Sex Time and Schedule
Is there a time slot where you usually have sex?
During school year, we have sex around 10 pm most nights and finish by 10.30. Does summer break, with kids at home and no set sleeping time for kids, affect your sex time and schedule?
Holy Cow, yes! (Before surgery, that is.) She stays up later than we do, so cuddling and making out on the couch in front of a mood-setting movie is off the table and since our bedrooms share a wall, even if we can get her to go to bed we have to be quiet and careful about any headboard banging! Yeah, yeah: we’re the parents, “Just make her go”. Yeah…not a battle worth the bloodshed. We’ll figure out something clever next summer!!
Since our kid is still young enough to have a set bedtime we have two main times: right after he goes to bed around 8 if we just got to have it right now or before bed around 9:30-10:00 after relaxing on the couch a while. 20-40 minutes needed. Every once in a while we can sneak in a morning or afternoon session on a weekend.
Our kids are young enough that summer doesn’t mess with our schedule too much, save getting up a little bit later in the morning. Regardless of the time of year our usual time is between 11 and 1, whenever I can get Wifey to come to bed and the planets have aligned for us to ML. Then I’m up at 6 for work. A few times my body has been exhausted enough that I have difficulty getting/keeping an erection and I really have to focus for my O, but there’s no way that I will let an opportunity pass by.
Our set time is when we head upstairs to the bedroom. It can be anywhere from 7:30 to 10:30. Because we homeschool and we have had teenagers for quite some time, we just give them a time they needed to shut things down and be in bed, and we go upstairs, close and lock our door when ever we are ready. When they were younger, no matter the time of year, there was a set bedtime of 8:30, or 7:30 if we needed an early bedtime.
The biggest hurdle we ran into is my oldest not getting home from work until late, and so the only opportunity to see the grandbaby was around 10:00. Thankfully he has a normal schedule now, therefore we can too. 🙂
I hope you don’t mind if I add a little question here, but first I will answer your question.
Our life doesn’t change much during summer, the main difference is the increase in sleepovers, both away and at our house. We probably have sleepovers once or twice a week. I would say all our bedtimes are a little later but DH still has to get up at the same time, so it’s kind of a raw deal for him. But since it’s August and school will start soon, we are slowly getting in bed earlier and earlier to get the kids readjusted to a bedtime more appropriate for school nights. I’m also getting my daughter up earlier and earlier as well, she could sleep until noon if I let her. My son already sets an alarm for 7:30 bc he likes to be the first to shower.
So my piggy back question is, would you ML when other peoples children are staying at your house? (Non family related children, specifically). Thankfully, DH doesn’t ask and it appears he doesn’t want to, but I would have a bit of an issue if he did. My kids have great friends and the ones that stay over are from families we know well, but I feel like I’d need to be ready if something happened or if there was an issue. If I should make this a question for the board, I will, but it’s sort of related to the OP question. Just let me know if I should!