Sexting – What Are Your Preferences?

    For those of you that sext:

    1 – What type of sexts do you prefer – written, picture or video?

    2 – If written, do you prefer flowery language or down and dirty description?

    3 – If picture, do you prefer teasing shots that tend to strategically hide the goods or full on nudes?

    4 – If video, the same basic concept of the previous two (I’ve never received a video sext so it’s difficult to find the wording for this question 🙂 )?

    I prefer pictures to written.  And, being as visually stimulated as I am, I prefer full on nudes in various poses to teasing shots.  Since I’m so visual teasing shots tend to frustrate me more than turn me on or prime to pump.  If I get written I prefer down and dirty to flowery.  It turns me on when my wife talks dirty and uses taboo words.  I’ve never received a video sext but have requested a specific type (her masturbating) several times.  Maybe one day she’ll surprise me with it.

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      1) I’ll take any.

      2) DW & I will use both depending on the situation. We can both be a tease and we can both dish it up now. (DW chose to experiment and learn that as I did it to her. I think the various emoji txts helped her start and as I was descriptive some times she began to mirror and get more comfortable expressing herself AND teasing me.)

      3)  yeah I like both but I do enjoy her sending me a tease and then telling me to hurry home, or if out of town, get somewhere private, ‘cause she wants to show me more!!! Huge turn on. The more she plays with my mind, the more I get turned on!!!

      4) I don’t remember receiving any video but we have had FT escapades and those are fun. My fave was when she invited me to “shower” with her. She directed me to get comfortable on the bed and she jumped in the shower,  did things that I loved watching, and asked me what else I wanted to see. WOWZA!

      Again, this was all learned in the 2.5 yrs ‘cause she wasn’t that way or comfortable expressing herself like that before. I remember the first time we were separated, how awkward she said she felt. Well, her taking a risk and experimenting first verbally over a call, then txting, then pics or FT, broke down that barrier completely.

      The best sex organ is the mind and therefore, it can be the most powerful tool in our arsenal with our spouse to prepare for & set-up intimate encounters.  I mean it’s fun to go long and hard and vary the foreplay, positions and experience BUT it’s also fun to BOTH go hard and fast…like 10-12 minutes and you’ve  both O’d and satisfied.

      Under the stars Answered on March 20, 2020.
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        All of the above.  As long as it tells a story. And the story I always want to hear from my DH is that he is thinking about me, wishes he were with me, appreciates specific aspects of my person (body) and self (not-physical), and how aroused he is by thinking about me and specific things about me.

        I don’t need “flowery” language; in fact I find artificially flower language to be awkward and, well, false. But there are a billion ways to divide up “you are beautiful” into much more specific–and therefore more meaningful and believable–statements. Some I have said to him are: “I love the way your eyes have that little bit of brown in the middle of the green; it’s fascinating and I love to look at them.” “The skin on the top of your foot is so smooth, it might seem weird, but I love the feel of that soft skin on my cheek.” “I know you think your butt is flat, but you actually have the cutest little curve to your butt cheeks that I think is adorable, and I like the way it fits my hand.” None of those is poetry, I didn’t search the thesaurus for $5 words that no one ever uses, and I didn’t try to talk in a way that I don’t normally. I just straight up said what I observe about him and why I like it.

        As I write this, I realize that none of those examples are overtly sexual and  as I think about that, it is because arousal for me is less about what I see or feel on him and more about what he does with his body to me that brings on actual arousal, but I always hate saying, “I need you to do X more,” because then it is like he is following an instruction manual. Maybe I need to SEXT him things like, “I love how when you trail feather-light kisses down my neck and over my shoulder, it makes all the little hairs stand up and reach for you.”  It’s not a naked picture, but it might be a way to express what I need in a playful and sexy way rather than a way that feels like cast notes after a musical performance. I could then follow it up with a naked picture to make it memorable, I guess?

        On security:  I do worry about it, but I was told if I had to send a credit card number to another individual the most secure way to do it was to text it, so I guess I figure if no one wants my credit card number bad enough to hack it, the certainly won’t want my naked picture, unless they want to make fun of it. DH is pretty unusual in that regard.

        One more note on language:  guys remember you don’t have to do your own wooing; there’s pre-written romantic texts by the boatload out there in the form of poetry and all you have to do is find the one that has meaning for you and your DW. I don’t care if my DH didn’t write it. To think of him spending the time and effort to find a poem that says something lovely about me and then sent it to me?  SUPER hot!!

        This is just a girl’s opinion. 😉

        Under the stars Answered on March 20, 2020.

        Maybe I need to SEXT him things like, “I love how when you trail feather-light kisses down my neck and over my shoulder, it makes all the little hairs stand up and reach for you.”  It’s not a naked picture, but it might be a way to express what I need in a playful and sexy way rather than a way that feels like cast notes after a musical performance. I could then follow it up with a naked picture to make it memorable, I guess?

        Duchess, yes, that….and that’s part of the way my DW got involved and grew in confidence when she could express those things and felt comfortable playing along. . When she started saying some of those things back to me…and then initiating  conversations like that on her own, things really began to take off.

