Survey Related to Only One Spouse Being in the Mood

Jay Dee over at Uncovering Intimacy sent out a new survey to his mailing list that is mostly about one spouse being in the “mood” and the other one not being so. I asked him for a direct link that is not tied to any subscriber’s e-mail, so he sent one along. Here it is:

It covers many of the topics we talk about here such as responsive desire, rejection, etc. And it doesn’t take very long to answer if one doesn’t type anything into the optional comments.

Just wanted to give everyone here a heads up! If you do the survey and it brings up questions you want to discuss, you can bring them up in an “answer” below!


Under the stars Asked on February 27, 2020 in Polls.
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    The first time I clicked on it, I was on public wi-fi and had issues. I just remembered it, and filled it out….though I don’t follow them so I will never see any kind of results.

    Under the stars Answered on February 27, 2020.

    If he posts results, I will try to remember to come back and link to them.

    on February 27, 2020.
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      Heads up that the survey results and writeup were posted today. Find them here:

      It’s a long read. As a person that works with data on a daily basis, even I found myself pausing and taking a bit to figure out exactly how to interpret some of the results, as it’s not always straightforward. Still, an interesting read.


      Under the stars Answered on June 29, 2020.

      Yeah, it’s a ton of data to wade through and try to pick out what’s useful and what’s not.  A lot of the time is simply spent trying to match up things and see where there’s a correlation.  Often I share things where I think there would be, but there isn’t, because then I might be challenging a stereotype others have as well.

      But this was a fairly difficult one.  New survey tool, new way of storing the data, so I had to jump through some new hoops to get it in a coherent form.  May have missed a few times 🙂  Plus, it was our longest survey.  Took me somewhere between 20 and 30 hours to do the analysis and write the post.  I think next time I’ll make a shorter one.

      on June 29, 2020.
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        A lot if info there. Much of it fairly useless IMO, but some of it really useful. The problem is that those that are on similar planes are seldom marred to each other!

        The most important thing to note I saw was what happens when one is rejected, or perceives rejection.

        On the floor Answered on June 29, 2020.

        Yep, I agree, much of it useless 🙂  But if I don’t share it, people ask “what about x?!”

        So, I share my process as much as the results.

        on June 29, 2020.
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