Silliness in the MB
For a fun discussion:
I mentioned yesterday that we are mostly relaxed and playful in our relationship, so that sometimes leads to silliness, or dare I say, even childlike play with each others’ bodies.
For example: this morning in the shower I enjoyed using the water spray to “brush” his chest hair back and forth a couple times. Just for fun. Sexual or not, his body is my favorite toy. Once in a while he will play the piggies game with my toes.
Are you ever silly?
What is your favorite way to “play” with your spouse’s body?
Did you play more when you were first discovering each other, after you have been married a while, or did it stay the same?
How does your spouse respond?
If your spouse is the playful one, do you enjoy it or is it irritating (that is, do you think all touching should be seriously sexual or at least serious)?
Do you ever feel foolish or childish about your playfulness?
Do you think it helps your relationship, and if so, why/how?
Edited for clarification.
We are playful. I seem to be the one who is like that, I like to take him by surprise with a swat on the butt or a pinch of the nipple (not hard, just a surprise). If I find something to make him laugh, whether it’s tickling ar verbally, I will play on that. He is “too respectful” to push lines like that too much.
I love to grab at her lower thighs which sends her defenses up and invokes her rough and tumble nature. A wet tongue in the ear or kneck bite will do the same. To bite her firmly but respectfully on her butt is a real rough and tumble experience. You can call it foolishness, they are acts that certainly do not promote much more than fun and folly with one another. But the acts are a bonding practice that reminds us of our heartwarming bond. In some ways, it is a reminder of our oneness in Christ, lest I make too much of it.
I don’t know that that sort of play adds anything to every relationship. I think personalities are very different, so it wouldn’t appeal to everyone.
I do think, however, that in those relationships where it is happening, that it is a good measure of the degree of comfort you derive from each other. I would say that if it is happening it is great, but if it isn’t, that doesn’t mean something is wrong.
There is often a playfulness between us as we start foreplay. That often leads to getting hot and heavy. When my wife wants to, she can be very flirty and tease me with tickling, nibbling on me, etc. It’s an element of our interaction that I love.
Sometimes Mrs Hornet will sing out ‘Oh sweet mystery of life…’
And I will occasionally toss out a dad joke.
We both realize the impossibility of passionate kissing while actually laughing, but after a good laugh we both feel more deeply involved