Shower Incompatibility Suggestions?

    My husband and I loved showering together in the first years of our marriage.  But I t seems like time has messed up our temperature gauge, I don’t know why we are no longer compatible.  He likes lukewarm water now, or maybe it’s my body that has changed my temperature tolerance.  Has anybody experienced this?  We find ourselves Wanting to share in the shower experience but it will either be too hot for him or too cold for me.  We are so far apart in our comfort level that even middle ground would be unacceptable. I wonder if anyone has experienced a temperature compatibility disparity as the years have passed.  I wonder if it’s hormonal.  

    Double bed Asked 5 days ago in Activities & Items .
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      Do a remodel and invest in two different shower heads?

      Hammock Answered 5 days ago.
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        We have very different enjoyment levels when it comes to temperature. It has always been that way – not a matter of change due to age or hormones. So in our case, as I have a much broader range of comfort, I let her set the temperature and I, for the joy of showering with her, live with it. Her temperature comfort range is very narrow.

        Which of you has a broader range of temperature comfort?

        Under the stars Answered 5 days ago.
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          We definitely have a temperature disparity. He feels he is being scalded when he hops in with me. 😆 I guess it’s his version of being able to “walk through fire” for me. Have you tried to do the “slow boiling the frog thing”? I know we have turned the temp down when he first steps in and as he adjusts, I keep slowly turning the temp hotter .

          Under the stars Answered 5 days ago.
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            No showers together for DW and I so I guess I don’t have to deal with this particular problem.  One can only wish it will come true someday.

            Queen bed Answered 5 days ago.

            …yep….me too

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              I like my shower to be near scalding. It is not jist uncomfortable for DW but can be borderline painful. That means she gets control of the temperature. I have no doubt that sometimes it is hotter than what she would choose for herself, so perhaps uncomfortable to a degree but not painfully so.

              On the floor Answered 5 days ago.
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                DH likes the water cooler, I like it hot. He is the one that adjusts the temperature. We rarely shower, our nightly ritual is a bath. I am so cold in the shower that I can’t even shave! If the water is too warm, he feels cooked and doesn’t sleep well. We usually compromise. I get in first, into the (almost! ) scalding water. By the time it’s cooled a bit, he gets in. If it cools enough, he will add more hot. Ha, then when we get into bed, he is the one that’s hot and I’m shivering!

                Under the stars Answered 5 days ago.
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                  She has always liked the water much hotter than me, but I was always able to tolerate it.

                   

                  King bed Answered 5 days ago.
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                    Sounds like he needs to get used to a hotter shower….

                    Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered 5 days ago.
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                      We are in the process of a remodel and included a second shower head. Unless there are two separate water lines, not sure how the temp can be adjusted to accommodate different likes when it comes to water temperature. We added the second one because one of us is always out of the water stream getting cold. That said, my wife likes it hotter than me to the point of my turning red, but she is willing to adjust it down a bit more to my liking and I try to adjust to the hotter temp for her. But we aren’t worlds apart like some of you have mentioned.

                      Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered 5 days ago.
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                        I prefer hot water while DW has always prefers warm (cold to me) water. When we shower together, I let her set the water temp. I am usually the one freezing.

                        I adjust the best I can and when she’s done and hops out to dry off, I stay in for a little bit longer and set the water where I like it so I can warm back up before hopping out.

                        California King Answered 5 days ago.
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