Standing Behind Position
Hey everyone, longtime reader but first time poster. After several attempts my wife and I were finally able to use the doggy style position. Not quite sure of the reason (perhaps our big height difference) but we really struggled to even achieve penetration and then it wasn’t very pleasurable for my wife. Assuming it can become more pleasurable for her I’d like to explore the standing behind behind position. And here comes my stupid question. Is it supposed to be possible for this position to be PV sex (because we’re not into the alternative)? I just have a hard time imagining it being possible with doggy style being so difficult.
Standing Froggy works well for us as I’m a bit taller and can control the angle that she likes more towards the g-spot.
Another good try would be DW on stomach with legs straddling the corner edge of the bed with you entering from behind. This allows her to relax and focus on the position and giving directions.
Also might be helpful to know who is taller in you scenario.
There is lots of good advice here, and it’s great that you two are trying new positions. One thing I wanted to add is that not all women find rear-entry enjoyable, even when they’ve tried all the realistic variants. It’s a rather polarizing position both physically and psychologically, with some loving it and others strongly disliking it.
So keep trying things, but keep in mind that eventually you may just have to decide to not do this one, and that’s okay!
We use doggy a lot. Mainly because it’s less work, and shorter time until O. I think my downcurve is what makes it work so well. Maybe your body just isn’t cut out for it? I dunno.
As for standing, we have done it, but usually no more than a few seconds. I’m so much taller I have to get in a semi squat to make it work. It’s usually just a quick messing around, either to be funny or just being so wild in the moment. But we’ve never done standing to completion.
Have you tried on the edge of the bed or chair for her to bend over? How about trying Liberator furniture or pillows? If there is a height difference in your upper legs, it is gonna be more difficult so you have to find ways to eliminate/reduce the differential.
Again, trying different props for your wife’s support to get her at your height. Bed? Chair? Tilting her butt in the air more? Try a different base surface (mattress vs floor)? Basically her vulva opening needs to be at your penis height. On the edge of the bed you can bend her over OR try positions where you pick up her legs and she supports herself on the bed with her a rms/chest. (Like the “wheelbarrow” position only she against the bed rather than using her arms on the floor.
A rear entry, “standing” position only works for DW and I if she is really bent over and tilted up like the shower. Sometimes tip toes for me with the table, vanity, & counter or I have to squat or lift her some depending on where we are, like the bed or chair. While I’m taller by 3-4″, she’s got height in the legs and mine comes from my torso.
Her on the bed is easiest for us. Standing was something we did from time to time, back when I still had two good knees! Now, she has t stand on something, so it generally messes up the spontaneity of it.
Regardless, we need something to get the height difference adjusted
I suggest vigorous experimentation, and much trial & error, till you get it right! (And after you get it right)