Talking during sex. OK words?

    I didn’t want to hijack the other question posed about talking during sex but I have a related question.

    My HD and I have learned over time to be more vocal and expressive, both in private times outside of sex and during sex.  We’ve discovered that there are some phrases and words that one or the other of us really don’t like and we are sure to avoid them.  Our “language” steers away from scientific/clinical terms but also is not too crude, at least by our standards (“vulva just doesn’t work for us but neither does c#nt for my lady parts!  The P word is oh so much better and softer sounding!).  Others may be great with those terms and I certainly don’t want to judge or impose our guidelines but they just are not for us.

    So here’s my question:  We would really like to find better word for two body parts — vagina and anus.  Something not too crude but a little sexier than these medical words.

    Any thoughts or suggestions or words you use are greatly appreciated.

    Fell out of ... Asked on May 6, 2019 in Activities & Items .
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      My strictly no swears husband took a liking to calling it my a__ I like it. Especially since he’s careful with swears at other times and the way I feel about swears anyway is the heart behind them and the culture surrounding them are the only things that make them explicitly wrong. I know it’s probably an unpopular opinion tho. Good question tho. I guess we usually say cl*t for that part, we don’t rely have a ‘pet’name for it.

      Queen bed Answered on May 6, 2019.
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        Mrs. Oldbear responds with 🔥to flower (vagina) and rosebud (anus).

        Under the stars Answered on May 6, 2019.
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          Thanks for all the suggestions so far.  Right now, we’re leaning toward love canal or love tunnel for vagina and rosebud for anus, but we’re still looking for other suggestions.

          Thanks . . .

          Fell out of ... Answered on May 7, 2019.

  Love canal means something completely unsexy to us old folks 🙂

          on May 11, 2019.
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            First, I agree with Tsrose about the heart and culture determining the “badness” of a word.

            DH likes the P word; I’m not overly fond of it, but can’t really define why. Some people call it a hoo-ha. Romance novels (guilty pleasure) will use “sheath”, “channel”, “center”, “core”, and I once read a historical fiction book about Anne Boleyn and she called it a “cunny”, which sounds a little less offensive to me than the one ending in T. “Scabbard” makes a nice companion to “sword” for him, if you are into weaponry. Just Google “other words for vagina”–there are scads of them that don’t even make sense to me!!

            As for the other one, you can’t go wrong with “ass” and “backdoor”.

            Under the stars Answered on May 7, 2019.
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              We use the p word for her, the c word for me, and ass.

              Queen bed Answered on May 8, 2019.
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                My wife is not much of a talker during sex. I tend to be more talkative and when making love most frequently use the words ‘Pussy’ and ‘Honey Pot’ when referring to her lady parts.

                On the floor Answered on May 11, 2019.
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                  Vagina – Garden

                  Anus – Exit Only. Do Not Enter.


                  Maybe that second one is too long. 😉  I don’t have a good suggestion for it.

                  On the floor Answered on May 6, 2019.
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                    I don’t think this is sexy, but it’s better than “anus”, we often just refer to in some form of “the back”….backside, backdoor, etc

                    Under the stars Answered on May 6, 2019.
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                      Woo woo = vulva

                      Mr. Wonderful=penis

                      Me:  “I’ve been thinking about you a lot today”

                      DW:  “I know you.  You’ve been thinking about my woo woo”

                      Me:  “Well it does make Mr. Wonderful happy”

                      After all these years it works for us.

                      Double bed Answered on May 6, 2019.
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                        Oddly enough, despite the fact we don’t have sex very much, my wife loves the naughty words.  Like the F word and such. It’s actually important for us to use them, I think, for her to really get going.

                        Double bed Answered on July 23, 2019.
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