Silliness in the MB

    For a fun discussion:

    I mentioned yesterday that we are mostly relaxed and playful in our relationship, so that sometimes leads to silliness, or dare I say, even childlike play with each others’ bodies.

    For example: this morning in the shower I enjoyed using the water spray to “brush” his chest hair back and forth a couple times. Just for fun. Sexual or not, his body is my favorite toy. Once in a while he will play the piggies game with my toes.

    Are you ever silly?

    What is your favorite way to “play” with your spouse’s body?

    Did you play more when you were first discovering each other, after you have been married a while, or did it stay the same?

    How does your spouse respond?

    If your spouse is the playful one, do you enjoy it or is it irritating (that is, do you think all touching should be seriously sexual or at least serious)?

    Do you ever feel foolish or childish about your playfulness?

    Do you think it helps your relationship, and if so, why/how?

     

    Edited for clarification.

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      We do playful teasing.

      Often we make grandiose comments about each other’s body parts

      Tickling is also something we do and it gets us laughing and excited.

       

      Under the stars Answered on February 27, 2020.
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        We are playful. I seem to be the one who is like that, I like to take him by surprise with a swat on the butt or a pinch of the nipple (not hard, just a surprise). If I find something to make him laugh, whether it’s tickling ar verbally, I will play on that. He is “too respectful” to push lines like that too much.

        Under the stars Answered on February 27, 2020.
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          I have played submarine commander in the shower before. Using her natural periscope eyepieces and speaking in a terrible Scottish brogue, we have sunk many a ship with her laughing every time. Yes, we are pretty silly.

          Fell out of ... Answered on February 27, 2020.

          Heads up to not Google search for periscope and anything involving wives/women. New term for me, so wondered if it was common. Apparently much more common than I thought, but in all the wrong ways…

          on February 27, 2020.

          That is awesome Crazydaddy! (And thanks for the…heads-up?…Scott!) Funny accents are the BEST! 😀

          on February 27, 2020.

          @Scott…LOL! Your heads-up makes me much more curious than the initial post. I just assumed it was the breasts, and was fine with going with my assumption even if it was wrong. But now I am tempted to go see if I was right 😉

          on February 27, 2020.
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            I love to grab at her lower thighs which sends her defenses up and invokes her rough and tumble nature.  A wet tongue in the ear or kneck bite will do the same.  To bite her firmly but respectfully on her butt is a real rough and tumble experience.  You can call it foolishness, they are acts that certainly do not promote much more than fun and folly with one another.  But the acts are a bonding practice that reminds us of our heartwarming bond.  In some ways, it is a reminder of our oneness in Christ, lest I make too much of it.  

            Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on February 27, 2020.
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              I don’t know that that sort of play adds anything to every relationship. I think personalities are very different, so it wouldn’t appeal to everyone.

              I do think, however, that in those relationships where it is happening, that it is a good measure of the degree of comfort you derive from each other. I would say that if it is happening it is great, but if it isn’t, that doesn’t mean something is wrong.

              On the floor Answered on February 27, 2020.
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                There is often a playfulness between us as we start foreplay. That often leads to getting hot and heavy. When my wife wants to, she can be very flirty and tease me with tickling, nibbling on me, etc. It’s an element of our interaction that I love.

                On the floor Answered on February 27, 2020.
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                  Sometimes Mrs Hornet will sing out ‘Oh sweet mystery of life…’

                  And I will occasionally toss out a dad joke.

                  We both realize the impossibility of passionate kissing while actually laughing, but after a good laugh we both feel more deeply involved

                  Queen bed Answered on February 28, 2020.
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                    Not physical play – Mrs. Oldbear loves to play ‘hide and see’ for me. She’ll cover up (multiple times and ways) and feign embarrassment leading up to ‘here I am, take me.’

                    Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on February 28, 2020.
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