Questions About Masturbation,
I’m 26 years old, and I’ve always had a very negative view of sex and masturbation due to the fundamental upbringing.
Lately, I’ve been exploring the idea of what is ok for a Christian to do, such as masturbation. This site is so interesting to me because of its concept.’m not used to being somewhere where stuff like this is openly talked about.
I’m still figuring out where video fits into all of it. I mean obviously I enjoy it, but I don’t know if it’s ok. I’ve seen different opinions about it. I don’t just want to watch porn; I’ve done that before, but it’s not really what I’m looking for. In all honesty, I wish I could just find a video of an ordinary Christian married couple having sex, but that’s obviously not really something easy to find.
I have the fantasy—because I don’t know if it would be sinful or not, and I don’t know if I should even think about it—of just finding other single people (of both sexes) online to talk to about this type of stuff. Similar to this website, I guess but with other single people? Yet I wonder if that would not be crossing a line into sin. But where does sin start? If I masturbate alone to a story, is that sin? What if I was to look at a photo of a pretty woman naked? What if I watched a married couple have sex? What if I talked to a single woman who had posted a nude photo on a website? At what point is it crossing into sin? I don’t know. I want to enjoy my sexuality but also don’t want to sin.
You are asking, what is “lust” and where does it begin? Jesus said that lust, or sin, begins in the heart with a look, (Matt. 5:28). Lust must not be our master as we experience the freedom of knowing and walking with Lord. Recall, in Paul’s letter to the Thessalonians, Paul praised them as mature believers for three chapters before he tells them that God’s will for them was growth and maturity in sanctification, in honor such that each one of them abstains from sexual immorality, and not live in lustful passion like those who do not know God, (1 Thess 4:3-5).
Every thought. The guilt I feel is when I’m okay with being entertained by sin. While we can’t say that touching yourself is sinful, the issue is always a matter of the mind. I say mind before heart u we choose to entertain the wrong thoughts, and in time I believe it sets in our hearts.
Sounds to me like you’re struggling with lust. If you’re asking the question “is what I’m doing sinful?” then the chances are that the answer is “yes” and you shouldn’t be doing it.
I think you need to seek the counsel of other Christians within your church on this issue. Is there someone you can trust, like the leader of your Bible study group?
I’d recommend the book “captured by a better vision”.