Spanking and other forms of impact play.
Spanking is very common these days. And an even more common fantasy. The link between pain and pleasure is well known. Who uses spanking or other forms of impact play with their spouse? Or perhaps would like their spouse to spank them?
I like to slap my wife’s butt during doggy and AS. I only do this occasionally, though, as she’s at best tolerates it but it isn’t something high on her enjoyment list.
I really like it when she slaps me and will request her to do it, which she will do sometimes. But since doing it isn’t something she enjoys either I don’t request it often.
She doesn’t have a problem with nibbling and biting, though, and will do that often which turns me on as well. Apparently, I’m into “pain and pleasure” although I’ve never given it much thought before now.
My first thought here is that how one feels about this would almost certainly have to be linked to one’s experience with corporal punishment in childhood. The only spanking I actually have memory of receiving as a child was given by someone who gave it out of anger that I had caused him inconvenience and not even close to anything resembling love.
Perhaps not incoincidentally, I have never had much interest in spanking, impact play, or even “pain and pleasure” actions whatsoever.
Occasionally, DH likes to slap my butt a little during doggy; I tolerate more than enjoy it.
Dh is a butt guy and will often spank me playfully. We’ve occasionally done it more “seriously” during sex and I do enjoy it, it has to be interspersed with things that are not painful (stroking licking etc.) and or I have be very turned on. We’ve done other types of “pain/pleasure” things too like others have said I like to be bitten.
I was totally surprised one night when in the middle of foreplay, my wife spanked me, which is not like her, but it was enjoyable. I bought a paddle that she has used on me a few times with enjoyment. She also nibbles the nipples or sucks harder during PIV to orgasm. She is not much into pain but lets me do some mild spanking occasionally. I am not into other BDSM but spanking is something I like and will continue to use.
This may sound stupid, but I ask here just in case others have the same question….What exactly is “impact play”? Is it anything that results in the “pain and pleasure” dynamic? Or is actually around things that make an impact, like swatting, switching, slapping, etc?
I will save the rest of my answer until I understand better.