QOTD – 3/24/20 – How would you react
if you and your spouse were caught having sex in a ‘public’ place? I was thinking of all the places mentioned in yesterday’s thread. If you have been discovered, how did you react?
Bonus: how would you react if you came upon another couple in a public place, who thought they were all alone?
One reason I don’t care for sex in public (yet private) places is I get very little out if it, because it’s not a place I can relax for the very reason of this question (yet I do it for him)… I become hypervigilant, keeping my eyes and ears open for anyone that might be coming near… that means there’s no time to focus for arousal. If I perceive any chance of getting caught, we pause, until the threat passes or stop completely. We also have always kept our clothes on, at least partially, which makes for quicker and easier hiding.
If I came across a couple, I probably would be drawn to look as though passing a train wreck.
First thing is that I’d say goodbye to any thought of ever doing it again… DW would NEVER, EVER forget about being caught and would be forevermore remorseful about being so immodest .
Second, my reaction would depend on where we were when caught… if the “public place” is truly public in the sense that any reasonable person would expect enough traffic to possibly be caught, I’d apologize for my/our poor judgement. If it was a place like a large State or Federal Park (like a nature preserve) I would be less apologetic and chalk being caught up to bad luck…. probably grin and raise my hands and say “Guilty as Charged” after getting my clothes back on… make a joke out of it (while DW dies 1000 deaths of embarrassment.)
Like others, I would probably watch the other couple longer than I should and if possible, back away so as not be detected as a voyeur… and if they were in an “unreasonably public” place to be ML where young kids might discover them, I’d probably make enough noise to alert them to the possibility that they might want to find a more secluded place for their passion… and I realize that part of the allure is the risk of being caught.
How would I react? It depends a bit on the situation.
- If it was another couple wanting to do the same, I encourage them to practice some social distancing – (or sexual distancing!) and to enjoy!
- If it was some authority, I’d apologize and say we couldn’t wait until we got home.
- Or if i was my property, like an acreage or farm, I’d tell them, “Go find your own place!”
If I happened upon another couple?
- Offer them our extra blanket!
- Commend them on their bravery!
- Tell them that I won’t report them and that they should pay it forward!
I agree that it depends on who would come across us at the time. Regardless I would feel a bit embarrassed and my wife would be devastated “never do that again.” But then I’m more willing to take a risk than she is. It honestly doesn’t cross her mind.
I have never been in the situation of coming across someone else, but if I did I’m sure I would take a peak or two, but not stop and stare. No commentary for them as I passed by, just silent admiration for their bravery.
As we haven’t done the whole “semi-public place” thing, I don’t really know how to answer the main question. I’m guessing we’d cover up quickly and be done.
As for the bonus question, I’m pretty sure I’d watch for way longer than could be explained by an “accident” and probably be aroused by it, thus wanting to have sex with Zelda soon after. Not proud of that, but it’s probably true.
I would be a bit embarrassed (with a qualification – next paragraph) and Mrs. Oldbear would be mortified! In another post, I mentioned how a deer nosing around our pool at dusk when she was very randy with me, sort of drew a line in the sand for her. She figured that if a deer could walk up on us then who else could do so. Fact of the matter – we had a very private pool area. I loved skinny dipping with her and fooling around.
My degree of embarrassment would depend on the reaction of the person or couple. If they showed understanding and appreciation, my embarrassment would melt away. OTOH, if they reacted in ‘horror’ I’d remain embarrassed.
This sorta happened last summer. It was early evening on a beautiful, warm summer day. We’d just showered and Mrs. Oldbear and I were sitting on our secluded deck in sleep wear (boxers, only, for me and a summer gown on her) with our light robes draped and open around us. A best friend couple, called out as they walked up the stairs (hidden wrap-around) giving us just enough time to close our robes around us – untied. The look on their faces was surprise and a bit of embarrassment – for them sneaking up on us. Because we know each other quite well, the conversation quickly became normal and they stayed for 30-45 minutes. However, it was perfectly clear that they assumed we had been enjoying a romantic moment that may have led somewhere. When they left, it sorta revved my motor for Mrs. Oldbear knowing that they ‘knew what was going on’ and gave their full approval without saying a word!
If we were discovered by someone we knew, my wife would likely be so mortified that we’d never do it in out and about ever again. Then again, she’s initiated many of these encounters so I could be wrong.
If we were discovered by a random stranger, I expect we’d cover up and hustle out of there, and as soon as we’re out of sight we’d be giggling hysterically and either finish in the car or at home.
I would hate being caught. But if i were to accidentally see another couple, i would absolutely watch at least for a minute or two. I am very voyeuristic but i would hopefully grab myself by the scruff of the neck and make myself leave.
In general terms my DW is far more modest than I am. But, it seems like I am always the one worried about being caught when we’re outside. I have had to force myself to pay attention to the task at hand instead of constantly looking around to make sure nobody is coming by.
A couple months ago, while the in- laws were visiting, we snuck off to have a little fun in the car. We pulled into a dark corner of a local church parking lot (go ahead and throw stones lol) and were pretty well undressed when a nosey neighbor decided to drive over and chase us off. That’s the closest we’ve ever been to being caught. I was way more worried about it than she was. She just jumped in the driver’s seat and drove us to a better spot.
To answer the other question honestly, if they didn’t know I was there, I’d probably watch far longer than I should. I’d never interrupt, or embarrass anyone or myself, but watching another couple is one of my fantasies. Obviously not one I’d intentionally ever act on!