Soccer Mom of 2
Hey Krista, don’t feel embarrassed in asking or answering a question. We’ve all been there. Anonymity certainly helps in that regard. Trust me, we have all felt that awkwardness in the beginning of posting something for fear of being judged. Some questions are easy to respond to, others take a lot more time to think about it. Some responses are short, others are very lengthy. Take the time to read them all because you will pull out nuggets of gold wisdom and advice that will help you in your marriage journey. As to whether or not it’s wrong for you as a Christian woman to be on here without your husband’s knowledge, that’s for you to decide. I would hope if he desires to have a growing marriage he would understand and welcome it as I believe that is your goal for being here. Consider this forum as a place to get counseling without having to pay for it. It is both fun to read responses as well as a time to reflect and ask if that is something you want to try. Sometimes a question may be asked that, while advice is given, the best advice is to suggest seeing a professional counselor to resolve. We don’t pretend to be counselors, just regular folks who share from our own unique perspective and experience. In a lot of cases that’s why people post questions, looking for that “what have you experienced” response that may help in your particular situation. Like any advice, whether here or from a counselor, you decide whether it fits or not and if it’s something you want to do. You choose whether to take it or leave it. The point is read, ask, learn, grow, have fun along the way. See if there’s anything of value for a bit more spice in your marriage. Enjoy the journey.
First…know that you’re not the only one who is on this forum and your spouse isn’t aware. At first it bothered me that I didn’t tell my wife simply because I don’t want to keep secrets. But I decided that this would be another example of “all you think about is sex”, so I decided I would make her aware that I read “marriage blogs” and I’m good with that. I think as long as you are keeping yourself above board in the forum, ie no inappropriate PM’ing, I don’t think it’s wrong…but as someone else said, that’s for you to decide.
As for a category, it’s a little overwhelming at first, but just pick one…no matter what you pick, it’ll pop up in the main screen as a new question…so I wouldn’t let that be too much of a show stopper.
Do you mean the act of selecting it digitally from a pull-down menu or the actual mental selection of where it fits? I would guess the latter since “Introduce Yourself” was selected as a category digitally here. For the “mental selection”, just find a category you think it best fits and choose it. Sometimes things can fit multiple categories, so just choose one. There’s even an “Other” category.
p.s. – Do you have the courage to answer my QOTD?
@krista my husband does not know that I am on either. I have thought of that question myself too, should he know? Is this considered a “secret” that I’m keeping from my husband?
At this point in our marriage, there’s probably nothing I would say here that I haven’t already said to him.
Additionally, if you’re here looking for ways to approach subjects or circumstances with your spouse, then you are seeking Christian counsel and there is nothing wrong with that. There are many things on my life that I wish I had a Titus 2 woman going along the journey with me. The least I can do is to try to be that woman for someone else.