QOTD – 6/22/20 – After her orgasm?
This question was inspired by this post ( https://marriedchristiansex.com/blog/physical-techniques/after-her-orgasm/) on the Married Christian Sex blog.
What happens after the wife’s orgasm?
She almost always O’s first (manual/vibe). I tend to hold her close as she enjoys the afterglow for a minute or two (and sometimes if it was extra intense, she’s clutching me pretty good). Most of the time I’m primed and ready to go from enjoying bringing her to climax, and we go to PIV pretty quick. Mostly missionary or WOT, depending on her mood. Might be a minute, might be more depending on a lot of factors.
Similar to luvabug99, we bring DW to O using a vibrator. This can take 20-45 minutes, during which time she is using one of her free hands to tease and stroke me. After she finishes, we go almost immediately to PIV in the missionary position, and since I have been primed I usually finish fairly quickly, which DW likes. After I O, we enjoy cuddling, which can last for 30 minutes or longer depending on our schedule.
We usually pleasure and arouse each other with our hands and/or mouths (foreplay). As DW get close to her O she usually want me deep inside and signals for me to enter her. Sometimes she O from what I do with my fingers/mouth before I get to penetrate her.
If she O’s first, we have a brief pause (sometimes very brief). If I’m not already inside her, she really want me to enter her ASAP. Sometimes even during the aftershocks of her O. I guess it’s as pleasurable for her to be penetrated deeply during or right after her O as it is for me to be deep inside as I ejaculate… Then we go for my O with focus on long deep thrusts, since that is best for me.
After my O or if we O “together”, we relax, cuddle and kiss for a while with me still inside before we roll apart and go to clean up.
It depends on the exact timing of that O… if I O, the end is near. So, if I happen to O before him, that is what leads into his finale. If we O simultaneously, we may just lay there for a short time, then I am pushing him off of me so we can clean up and get back in bed…that’s when cuddling is more likely to happen.
Pretty much the same as DC9 here. As DW cannot reach orgasm by PIV alone, I use a combination of manual and oral stimulation until she starts climaxing. At that point she wants me inside and on top of her so we quickly move to PIV in the missionary position and usually I ejaculate pretty quickly. Afterwards, we enjoy the afterglow and I lie on top of her until I shrink and slip out. Then we have a side-by-side cuddle. She puts a handkerchief between her legs to soak up the sperm. (When we were first married we didn’t use to and often giggled how funny it felt leaking afterwards. But then damp sheets aren’t great to sleep on.) We have a post-lovemaking pillow talk, about pretty much anything that comes to mind. Then when we feel sleepy we go for a pee before settling for the night because if we don’t, we tend to wake up a few hours later needing it.
Most of the time after her orgasm comes another orgasm. Only one of them is the last one.
We usually do a position where I am on my haunches, kind of a perpendicular man on top. Sometimes we’ll change it up for a full body woman on top. to for me to ejaculate, but then she wants another one sometimes after that. If that is the case, I mght be down there fingering her after mine.
During her orgasm, I usually change up whatever rhythm I’m going with to long deep thrusts to get that spot anterior to her cervix. I’ might whisper some encouragement, “Enjoy it, baby” or something like that. We have a kid on the other side of the wall, so we don’t scream or talk too loud.
After an orgasm, it also a good time to finger her G-spot to work her up to a powerful G-spot orgasm. If we’ve had an intense session of sex, she usually wants to squirt, and we finger her until she squirts and ends on an orgasm that feels like a good, satisfying, stopping point for her.
Women have to go to the bathroom sitting down, give birth, and have periods. Maybe the intense multi-O’s are there to help even things out. I suppose they have a reproductive function to keep them going until the man finishes, which would help with an older man.
Generally, we O about the same time. Anyways, whatever we do after, we do it after both have finished. If we are very tired, we get up and clean up within a couple minutes. Than back to bed and fall asleep, cuddling. If it isn’t very late, we will stay in our finishing position for awhile, just cuddling. Than get up, clean up, and fall asleep, cuddling.
After her, then it’s my turn. When we’re both satisfied, then we usually cuddle no matter the time of day or place of “coital engagement”. 😀 If it’s at night and we’re in bed cuddling, DW will usually fall asleep and I may or may not wait till she’s asleep to clean up. I usually lay uncovered while we cuddle or just the leg next to DW covered, keeping my mess away from the covers. If we cuddle long enough, I may just pull a sheet over and go to sleep as well.
We do have tissues and usually wipes available bedside for pre- or post-coital cleanup if we’ve had a very messy position or ending. It’s not a big deal to her and I’m trying to learn to go with the flow. (No pun intended Scott.) 😀
@Janwill I do not have my first orgasm from PIV, either oral or manual. After my first O I have a need to have DH inside of me. PIV feels so much better post O than before. I can then often have a second O from PIV. Very rarely, DH will orgasm before me, and if that happens and then he brings me to O, I want him to push his fingers inside me. Again, it is a very strong desire for something inside me post first O