Today’s Question of the Day: 1/1/2020

    How was 2019 for you?

    Best year?

    Worst year?

    Why?

    Blanket on a secluded beach! Asked on January 1, 2020 in Question of the Day.
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      2019 was a year where the trajectory was towards growth and health, so that means it was a good year. There’s been some hard times and hurts, but there’s been a lot of blessings.

      Under the stars Answered on January 1, 2020.
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        God has blessed us, and though there is always some hardship, He is good and He is faithful!

        I lost 12 pounds in 2019, but I’d like to lose another 15 more (and they don’t seem to want to go as easily as the 12 did!), so I want to be more disciplined in what I eat.

        Spiritually this year I want to trust (and rest) in His plans more and make my plans less, I tend to easily worry about worldly things when I need to trust in Him and His provision first.  I want to grow my prayer time as well.

        California King Answered on January 1, 2020.
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          The good:

          In terms of jobs both of us had gainful employment. I love my job and the people I work with. It’s a great workplace environment and the work I do is important and valued. It was also the best year ever as far as finances are concerned. God was very gracious in creating the circumstances for me to get my job.

          My sister got engaged. We are happy for them but worry how my parents (my mother especially) will treat them after the wedding. My parents have been a constant source of tension and pain in our marriage and I can already see the signs of that happening with my sister and her beau.

          The bad:
          Emotionally and relationally it was the worst year ever. My wife’s OCD increased 10 fold in intensity. I have tried some things suggested by what I have read and what was recommended on the forum (i.e. not participating in the compulsive behaviors). It didn’t work. My response wasn’t good.

          I have gotten very angry and bitter and she can see it. Honestly I’ve made the problem worse with my constant need to shove my pain in her face. She feels worthless and I hate myself for being hurtful. We both need God to give us grace and help each other understand that we are both suffering.

          With all that said there is some hope. The major reason her OCD went through the roof was because she was constantly dead tired due to her commute. Fortunately she accepted a job in our area that cuts the total commute from 3 hours to 10 minutes. She was also able to get an appointment with a medical professional that helps treat OCD. I’ve also started the process to get us some marriage counseling.

          I’ve also struggled with a myriad of explained and unexplained health issues throughout the year. There have been times I have felt so bad I wanted to die. The doctors are slowing figuring things out though so hopefully in the new year my health will improve.

          2019 can go to h e double hockey sticks as far as I am concerned.

          Fell out of ... Answered on January 1, 2020.
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            2019 is over, and I am content to leave it behind.  It was neither the best nor the worst, but I have to say that until the last month or so,  it was one of the most difficult.   Back in August,  I found myself really struggling, and it was bad enough that I took a chance and sought out counseling.  I really didn’t have much faith in the process, and I am happy to report that I was wrong in my misgivings.  It turned out to be one of the truly life changing decisions that I have made.  Counseling brought a lot of emotional challenges, and no small amount of growth,  and I feel “healthier” than I can remember feeling.  Rather than being the waste of time that I had assumed,  the process of working thru my past hurts was both one of the most difficult things I have ever done,  and quite likely one of the most beneficial.

             

            With all that said,  I am happy to put it behind me, and step into the new year with a few less burdens, and a brighter outlook.

            Fell out of ... Answered on January 1, 2020.
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              It was a hard year for much of it but it got better as it went. Depression, suicidal feelings, mid life crisis, marital discord, health problems, family problems, nearly lost a teen daughter, all in 2019. But it ends with much hope for the future.

              California King Answered on January 1, 2020.
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                In some ways, it was our best year, and in some ways the worst!

                Best- learning more about God and prayer, the wonderful people who somehow found their way into our lives, getting some big projects finished, learning to work through things better in our marriage, some wonderful pets that joined the family, and more.

                Worst- difficult teenager, financial difficulties due to weather, still trying to work through some things in marriage.

                Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on January 1, 2020.
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                  Best in some ways. Worst in others.

                  Our marriage went through some real trials this year, and praise God we are stronger for it! Our level of intimacy is the highest it’s ever been—physically, emotionally, and spiritually. That wasn’t easy to get to, and it takes work to maintain, but I am rejoicing that we are where we are.

                  One of our kids has been really struggling and that has put us under immense pressure. That’s the part of life that was the worst ever.

                  New year, new mercies, new level with God!

                  Fell out of ... Answered on January 1, 2020.
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                    2019 can definitely go away and not come back, I can’t list much that went right. Everything from financial hardship and housing issues to multiple family members dying including a parent, plus others coming down with terminal illness after all that.

                    Queen bed Answered on January 1, 2020.
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                      It was a year that had quite a few hard things happen  (along with some good things).  However God has shown and is continuing to show me that I can have joy even in difficult circumstances and He can and does use hard times to grow me, even more so than easy times.  Romans 8:28 has become even more real to me over the past several years and while it doesn’t look anything like I originally thought it would/should (often the good ends up being a perspective shift for me) its been such a feeling of peace.

                      On the floor Answered on January 2, 2020.
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                        I feel like it was average. Average for us means lots of struggles and trials. For me, the later part was as brutal as it gets (a loss, my husbands chronic illness producing intense pain).

                        But i am so thankful that after all these years of marriage, we are closer than ever. Sex is better than ever.  One thing, i’ve always had pets and they’re considered family (my maternal instinct) and it seems like most of the time the early part of a new year, we had vet bills.  My last pet is gone so at least i don’t have to superstitiously worry about that 🙁

                        On the floor Answered on January 2, 2020.
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