Resources for the “larger than average” groom or married man?
Based on discussions I’ve had on this board in the past and elsewhere online and IRL, I’ve been wondering if there a need to provide some resources/help for the virgin groom and/or married man who happens to be “larger than average” in penis size.
I know prior to our marriage, I could have used some specific counsel that would have helped bring guidance and encouragement to both me and my bride. And my wife and I have counseled other couples in the same situation and were able to help them.
I’ve asked a few others, and have gotten answers ranging from “absolutely, this is a need” to “thanks, but we kind of figured out the hurdles and adjustments ourselves.”
I’ve considered even starting a separate site to explore these issues from a Christian worldview, but perhaps it would be best to start here and find out if there would be any interest in this kind of resource for both these men and the women they’re married to. There are “resources” out there on the Internet, but they’re decidedly from a non-Christian perspective.
Anyway, I thought I’d gather thoughts and perspectives here before I went any further.
It seems like one of the things you would want to address is the proper way (the way medical professionals do it) to measure a penis, and statistics about what constitutes average and how most men fall on the scale surrounding average. It may not have much to do with the problems you are noting, but any time you start talking penis size, I think a lot of men are going to automatically wonder how they measure up. I know my DH always makes self-deprecating comments about his length and seems to really think he is somehow deficient, when, in fact, he is demonstrably above average. (I always knew that, but he won’t believe me.)
You should do your own research, but I found that average (erect length) among over 16,000 men studied was 5.1″ and the proper way to measure is on top from tip to pubic bone, pushing past hair and any layer of fat. The same study said most men measured within one inch of the average and that very few fell at the extremes one way or another. I’ve already closed the tab, but I just googled, “how long is the average penis”.
Also, from personal experience, length varies according to arousal, stimulation, and probably other random factors. I enjoy pushing him to his extremes of length, but then sometimes cowgirl could get painful. I’m hoping the removal of my cervix and the subsequent stitching did not shorten my vagina too much! Which prompts the thought, maybe you should also find and share some information about the average length of a vagina or how it changes in various circumstances, like different times during the menstrual cycle, etc. I think it also changes with different stages of arousal, now I think of it. It’s worth reading up on for a site such as you describe.
The average is found here: https://www.zmescience.com/medicine/penis-size-average-03032015/
Last update: 2017
Like SC’s boys I measured myself when I was a teenager. I’m analytical so measuring things is my happy place. I also know that from the tip of my thumb to the first knuckle is roughly an inch and from the base of my palm to the tip of my middle finger is 7 inches.
From a female perspective, I can say that I was concerned with what would fit from the time I first realized the boy part actually had to go inside the girl part and the sperm didn’t just magically jump from the Daddy to the Mommy when they laid down on the bed together. (Made me a whole lot more relaxed about nap time at the babysitter after that, at least.)* I can remember having a burning and long-lasting curiosity to know what it would feel like to have something in there, so by the time I noticed my DH (then-boyfriend)’s erection for me the first time, I would have noticed if he had been frighteningly over-sized. (Fortunately, he is only regular over-sized. 😉 ) My point is, you don’t have to do any unwrapping to make some fair guesses about this particular wedding package (pun very much intended). Any half-way mutually attracted couple is going to have a fair idea of what to expect, just by looking at the draping of the denim or the khaki.
*I might have heard some of the medical facts a little too young.