QOTD – 4/06/20 – Do you still make out with your spouse?
According to Wikipedia “making out” refers to, “kissing, including heavy kissing of the neck, … prolonged, passionate, open-mouth kissing (also known as French kissing), intimate skin-to-skin contact, or to non-penetrative sex acts such as heavy petting.”
Is making out still a part of your love life with your spouse? If not, why has this form of lovemaking left your MB?
DW and I had let making out fall by the wayside in the last few years but recently we have been doing a better job of bringing it back. Making out like a couple of horny teenagers is extremely satisfying as a married couple. When my wife really gets things going she can make me O from the kissing alone. 🙂
DW and I always engage in prolonged skin to skin contact when we make love. The amount of open-mouth kissing tends to vary from time to time; on some occasions one or the other of us may feel our breath is icky and don’t want to take the time to brush our teeth. Outside of the bedroom we don’t do much making out. For now, with all the kids home that would be difficult to do without one of them ‘getting grossed out’. But I think it would be fun to bring making out outside of the bedroom once we are alone again.
Not much. I have to put a lot of this on me. I really have to be in a good place emotionally with my husband AND in life in general. I also can’t have been over-stimulated by people (including my own family), because as an introvert, or maybe a HSP (Highly Sensitive Person), when I am, I have to block input to senses, and my face is the first place because it’s the most sensitive, for obvious reasons. Living in a household of 6-8 people, it’s easy to be “over-stimulated”.
Every chance we get. I wouldn’t say “petting” is part of every make out session, but we do enjoy a passionate kiss frequently. Part of it may be that we have spent so much time apart over the last 13 years, so we tend to relish our moments together. Part of it is a great opportunity to embarrass our kids. Part of it is simply that she is the most beautiful and enticing person I’ve ever known. So, I’ve spent as much of the past 20 years as physically close to her as I can get.
I think couples forget about it because it was something that was OK prior to marriage but a 2nd class act compared to PIV, OS, MS, etc so couples stop kissing & romancing once they move on to other permissible marriage activities…and in turn lose some of the spark and magic that occurred outside the bedroom first.
Yes! We recently brought back making out. Last summer I told my wife that I can handle and even enjoy some making out, teasing, etc. that doesn’t lead to sex immediately. She was surprised and skeptical, but I’ve shown her that I’m serious. Physical touch is top of my love languages, and I helped her see that doesn’t have to just be sex. In fact, my feeling of need for sex has been lessened a bit by the increase in making out and other physical touch. Don’t get me wrong, I still want regular, frequent sex, but I’m not as frustrated and I don’t feel nearly as unfulfilled between encounters when other activity like making out is happening.
We haven’t for years. To be honest, it’s difficult to kiss him. He often doesn’t let me come up for air, and I don’t enjoy the struggle.
Once, he told me that making out doesn’t work for us because it always leads to sex. I don’t view that as a bad thing, so his comment disappointed me. I backed off after that.