My wife is something of an independent spirit, so she seldom asks for anything that might be interpreted as “help”.
She had just gone to bed to lay on a heating pad because of cramping in her leg. I regularly offer to massage the cramps out, and the offer is occasionally accepted,but as a rule it is declined.
Anyways, I was just sitting in the living room and the phone rang. When I picked it up, I saw that it was her calling(from one room away). When I answered, she simply responded with “I need a butt massage”.
I am grateful that after only 37 years, she not only accepts help, but is willing to actually ask for it.