QOTD-11-25-2020-What about your spouse’s sexuality are you thankful for?
MCS had a great post (https://marriedchristiansex.com/blog/bible/give-thanks-spouses-sexuality/) last year about being thankful for your spouse’s sexuality. The post asked 10 questions about various aspects of your spouse’s sexuality that elicited thankfulness.
Of those 10 aspects, pick which one you are most thankful for? If you want to list all 10 that’s fine too.
Intimacy! As we enter our 8th decade of life and enjoy our 50th year of marriage, intimacy binds us together as one. Just this morning, as I set up the Keurig machine for my morning cup, Mrs. Oldbear came into the kitchen with today’s crossword (we love to do our crosswords ver a cup of coffee) and greeted me warmly. I opened my robe and she nestled up to me for our morning embrace and whispers of ‘I love you!’ The oneness we experience in simple intimacy is indescribable!
Great question! I picked two to highlight:
-Behavior: I love the confidence and I playfulness that DW exhibits in bed. It’s different than her normal persona, but it’s such a positive thing. It’s a side of her only I get to experience. That leads me to…
-Intimacy: We have experienced a great deepening of all aspects of marital intimacy in the last couple of years. We talk about anything and everything, including all sorts of sex talks! I feel she knows me to my very core, and I can be completely naked and vulnerable with her (physically and metaphorically). We now enjoy the deep knowing that I always previously longed for and expected from marriage.
-Trying Hard: She has been open to more frequent sex and sex play, and is trying to incorporate new activities. She especially has been quick to embrace the idea of cuddling naked most mornings, which has been a great boon to our intimacy!
Receiving pleasure – she has been very generous with OS lately. Good thing – old soldier doesn’t snap to attention like it did as a young recruit.
Trying (somewhat hard) – there has been effort, but she derails herself a lot. I guess I knew I was getting an independent woman, it the line between independent and stubborn is very blurry. But yet, she is trying and I must be thankful.
- Body – Definitely her butt. Her butt is perfect. Maybe I should say “her behind” instead
- Appearance – Her face, but in particular she has the best lips around. Puffy and perfectly contoured. Unfortunately, not a lot of kissing and rarely uses those lips with OS on me.
- Behavior – In 33+ years, I could count on one hand the times she has refused me sexually, usually for very good reasons
- Words – I love her very vanilla flirty texts. They are usually just red hearts, will not text anything erotic, however. And, I know NOT to text her anything erotic either!
- Intimacy – She schedules sex with me and makes it a priority. How lucky am I?
- Giving pleasure – She allows me to rub her feet, back, shoulders, neck, anywhere I want for the most part. I think if this is all I did she would probably die happy
- Receiving pleasure – Does having sex count? She won’t do much more than the basic stuff. Oh well. Be thankful!! There are others way worse off than I
- Position – She gives me WOT a lot which is my favorite position by far
- Sexual activities – Not sure this will ever happen, but she does go on 2-4 getaways a year with me just the two of us. Awesome times together
- Trying hard – See intimacy up above. This was a HUGE thing for her to do for US
- Body: She hasn’t gained much weight since we married. So, she is trim and her boobs haven’t sagged much!
- Appearance: she looks young for her age
- Behavior: she is thoughtful of my needs and likes to serve
- Words: We have our own language for sexual stuff!
- Intimacy: Afterglow is always special
- Giving pleasure: Help her achieve multiples regularly!
- Receiving pleasure: Besides PIV she enjoys Oral and HJs
- Position: Doggy Style and Reverse Cowgirl
- Sexual activities: regular intimacy. At this point, usually every other day.
- Trying hard: She is willing to adjust her level of frequency to mine.
1. Body- I love cuddling up against DH’s body
every night. It’s the best part of the day.
2. Appearance – he hasn’t aged a day!
3. Behavior – he puts up with me, while inwardly I
believe he enjoys every minute of it.
4. Words – I love when he asks if I have nothing
better to do, when I pester him until he laughs.
5. Intimacy – the afterglow, of course!
6. Giving pleasure – I love to give him a good HJ,
then keep on until he can’t help but laugh,
which means he can’t take it anymore.
7. Receiving pleasure – I’ll just say he does his stuff
well. I’m never lacking!
8. Position – we love our old favorite! Don’t know
exactly the name of it, but we are both agreed.
9. Sexual activities – he agreed to try scheduling
10. Trying hard – he was willing to try BHRT.
- Body: I love that she makes her body available to me, holding nothing back.
- Appearance: I love her lips–very full and sensual.
- Behavior: She’s uninhibited in bed and always has been. Deeply thankful for that.
- Words: She’s very direct and affirming in her praise of my body and sexuality
- Intimacy: I’m thankful for all forms of intimacy that we do, especially when she does something that is simply a gift.
- Giving pleasure: I love how much pleasure I can bring her by simply penetrating her as deeply as possible when she’s ready for it.
- Receiving pleasure: I love when she takes time to pleasure me orally.
- Position: I’m thankful for MOT for the feeling of deep intimacy, and “doggy” for the view.
- Sexual activities: our practice of side by side masturbation to “fill in the gaps” has been a game changer for us.
- Trying hard: in the midst of our busy lives, that she works with me to make sure we have regular and frequent intimacy