This is a question for women: do you feel objectified when your spouse wants to watch you use a vibe or dildo, touch yourself and watch you orgasm?

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    I love to watch my wife orgasm whether I supply it or her vibrator does. I also love to see her insert the vibe into her vagina, but she doesn’t often do so. She typically chooses her Wand for pleasure and it certainly is not designed for insertion. Am I objectifying her by requesting such things? Her pleasure is always  my number one goal, but I am extremely visual and I love a good show.

    Twin bed Asked on October 27, 2019 in MARRIED SEX.
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      No, but I’ve never felt objectified or used by my husband.

      On the floor Answered on October 28, 2019.
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        I don’t feel objectified as long as I can tell my husband is keeping me in mind also. I only feel objectified when he is only thinking about himself.

        Under the stars Answered on October 27, 2019.

        I can understand that…and I think my DW is the same way.

        on October 28, 2019.
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          I felt awkward at first, although I’m well over that. I’ve never felt objectified. He married me for many reasons, and my body is a only one of them.

          Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on October 27, 2019.
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            objectified no, slightly awkward and difficult to relax yes.

            On the floor Answered on October 28, 2019.
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              answering for my wife here–she says she enjoys putting on a good show for me and what awkwardness she feels goes away upon seeing my reaction and feeling her own pleasure.

              California King Answered on October 29, 2019.
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                I don’t feel objectified–I don’t think–but I do feel fairly awkward. Also, my DH  may enjoy watching, but he is not very good at expressing his enjoyment so I tend to feel like he is easily bored. When I read husbands here talking about how much they adore experiencing their wives’ pleasure, I get a little jealous because although my DH assures me he does enjoy my pleasure, like I said, he’s just not very expressive about it.

                Under the stars Answered on October 27, 2019.
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                  Never felt objectified. How else will he knows what feels good unless I show him?

                  Fell out of ... Answered on October 30, 2019.
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