Question About “Come As You Are”

I’ve seen Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski recommended on both Christian and secular sites, particularly for women but also for men. Neither of us have ever read it.

One activity we’ve done together in the past is to read books out loud to each other prior to going to sleep. It’s been a while since we’ve done that, in part because finding mutually enjoyable books that work in that format isn’t necessarily easy.

My question: does Come As You Are lend itself to reading together in this format? Some of what I’ve read about the book indicates it is more of a personal journey, but I’d love if we could read this together and both get something out of it.

-Scott

Edit: I misspelled the title of the book in the title of this post! So embarrassing!

Under the stars Asked on September 30, 2020 in Marriage Books, Resources, Sites .

😆  I noticed!  😉  I was wondering how long it would take you to notice.  If I hadn’t been on my phone, I would have gone in and edited it for you.  Shake it off….. laugh about it with me!  It’s funny!

on October 1, 2020.

@Scott, I would love to know the titles of some of the books you have read together. Just if you are interested in sharing.

on October 1, 2020.

In terms of the format I’m describing, reading to each other prior to going to sleep, the list might come across as lame: The Millionaire Next Door and Bad Blood. We got both of these electronically through our local library and it worked really well to read off our electronic devices (which I think violates your own marriage’s rules IIRC).

Prior to that, there were a variety of books we read “together”, which meant we read them about the same time and discussed them. Those range from marriage books early in our marriage (Sacred Marriage, Intimacy Ignited, Love & Respect, and at least one other I can’t remember the name of) to fantasy fiction books, e.g. series written by the recently departed Terry Goodkind.

I absolutely love the read-to-each-other-at-bed format, but it certainly has to be the right kind of book for it to work out.

-Scott

on October 1, 2020.

Thanks! Yup, we don’t bring our phones to bed. It would have to be books we both would enjoy. I think DH would enjoy a devotional the most. We have talked of doing that and than discussing it.

on October 1, 2020.
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    I’ve read it and was positively impacted by the book.  In fact, I want to read it again.  One of the composite couples is a lesbian couple and there is descriptions of masturbation in it that some Christians would be offended by.  I do think it would be valuable for both spouses to read , and together IMO would be good.  Maybe DH and I will read it together when I reread it…..

    On the floor Answered on October 1, 2020.

    Thanks for sharing @Wheat48. Is it pretty easy to ID and skip over the sections you mention?

    -Scott

    on October 1, 2020.

    No…the lesbian couple is weaved throughout the whole book.  All of the composite couples are used throughout

    on October 1, 2020.
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      Update:

      So our library only has paper copies, no electronic ones. We then checked if they had “Sheet Music”…but nope on that too. They do, however, have “She Comes First”, so we’re going to try that even if it might be stretching us a bit.

      -Scott

      Under the stars Answered 4 days ago.
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