The more sexual, the more submissive?

    I don’t know if this is weird or not, thus running it by the ladies but i am finding it much easier to be submissive and feel more feminine, the more sexual (with a sex drive) i have… i don’t “love” my husband more, i love him as much as ever but now that i’m on HRT, hormonal sex drive has been somewhat easier and i find it makes me feel more feminine, more feminine leads to more feelings of submissiveness.

    Granted i have a husband that while strong, treats me very well, provides for and protects me and because of HRT himself, strongly pursues me sexually. While i have always been his help meet, i did struggle somewhat with submission (what woman doesn’t? it takes emotional strength) but like i said, i find it more compelling to fulfill my role.

    Does this makes sense or is it me? I feel OK with it, don’t struggle with it..

    Blanket on a secluded beach! Asked on February 1, 2020 in Marriage Roles, Headship/Submission, Unsaved .

    yes. However, my wife constantly accuses me of being unloving and cruel to the kids. She claims she is protecting them. I have done nothing wrong. 3 of the kids are severe special needs. She also feels the need to teach me politeness, lessons on how to be a man and gives me reasons to talk to the kids in a specific way. I told her that I don’t need a mommy and I certainly don’t need her to tell me what is moral and what is not. She has vaginal pain. sex hurts but her estrogen and progesterone helped for over a year. for 6 months she keeps forgetting to use it. I reminded her that her sexual mood is better with the creams. Instead she says I need to be more loving when really, nothing in my attitude or demeanor has changed. The sexual problem lays with her. but, she blames me.

    on March 25, 2020.
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      Not just you. I feel the same way. I think that the giving of ourselves sexually is about the most feminine thing we do. It almost always involves some type of submission. It gives me no end of joy to provide that experience for my husband. And I think the more I do, the more I want to be what he needs, both in and out of the bedroom. It’s a curious thing, but beautiful at the same time.

      Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on February 1, 2020.
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        I have seen a similar correlation in my life.

        I don’t know if it’s this way for you, since you mentioned hormones, but when I am my most sexual self, is when I feel secure in the relationship. If I feel secure, there is trust, which also leads to trusting him to lead in all of life.

        The opposite is also true. When there’s not trust or security, it’s more difficult to submit, but definitely harder to be fully sexual.

        Under the stars Answered on February 1, 2020.

        Yes definitely for a woman.  My husband is treating me very well and with compassion and empathy. If we were to get into a heated argument, i would not want “make up sex” at all. And it has nothing to do with lack of forgiveness or bitterness, i just need some time to pass and reflect.  But men would want that reconnection, they do not relate to that we as women have to open up literally and let them inside and that’s incredibly vulnerable, i guess that’s where natural submission comes in also, when you trust your man.

        on February 1, 2020.

        The common saying that wives don’t want “a man in the house, they want another woman” and so they treat the husband as such and get angry when the husband won’t agree with her. As a result of the disagreement, she is unwilling to be sexual in any way.

        My very long unemployment diced up our sex life. In 2017 I think she assumed I was attempting to leave her. (delusional) So she got real sexual, like hot sexual for a week. (she supplemented and it worked) The following week, suddenly, she asked if I was “seeing someone.” The ludicrousness to her false accusation angered me. I was busy, we have kids, I went to the gym and jogged a lot…she knew where I was at all times and the gym did keep me in muscled shape. I then realized she was afraid our marriage was getting bad. So she became sexual for a week to win me back. Once secure in her feelings, the sex went away.

        on April 17, 2020.
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          I also know what you all mean. I don’t feel that I struggled so much with submission, but I struggled a lot more with knowing WHAT submission looked like, for us.

          Under the stars Answered on February 1, 2020.
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            I don’t know if there is a causal relationship, but I have felt much more sexual and feminine recently, and I have indeed also had submission on my mind.

            I also don’t know what this means, but we never have what I consider makeup sex. We just get over whatever was between us and then have sex at the next “regularly occurring” opportunity, but once we are fully over a conflict, I am generally pretty much in koala mode. Very clingy.

            Under the stars Answered on February 3, 2020.
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              Not a lady.

              I find what you share to be very interesting. I’m curious to know if this continues.

              Also, I’d be very curious to know if others have a similar experience.

              Thanks for sharing.

              Under the stars Answered on February 1, 2020.
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