        As a man, it was a huge turn on because I could imagine doing those things and her responding to my presence, touch and activity…AND she was also thinking about it and what it felt like. So yes, try it. Tell him…and if you feel inspired, given him a pic of you with a look on your face that express your thoughts. Give a LITTLE peak of some cleavage, you don’t have to give him the whole thing. Then tease him with something  like, “Come home to see more”…”can’t wait to share more later” or tell him what you like to experience that night. Give him a thought for his imagination for the rest of the day!!!

        on March 20, 2020.

        I appreciate your perspective on the effect that would have. I have done lots of sexy texts, up to and including the full-exposure shots he likes (I try to keep my face out of those; if they ever did get out, at least no one could prove it was me. Theoretically.) But they have all been with what he likes in mind. The question was about what I like and I was exploring how to encourage more of what I like.  😉

        on March 21, 2020.

        Though I do tend toward flirtatious, whereas Broadsword seems to prefer more blatant. Maybe I should keep that in mind. ;D

        on March 21, 2020.
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          Haven’t received any from my wife, but I send her ones regularly.  I have sent revealing pictures and also suggestive texts either with emojies that reveal what we should do later or mentioning certain candy bars that are affectionately named for body parts or end results.  I would so love for my DW to send me a sexting message.

          On the floor Answered on March 20, 2020.
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            Mrs. Oldbear is shy about sexting (concern that the content could possibly be seen by someone else).  I’d love to sext back and forth . . . a lot. Here’s my fantastical answers.

            1 – What type of sexts do you prefer – written, picture or video?

            Written -Yes! Picture – I’m a guy! Video – Yeah, Baby!!

            2 – If written, do you prefer flowery language or down and dirty description?

            Heavy  innuendo – flowery or dirty, either/both, must be tantalizing

            3 – If picture, do you prefer teasing shots that tend to strategically hide the goods or full on nudes?

            Both!

            4 – If video, the same basic concept of the previous two (I’ve never received a video sext so it’s difficult to find the wording for this question 🙂 )?

            Creativity is essential!

            Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on March 20, 2020.
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              1 – What type of sexts do you prefer – written, picture or video?

              I prefer written, mainly as a security measure. Once you transmit pictures over the phone or Internet there is always a chance it could be hacked.

              2 – If written, do you prefer flowery language or down and dirty description?

              Again my preference is based on security. Flowery language is less embarrassing if it gets released. DW does a good job though of making flowery language very hot.

              3 – If picture, do you prefer teasing shots that tend to strategically hide the goods or full on nudes?

              If we were confident in the security of the message I think I would prefer nudes, especially in poses that accentuate the breasts and behind.

              4 – If video, the same basic concept of the previous two?

              Same as above with the addition of her pleasuring herself.

              On the floor Answered on March 20, 2020.
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                We don’t sext very much. If we do, it is written. And we use our own code language! We are both concerned with security and privacy issues.

                We use flowery language or suggestive language if we are talking on the phone.

                We have never shared sexual pictures electronically. Of course, if we were guaranteed total security, we definitely would!!

                Under the stars Answered on March 20, 2020.
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                  Also concerned for security reasons so no photos here. I let DD use my phone sometimes, so no sexy texting either. I have embarassed myself by sending texts to the wrong people, so I prefer not to do that with suggestive language!

                  We do have a special emoji we use if hinting or thinking about sex. But thats all. DH sends me little romantic texts that he has an app for, and those are floral, or my favorite animal or drink, along with a little message. Neither of us are flowery or poetic people, so this is the extent we go to.

                  Under the stars Answered on March 20, 2020.
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                    As the receiver–  I actually don’t prefer any kind of sexting, it rarely does anything sexually positive in me (but it can get negative reactions.) My husband has a bad habit of trying to communicate with me like he does the masses (via text and email), and I prefer to be treated differently.

                    As the sender–  I am not sure of his preference, but he likes to receive anything sexual, whether it was suggestive in nature or very forward…I rarely do “flowery”…I can barely get “making love” off of my tongue.  I have never sent a video, but I have full on nudes (no face).

                    Of course, with the installment of Covenant Eyes on his and my boys’ phones, that has ended any true possibility of sexting.

                    Under the stars Answered on March 20, 2020.
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                      1 – What type of sexts do you prefer – written, picture or video? Written and a strategically taken picture that isn’t completely revealing

                      2 – If written, do you prefer flowery language or down and dirty description? It depends. A well written and descriptive dialog with a sprinkle of dirtiness thrown in would be nice.

                      3 – If picture, do you prefer teasing shots that tend to strategically hide the goods or full on nudes?  Teasing pics with some descriptive text along would be perfect.

                      4 – If video, the same basic concept of the previous two? A teasing video that is enough to get my juices flowing is all I need…Not too risky, but just risky enough to keep me thinking about the fun we’re going to have when we’re both at home.

                       

                      Queen bed Answered on March 20, 2020.
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                        I’d like to connect more on sexts. She doesn’t reciprocate. But if she did…I’d prefer back and forth dirty talk. For photos, a piece of lingerie on the bed I can look forward to later. Or a shot of her wearing something for me. Even if its just her foot or leg or cleavage. I try, but she’s usually too preoccupied with the kids or some other task. I’m always ready for sex, though! lol

                        Queen bed Answered on March 21, 2020.
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