I was having BPH issues and purchased a prostate massager from a company called Highisland Health.I have experienced a lot of relief from the symptoms.The issue is it often ends up being very pleasurable.I have sessions which I have experienced full body orgasms without ejaculation.At first my wife was ok with but now says since this is what makes gay sex pleasurable it is probably wrong.I do not fantasize about sex with a men,rather I think it shows how we are “fearfully and wonderfully made”.I would like some opinions on this.
We are fearfully and wonderfully made! Everything that God created was and is good. There are many things in our sexual nature that are good, yet can be bad if the good is used wrongly. Allow me to weave some logic into the question of the pleasurable acceptability of prostate massage.
Monogamous, heterosexual, married sex is good. Change (to the opposite) any one of the first three words and sex in that case wrong.
Masturbation is controversial, yet there is no specific Biblical prohibition. Christians do (ought to) agree that masturbation to porn is a sin. Many women masturbate (self-stimulate their clitoris) during foreplay and at the moment of orgasm during PIV sex; that is a glorious gift from our Creator. A husband masturbating to thoughts, even images of his wife, is not a sin (IMHO), yet if that tempts him to do so without his wife in mind, he should stop. Furthermore, a man or woman that solo masturbates doesn’t make them homosexual.
A woman’s breast provides nourishment to her children. That is good. Many husbands love to suckle their wife’s breast(s) to their wife’s delight and enjoyment. It’s sexual and nurturing . . . and natural. In fact, many men are sexually stimulated by their wife suckling and stimulating their breast and nipples. This is good. However, for some men and women the sexual excitement of the breast and nipple can be dampened by past abuse, physical pain, etc. A man enjoying unfettered breast and nipple stimulation doesn’t mean he’s role playing as a woman. Breast and nipple tissue are erogenous for women and men. God created breasts for biological and sexual purposes.
Many women enjoy anal play, stimulation, and penetration to heighten sexual delight. Men often do as well. Why? Again, the anal area is packed with erogenous nerve endings in women and men, alike. The anus, as breasts, was created for biological purpose and function. Yet both play a dual role in sexual stimulation and enjoyment. If a woman enjoys anal play, stimulation, and penetration is it weird or wrong? How so then for a man? Perhaps we see the anus in a completely different light for men and women, because men have used a God created erogenous area on their bodies for a wrong purpose; sex between men rather than sex in a monogamous, heterosexual, married relationship.
Now to the question of pleasurable acceptability of prostate massage. Many women find g-spot stimulation, a special bundle of nerves in the anterior pelvic area, to heighten sexual intensity. Although there is scientific disagreement regarding the secretion of female ejaculate, there is plenty of evidence (personal, in our case) that the g-spot does indeed produce female ejaculate. When the g-spot is directly stimulated it often produces a more intense orgasm and FE for a woman.
There is no scientific controversy regarding the God created nerve bundle nor the ejaculatory function of the prostate in males – a man’s p-spot. One of the most devastating realities for a man with prostate cancer is the necessary or unavoidable damage and/or removal of that sexual nerve bundle. From a pure biological perspective the sensitive p-spot nerve bundle and the g-spot nerve bundle respond accordingly to direct stimulation. The p-spot, as the g-spot, is packed with erogenous nerve endings waiting to be triggered by sexual activity and stimulation.
Unfortunately, man has taken a God created function in our human body and used it wrongly. Monogamous, heterosexual, married stimulation of a man’s prostate ought to be a delight, not cloaked in fear and phobia.
No, it is not wrong. There are a lot of nerve endings right there, and that’s partly what makes it so pleasure for men and women. It is a false belief that just because someone enjoys anal stimulation, that it points to homosexual tendencies.
Oh brother *eye roll*, sorry, don’t mean to be disrespectful to your wife. SHE KNOWS it’s a prostate stimulator, right? That those sensations are normal and why not??
I think i want to order one for my husband and i really hope he uses it as he needs it and i really really hope he gets the pleasure that you are getting!!!
I don’t mind the antagonistic nature of saying that’s just plain silly. There is no sin in pleasure! Only in seeking pleasure from forbidden sources. Our bodies are all wired differently, but it’s important to remember that God created you, and gave you the ability to find pleasure. That ability does not innately make you a sinner! There are a lot of sinful ways you could use this device, sure, especially if lustful thoughts were taking you down a sinful road. However, having found this ability to experience pleasure, while also seeing health benefits, could really benefit your intimate life with your spouse.
Ok, you can not control internal pleasure. Unfortunately every male would or will be a victim of your experiences … it is literally almost impossible to say no to that nerve stimulation inside. If DW has difficulties with what’s happening, ask her nicely to be the one inserting, holding and watching how it works! If still an issue, than place a device of similar RPMs on top of her most sensitive part (clitoris) and see her response. Sorry but we can’t refuse, deny or ignore that uncontrollable pleasure
I use p massage device too and it does bring the “fearfully and wonderfully made” to mind. Thankfully, DW encourages me to use it along with other PM methods, although she was initially reluctant to be “directly involved.” I’ve heard others express concerns that it is a gateway toward gay desires, so your wife’s thoughts aren’t unique. What I’ve run across is more men resisting the idea of PM when mentioned for health purposes as they would lose their “man card.” I don’t agree and think it is a healthy pleasure that the Lord blessed us with.