rubbing down there

    I like rubbing my wife’s vagina until orgasm. Anybody else like doing this?

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      well, yeah…is this a trick question?

      California King Answered on April 13, 2020.
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        As a wife, I just recently experienced my first O from his fingers in my vagina. I don’t know exactly what he was doing but it felt great! I know he found my g-spot at one point and rubbed it. He rubbed at the entrance on the slide in, which made me moan, And he thrusted deep inside me, too. I’d listen to your wife’s breathing and sounds to figure out what feels good to her. Make a mental note and return to that move at various times.
        I find that the build up is actually more important than anything else, IMO. Once I am slowly teased til I can barely stand to wait another second, anything he touches will bring me ecstasy. So take your time to slowly, VERY slowly tease her before going in. That should increase her pleasure.

        California King Answered on April 14, 2020.
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          May I give you a little sex ed? Trust me, it’s not meant to embarrass because I didn’t learn it until TMB and I was near my 40’s…and I actually have these parts! 😳 😉

          You keep saying “rub her vagina”… the vagina is actually the passage leading from the uterus to the vulva.

          What I believe you mean is the vulva, the vulva is the external female genitalia. This includes the inner and outer labia and the clitoris.

          The clitoris has a glan or head, much like a penis, which is often what we think of and are speaking of when mentioning the clitoris, but in actuality, it internally surrounds much of the vulva area. That is why stimulating the outer labia or other areas can also cause arousal.

          Under the stars Answered on April 16, 2020.

          Yea I mean her vulva. I am just using vagina as a general term. I rub her vulva lips and clitoris. I enjoy it it when she starts holding me tighter as she is reaching orgasm.

          on April 16, 2020.
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            “I would like rubbing massaging my woman’s vulva with my erected penis, – just rubbing – no penetration – but she doesn’t let me.”

            Interesting, and what is probably an often underrated option. We don’t often do this (don’t even think about it), but Zelda actually really likes the rubbing and even tapping down there with my penis. Thus, it’s a great way to do foreplay/warm her up. For the tapping, I kind of view it as a softer version of “clit slapping” that many women find surprisingly pleasurable (with some even O’ing from).


            Under the stars Answered on April 17, 2020.
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              Not a trick question. Maybe I should of asked for rubbing ideas.

              Double bed Answered on April 13, 2020.

              oh, ok…find clitoris. Ask her how stroking it with up and down strokes or side to side is good, or two fingers one on each side of clitoris, etc. There are reported to be many more nerve endings on female parts as opposed to male organ, so it can be easy or one of exploration. One day a certain area is good, the next day it could change. Her response should be one of pleasure reaction to your activity in that area on her. Don’t try to touch her there unless she’s ready for it. For instance, don’t just go for it, build up to touching, stroking the area. In a few women, they are ready for touch down there most of the day, in most others you have to build up to it by starting with kissing, etc, etc.

              Good luck.

              on April 13, 2020.

              I can never ask her how it feels when I touch her. She is so private with sex that I dont even know how well I am doing.  I have to go by non verbals to figure it out.

              on April 14, 2020.
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                @SC: Thanks for that.

                I’ve seen many people, including women, talk about “shaving their vagina”, and I’m like:  🙄  😳  😆

                But as “More Blessed” indirectly pointed out, rubbing the vagina can also be pleasurable.

                For all that may be interested, don’t just look but also make sure to understand this diagram:

                The bulb of vestibule in that diagram is the erectile tissue of the vulva. You should be able to tell a difference internally (with your penis but more easily with your fingers) as these fill, helping you to gauge your wife’s arousal. It’s actually really cool. Also, when the bulb is engorged with blood, internal motion (from PIV, for instance) is much better at stimulating the internal parts of the clitoris.

                Unfortunately, many common sources of info when discussing “clitoris” show actual images that might be triggering to some men. However, a good basic explanation of how this works that (at least currently) doesn’t have triggering images can be found at Wikipedia’s Bulb of Vestibule page.

                Personally, I’d diagrams like that for a long time before fully realizing/understanding its important. Honestly, I think it was feeling the engorgement differences during arousal with my fingers to really grasp it (pun intended).


                Under the stars Answered on April 16, 2020.

                My wife shaves down there and I think it looks hot.

                on April 16, 2020.
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                  rubbing: I guess the Q is mainly around hand rubbing. What about tongue (oral) rubbing? I would like rubbing massaging my woman’s vulva with my erected penis, – just rubbing – no penetration – but she doesn’t let me. She is fine with oral.


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                    She doesn’t really like being fingered.

                    Double bed Answered on April 14, 2020.
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                      Ask her if you can try all sorts of different things and if she can give you non verbal cues if something is bad or good. Like a gental tap on the arm for bad and then change to something else. Come back to the bad touch occassionally during a session because as she gets more aroused then things start to feel better that didn’t earlier.

                      Twin bed Answered on April 16, 2020.
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                        She will never agree to give me non verbals on purpose. I have to.go by things such her holding my head tight against her breasts because she is really aroused from me rubbing her vagina.

                        Double bed Answered on April 16, 2020.
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