Thursday, January 16, 2020 – Today’s Question(s) of the Day
My mother was a pretty sex positive person, even in the 70’s when I grew up. While looking for something in the bathroom (it was actually HER bathroom, they each had their own) I found a nice sized plastic dildo. It was the silicone type sold now, but was hard plastic, but somewhat realistic looking. After that, I would go look at it to see if it had moved, and yes, it nearly always had!
The second thing I found was mine. I was about 13 or 14 and had been masturbating regularly at bed time. I would clean up with some toilet paper and throw it away the next day, usually. I would lay it on a shelf on the night stand, kind of at the bottom of the night stand, but was open and had books etc. on it. Sometimes I would forget the next morning and two or three would pile up, then I would get rid of all of them at once. One day I came home from school and kind of freaked out, I noticed my toilet paper was cleaned up that I had left.
On the night stand was a full box of tissues and a brand new small trash can near the bed.
I was mortified I guess and didn’t know what to do. I never mentioned it, but I was so embarrassed. Later years, I though how wonderful my mother was for doing that.
It was about that time, I think before actually, she gave me a copy of Every Thing You ever Wanted to Know About Sex. It covered about everything. She gave my sister the same book.
I wasn’t embarrassed, more surprised for some reason, when I found my dad’s big stash of condoms in their room one day in my teens. I remember I thought “wow, do they have sex, THAT MUCH?”.
I was very curious about everything about sex at the time and I took a few to try on myself and was very scared he would find out…
Nothing embarrassing. My mom kept extra personal supplies in closet such as deodorant, etc. One time I found a tube of KY. I remember going back and looking at it. No idea if I knew what it was or why I was so curious about it. My parents were beyond modest and super secret about anything to do with anyone’s reproductive systems!
I found a rather large vibrating dildo in my parent’s dresser as an early teen. Also overheard them having a very good time a couple of times. Seems while their language was almost perfect outside the bedroom, they enjoyed quite colorful language while in the bedroom. I don’t remember what I thought at the time, but looking back I’m kind of proud of them. They are still very happily married at nearly 80. Can’t help but compare to my wife, who is willing to have accommodating sex but won’t even consider a toy and not very enthusiastic before or during sex.
Nothing really. I remember seeing condoms after they were used in the trash. Part of me felt uncomfortable seeing those; I was at the age where I knew about sex and condoms place in sex but didn’t myself have much sexual desire beyond finding girls cute. With time though it made me happy to know that my parents were still in love and not just friends committed to being good parents and good members of the community. I definitely don’t think it’s a good thing for kids to know too much about their parents’ sex life; I don’t think kids should seek out too much knowledge of their parents’ sex lives and I think parents should be sufficiently discreet in keeping it from their kids (of any age). Even so, I do think it gave me a healthier and more hopeful view of sex to at least know my parents were still engaging in it.