Prayers For A Sexual Breakthrough or Awakening
Ephesians 6:18 – Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints;
Since being a member of TMB, I have noticed that there are marriages here where the spouse is either:
- a refuser.
- taught incorrect teachings about sex (e.g. it’s dirty, etc).
- low drive or sexually distant (uninterested) spouse.
- more like friends in the same home than passionate lovers.
If you are in this situation, what can we do to pray for you and your spouse effectively?
How would you like God to show up in the situation (bearing in mind, He may not give what we pray for yet always in His perfect will)?
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If you are reading the prayer requests and commit to pray for one of our member, post here and let them know. Commit to pray for them for a week. Make sure to check in for the today to share that you have prayed.
Let’s encourage each other and expect our God to move mightily!
UPDATE: When Elevation first shared and asked for updates, I was/we were in a bad place, so there was nothing I wanted to update about. But good has happened this past week.
Since I just reread what I originally shared, I don’t know if we have made much progress there specifically, but in just this past week there has been a shift in me.
I have come to realize that I am highly reactive or responsive to my husbands behavior. He’s like the sun, and when I am in his shadow (basically neglected) I wilt pretty fast. When he shines on me, I bloom. (I just got a great word picture to describe my last couple of years! But I won’t bore you with it 😉 but I am going to have to go write it down as soon as I am done here. )
I felt that the timing was finally right for me to do the Passion Pursuit study with Chris @ The Forgiven Wife. I felt pretty hopeless that first week. I really struggled with wanting to find or feel any kind of passion for a husband who hadn’t been present or available for a month (this is the behavior that led to my burnout and total detachment from him.) The Spirit convicted him somehow, and he has apologized and sought forgiveness twice, and the biggest thing, he actually has changed his behavior this past week. His actions, with God using the PP study, has actually taken away a veil from me. I am seeing things differently and feeling things differently. I think this is the most hopeful I have been since a hope died in me in Feb. 2017.
Prayers for us would be that Wifey will get a boost of energy and and a breakthrough in her thought life to see herself more positively. These are really just baby steps to the larger goal of an awakening, andI long to see her accept and bask in the full understanding of her freedom as a beloved daughter of God. Pray for me to keep up the fight against satan’s lies and accusations. Wifey pointed out to me that she doesn’t refuse me anymore when I ask, it just may not be what I’m looking for (masturbation with her holding me vs PIV). Pray for me to be bolder to ask when I need her and that she will be accepting of my advances.
Thanks for putting this thread together. It’s good to have prayer warriors who can pray specifically for us. I commit to praying for Brynna, SeekingChange, SongofAngels and Elevation this week. May God bless us all in this journey!
Update: Now the basic issues are solved as far as communication and things I was worried about. Really thankful we understand each other!!
@Elevation – I deleted my previous comment about my husband’s perception of things… Now I just need to tell my husband that I was looking for outside help. I should have asked him first… in a normal frame of mind I would have known that (live and learn).
@SongOfAngels – Praying for your health! Luke 18:1-8
Here’s my update.
We have seen many small improvements, even in areas I wasn’t thinking about, ha, or even thought needed improvement!
Lots of little steps forward, in our marriage, our children, in our outlook on life.
Its amazing how and when, God chooses to work in us!
Speaking of praying, @Elevation, you have been in my prayers through this time of separation with your wife. I know you asked men for accountability, but I have been wondering how you have been doing?
As I have been learning more about myself, I am described as one who has less energy to deal with other people and certain situations, therefore I keep an eye on my proverbial gauge and pull-back as needed to keep enough energy for things I know are coming up before I have the chance to recharge. Because of giving and giving for 2-3 years, with very little depositing back in, it has put me in a place where my energy is even more limited than when life is better balanced and healthy.
I shared all of that because it leads into my struggle, and even fear. For several years, I was 100% invested into changing sexually and to being all my husband could want and need. That investment took the vast majority of my energy, leading to the neglect of other things in life….cooking & cleaning, doing extra things with others like my kids, friends, or at church. It made our marriage seem great, but it sure narrowed down our lives. Many said, and I also figured, once things became more normal or natural for me sexually, it would be easier to balance life back out with being intentional on our sexual focus. That seems not to be the case with me….but, by no means, do I feel things are “normal” with me personally.
My husband is being quite patient with me, but he is really wanting to explore a new aspect in our sexual relationship. He brings it up, sharing his desires, so that I know the desire is still there and to test to see if I am ready or not (which is what I have recommended others to do.) I feel the pressure of needing to be more of who I was. My fear is I don’t know if I will ever get back to being ready. I don’t if I can get back there. I don’t know if I will have the energy until we have an empty house (at least 4 years away), because I don’t feel I can neglect certain areas with my kids as I did 3-6 years ago. I don’t know if I can ever trust him enough to put myself in the same place of complete vulnerability, after his abandonment and the feelings of betrayal that happened, no matter how sorry he is. I made my own mistakes in there that has also changed who I am.
That’s what I could use prayers for.