too, as she finds it difficult to orgasm by PIV alone. The 69 position usually works quite well for us: DW lies flat on her back so that I have good access to her vulva. I tend to gently part and stroke her labia with my fingers while licking her clitoris. Sometimes she likes me to put my tongue inside her vagina. I can also put my finger inside her.
Normally as she gets closer to orgasm, I turn round and rub her clitoris and also put one or two fingers inside her and she often has a first orgasm like this; afterwards she always wants me inside her as this completes her climax and she wants to feel “filled up” and me on top of her.
An alternative is when she goes on all fours and I gradually “open” her up with my fingers while rubbing her clitoris.
I learnt what DW likes by trying various things and letting her guide me.
Besides lying next to each other, rear entry allows for her to stimulate and she likes the deep thrust, especially when using a doggie-rider belt. We also use the 7th position, perfumed garden one which allows for both to stimulate and it’s more like rear entry for her BUT also we can look at each other easily. Using the Liberator wedge ramp combo for the 7th position also brings you closer together for easier touching and kissing.
Thanks @under the stars, that is what i am asking, yes.
We tried a few times him stimulating while in PIV but I feel nothing anymore. Like no sort of arousal, it’s like it vanished and the area doesn’t respond to stimulation. This js why I prefer me first because things go gradually, slight touching, than more and more until I have a small O. We are still learning…
Mary, you don’t need auxiliary items at all. I was offering them because we’ve found them to enhance the experience. We regularly do what I suggested without them as well. You could try having your husband hold a towel around your waist and use it for leverage to feel what the belt might be like. It adds a different pressure to my wife that she likes as well as the leverage which creates deeper penetration when thrusting.
The position I was describing is like this. The variation is that the woman will twist/lie more on her side and cross the leg to the opposite shoulder, giving a more rear-entry feel. Both have hands available for stimulation. Where the combo comes in nice is that the wedge (or a pillow) can be placed behind the woman’s back. The ramp just lifts the woman closer by raising up her head and torso, which makes it easier to kiss.