My husband and I were wondering how many married couples strive for simultaneous orgasms:
All of the time?
Some of the time?
And how often does that actually happen?
It’s a pretty regular occurrence for us but we don’t necessarily try for it. We used to try more but over the years decided we like taking turns so we can fully enjoy the other’s O instead. Still happens pretty often, especially in a position where she can use a bullet vibe and potentially have multiples.
We used to more than we do now. Now if it happens it is a spur of the moment. At this stage of our marriage, it is more important THAT we both climax and enjoy than WHEN or even how. My wife has multis so that comes into play a bit. That being said, if the occasion and timing works out while we are engaged in any sexual activity, it can become a goal and we will strive for it, but it is rarely (if ever) a pre-determined goal. (I hope that makes sense).
We have tried for simultaneous O’s in the past. We succeeded once or twice in doggy style with me manually stimulating her clitoris. It was an awesome achievement but it doesn’t really work well for us. We like watching each other O with no distractions. Plus when DW O’s her movements and spasms are quite large. I am afraid I’ll injure my penis in that situation.
I don’t generally O from PIV. Fortunately DH wields tools very well indeed and even though we don’t manage simultaneous, I usually have more than enough to make the experience so good that I really don’t…even…remember…what was I saying again? 😉
My husband strives for it closer to “all of the time” than “some of the time”. He is successful 90+% of the time, excluding the times that we go in being informed that I am too tired to focus, so don’t expect much from me. But even then, he is attuned well enough to me, that if he realizes I am unexpectedly working up, he will hold off and work towards an O for me, which his will coincide.