QOTD-5/19/2020- Guys, are your erections weaker after a very satisfying encounter?
I think it may be age related more than encounter related – how long has it been – how has ones stress been – how much “need/excitement/pressure” is there – and I am sure how hot is the encounter. When you are young and you have sexual energy on overflow, I think it is easy to not see a variation which may become more visible as you age. Sometimes a particularly great time will fuel a quicker need for a next time, but not always.
I can’t say I’ve noticed that. I would say that an orgasm might not be as strong or I would need more foreplay before I would orgasm again. There are times when we make love a 2nd time during the day or within 10-12 hours and I might not come again but then there are other times when I can. Again, I see age, recovery, and amount of foreplay are significant issues involved PLUS I will add that I’ve noticed a couple times in the last 3 wks that when we haven’t made love, or I haven’t orgasmed, for 3-4 days, that the next orgasm session will be stronger and possible for a strong repeat performance on the same day. Does the build up of seminal fluid volume impact an orgasm? The other day wife’s hormones were up and we did a hot quickie and then three hours later had an extended session and I climaxed strong both times. Both DW & I were surprised at such a short recovery period for me but she was on fire both times that day and I think that also helped me.
For 35 years of marriage, my only sex partner, there has been no change in intensity, desire of frequency, etc., apart from changes in that first year. There was a long period when she was a gate keeper, but that is different. I can tell that there has been a reduction in hormonal desires. But there are no lost erections, or weak erections after some immense sexual encounter with my wife.
I believe that I have immense orgasms, if that is how you put it. I wonder if loss of intensity could be a result of something else like fantasy or focus, health, energy level, slight depression levels, medications, expectations and realities, etc.?
I don’t think so. I will say, that if we have sex two or three days in a row, I have a more difficult time maintaining an erection or maintaining the focus I need to maintain it, for maybe a day. I don’t feel like it is weaker when its working though.