Talking during sex. OK words?
I didn’t want to hijack the other question posed about talking during sex but I have a related question.
My HD and I have learned over time to be more vocal and expressive, both in private times outside of sex and during sex. We’ve discovered that there are some phrases and words that one or the other of us really don’t like and we are sure to avoid them. Our “language” steers away from scientific/clinical terms but also is not too crude, at least by our standards (“vulva just doesn’t work for us but neither does c#nt for my lady parts! The P word is oh so much better and softer sounding!). Others may be great with those terms and I certainly don’t want to judge or impose our guidelines but they just are not for us.
So here’s my question: We would really like to find better word for two body parts — vagina and anus. Something not too crude but a little sexier than these medical words.
Any thoughts or suggestions or words you use are greatly appreciated.
My strictly no swears husband took a liking to calling it my a__ I like it. Especially since he’s careful with swears at other times and the way I feel about swears anyway is the heart behind them and the culture surrounding them are the only things that make them explicitly wrong. I know it’s probably an unpopular opinion tho. Good question tho. I guess we usually say cl*t for that part, we don’t rely have a ‘pet’name for it.
First, I agree with Tsrose about the heart and culture determining the “badness” of a word.
DH likes the P word; I’m not overly fond of it, but can’t really define why. Some people call it a hoo-ha. Romance novels (guilty pleasure) will use “sheath”, “channel”, “center”, “core”, and I once read a historical fiction book about Anne Boleyn and she called it a “cunny”, which sounds a little less offensive to me than the one ending in T. “Scabbard” makes a nice companion to “sword” for him, if you are into weaponry. Just Google “other words for vagina”–there are scads of them that don’t even make sense to me!!
As for the other one, you can’t go wrong with “ass” and “backdoor”.