Post sex cleaning
I actually prefer to clean up FIRST 🙂 Why not give my husband the best, rather than feel like he is something to be washed off of me? … but I was once like that, so I know some of the mindset behind it, but it’s one of those little things that point to how one perceives/views sex.
We don’t really clean up. When we were first married we just used to let the fluids leak out on the sheets. I quite often finished on DW and we had a cuddle afterwards, it was quite sexy in some way to feel the liquid trickle down between our bodies.
But damp sheets aren’t great for a good night sleep, so after a few years DW bought a set of old fashioned 100 % cotton handkerchiefs and she always puts one under the pillow, just in case. Then after PIV she puts it in between her legs to soak up the juices. Afterwards she drops in on the floor and it goes in the wash.
For PM sex, we usually wipe up with a wet wash cloth. If DW did OS on me to completion, she will brush her teeth again, but no mouthwash. For morning sex, we usually shower after, depending on what is next in the day. We have a Liberator throw that we almost always use, so that avoids those pesky wet spots that were mentioned.
Until a recent unfortunate change in our habit (which we are trying to reset, but have not so far succeeded) we prefer to shower at night, and then we are always nice and clean to start. He was a morning shower-er before we married, so he changed for my preference which had more to do with sleeping clean on clean sheets than being clean for sex. I do think of things like, –suppose he had a bathroom break during the day that required a sit-down and he accidentally brushed his equipment against the inner edge of the seat, then those germs would be transferred to my innermost parts– yeah, I just feel like if we’re going to have a daily “reset” of our cleanliness, it might as well be right before we go to bed so that we aren’t bringing anything else with us unintentionally.
Afterwards, OTOH, we have a set of designated washcloths that live in my nightstand and I wipe up any excess with those to keep from sleeping in a puddle. DH goes to the bathroom and washes with the rag he used the last time he showered. (I often wish he would just stay and cuddle. It’s a bit of a break in the mood when he goes off and cleans up, plus it usually wakes up the dog and then he has to take her out to pee!) I was surprised to see the comments about not liking the scent the next day; I actually really love catching our combined scents from time to time over the next day, or if I’m lucky, several days! Oddly, it kind of reminds me of buttered popcorn.
After OS, I appreciate if he discreetly wipes the extra moisture off his mouth (particularly since he has facial hair to collect a lot of it) on my thigh before kissing. I need to rinse my mouth with a little water if I let him finish in it, whether I swallow or not. When I’m really trying to preserve the intimacy and the decadent mood, I can get by with just swishing some water from the cup on my nightstand and then swallowing it. Before OS, it’s another good reason to shower just prior because we will also have brushed our teeth. Sometimes he wants OS in the AM and I am reluctant to do that with morning mouth. I feel like germs accumulate in my mouth that I don’t want to put on him.
No clean up after OS usually unless it’s to completion. After PIV, if it’s at night, wife will many times just fall asleep cuddling and clean up a little if she wakes up in the night. I’m not a big fan of messy sheets and I’m usually hot anyway, so I strategically cover (or not) myself and cuddle with DW. Sometimes I’ll doze off, other times, I’ll rest and when DW falls asleep, I’ll get up to go to the bathroom and wipe off a little. We’re only going to shower AFTER PIV if it’s in the morning or other time of the day, more as a part of a routine…or going somewhere.
We also have tissues on my side and keep wipes on DW’s side of the bed so we can always clean up a little if desired….AND if DW claims she’s not “clean” for receiving OS, while I’m more than willing to go for it anyway, the wipes come in handy for her to “clean up” before any activities. Yes, we do enjoy showering together as well at the end of the day.
My mom gave us two hand towels when we got married with a note that said “for life’s little spills ;)”
We were a bit mortified, but we kept those towels by the bed for cleanup after. We have more than two towels in that rotation now (PTL for needing more!) and we usually ML on a blanket with a waterproof layer (it’s technically a pet blanket but it’s soft and perfect for the job) because lately DW has been producing a lot of liquid… on one recent occasion we both hopped in the shower after cause we were extra sweaty and wet. Normally, we wipe up with a towel and throw that and the blanket in the washer to be ready for next time and then we’re done.
I just tiptoe lean it over into the bathroom sink and wash it off, then dry it.
DW just does the “hold it in and waddle to the toilet” move.
For OS I usually just wash my face and drink some sweet tea.
She doesn’t do anything post OS on me because she is not a finisher.