The more sexual, the more submissive?
I don’t know if this is weird or not, thus running it by the ladies but i am finding it much easier to be submissive and feel more feminine, the more sexual (with a sex drive) i have… i don’t “love” my husband more, i love him as much as ever but now that i’m on HRT, hormonal sex drive has been somewhat easier and i find it makes me feel more feminine, more feminine leads to more feelings of submissiveness.
Granted i have a husband that while strong, treats me very well, provides for and protects me and because of HRT himself, strongly pursues me sexually. While i have always been his help meet, i did struggle somewhat with submission (what woman doesn’t? it takes emotional strength) but like i said, i find it more compelling to fulfill my role.
Does this makes sense or is it me? I feel OK with it, don’t struggle with it..
Not just you. I feel the same way. I think that the giving of ourselves sexually is about the most feminine thing we do. It almost always involves some type of submission. It gives me no end of joy to provide that experience for my husband. And I think the more I do, the more I want to be what he needs, both in and out of the bedroom. It’s a curious thing, but beautiful at the same time.
I have seen a similar correlation in my life.
I don’t know if it’s this way for you, since you mentioned hormones, but when I am my most sexual self, is when I feel secure in the relationship. If I feel secure, there is trust, which also leads to trusting him to lead in all of life.
The opposite is also true. When there’s not trust or security, it’s more difficult to submit, but definitely harder to be fully sexual.
I don’t know if there is a causal relationship, but I have felt much more sexual and feminine recently, and I have indeed also had submission on my mind.
I also don’t know what this means, but we never have what I consider makeup sex. We just get over whatever was between us and then have sex at the next “regularly occurring” opportunity, but once we are fully over a conflict, I am generally pretty much in koala mode. Very clingy.