Question about DH’s manscaping at gym
So recently DH and I were at our gym. We each went to shower. DH was in mens locker room where showers are old school and for guys (it is a big shower room with 15 shower heads in 1 room (not stalls).
When he entered, he was only one showering. He did his usual man scaping. As he was shaving from belly button to base of his shaft (his abs – as he had already shaved the more delicate and important parts) 2 other men walked in and showered too. DH finished his business and left. The next week my DH was called into mngt b/c other men felt uncomfortable (not sure why they were watching my DH shave his lower abs) and complained … so here is my questions:
To the DH’s that are smooth and well shaven:
1. Would you feel comfortable shaving down there in a shower room with other men there showering at same time?
2. If other dudes were manscaping next to you in the shower room – would it bother you or not?
To the DW’s, if you shave down there and were in a shower room ( I know usually we have stalls):
1. Would you feel comfortable shaving down there in a room of other wives showering?
2. If other DW’s were shaving down there in a shower room – would it bother you?
And any other ideas on this topic are appreciated. We know not all are smooth and well shaven down there, that’s fine and is a personal choice- but those couples who are smooth/shaven …. your thoughts??
I wouldn’t shave anything in a public shower, let alone the most intimate parts. And yes, it would make me uncomfortable to have others do it with me around.
As a mother of sons, and not liking having to go through our separate “rooms” at our rec center anyway, I would be bothered if they came out of the locker room with a story like that.
My opinion, personal grooming ought to be done in privacy.
I agree with others that I wouldn’t shave anything in a public shower if I didn’t have too but especially private areas. I would find it odd if I happened to notice another woman doing it but not enough that I would complain to anyone about it. It would also make me uncomfortable to have my boys in the locker room with a grown man doing that. I’m thankful that our gym has family locker rooms with individual rooms for showering.
I view a gym shower as a way to quickly rinse/wash off sweat and or chlorine and shaving as something that should wait for the privacy of your own shower. With maybe the exception of a guy shaving his face if he was on his way to work after the gym. My dh used to shave his face at the gym because he was on his way to work, but he did that when he was dressed or in a towel and over the sink.
“And for those who would do it in a public place, I would wonder why!”
I was asking my husband about this last night, because I thought he might have a different opinion about it than I, because he is much more freer in his nakedness and such, and frequesnts the gym much more than I.
He basically shared the same opinion as I, but I noticed he was much more quick to “wonder” and actually assign (negative) motive to it than I. What I wanted to do was dig to understand why…. Is this a cultural thing? Is it related to age? Was this modeled to him so it is normal to him? What were the circumstances around it? Etc. I am not expecting any answers to those questions, but that’s how I processed it. I am willing to give the benefit of the doubt, while my husband was quick to assume worser things (wrong/sinful motives)…. maybe those men who reported did the same thing?
I do have to say, the idea of any unknown persons body hair being where I will be showering or sleeping (like in a hotel room) gives me the heebie-jeebies.
I wouldn’t shave anything down there in a public shower. The potential for cuts and blood borne pathogens, while low, is enough to scare me off. Plus, the thought of someone else’s bits of hair in a shower that I’m using makes me uncomfortable. Even shaving my legs would be too much. Public showers like that are really just for a quick scrub down, in my opinion. Removing chlorine from hair, etc. Anything not truly necessary for cleanliness should be done at home.
I would not do this type of personal grooming in a public shower, even if it was a shower with individual stalls.
If another dude was doing so in the shower it would probably catch my attention but I would not be affected by his activity, if he chooses to do this there more power to him. I have used these ” gang” showers in the past, normally just concentrate on what I’m doing, finish my business and get outta there.
Regarding hair in the drain, I understand that anything that rinses off us will be in the shower floor and drain, which is why I always wear flip flops and minimize my time in the shower. As has been mentioned, these public showers are for knocking off the top few layers only, I always take the full cleansing shower at home before beddy bye time.
If I saw someone manscaping in that context I’d think it was a bit strange but it wouldn’t bother me. Especially to the extent I’d go to management about it.
Would I do it, no. As others have said, I view showers in gyms as something quick to get the sweat off. I guess I could see facial shaving if I were going to the gym before work and heading to the office afterward and didn’t want to shower twice in the morning. But I’d probably use an electric razor then and save the actual blade work for at home.