Today’s Question(s) of the Day: 11/22/2019
I prefer sounds to words but if there are words I think they should be spontaneous. Like you just can’t help yourself. Sometimes my DH wants me to talk dirty to him and it feels a little awkward to me if I have to take a moment to think of something. For the sake of arguement though I like if he tells me how good I feel, or if he is just so into it that he cusses (I know that’s probably not for everyone), so that is the kind of stuff I usually say to him.
My orgasm or his? In general I like to hear sounds that tell me he is really turned on and enjoying himself and I do like when he makes noises of pleasure when he orgasms. Some phrases or dirty talk that he uses help me get even more in the mood, some are distracting, I think it depends on my interpretation of how authentic they are. When I am on the verge of coming I don’t really want him to talk (sounds are ok) because most of the time it distracts me and that’s a horrible time to lose focus.
Thanks to the encouragement and support of my wonderful husband, I have become a LOT more vocal — moaning, other sounds, words and even screams — during sex. And it has really intensified the experience for both of us. My husband is a man of fewer words than me but he will make lots of sounds, especially as he is close to orgasm. I love all the feedback I get from him. It helps me to become a better lover/wife.
My wife and I are both very vocal. She can moan, crescendo, cry out in pleasure, even scream (like in childbirth) in a way that makes me crazy; I can’t get enough of it. She rarely verbalizes during orgasm, beyond primal (and often high decibel) sounds, but will tell me after how “amazing” it was. I, of course, appreciate every word. I also get into the grunt, groan, and yelling pleasure at orgasm game; I’ve found it really enhances our experience; I am no stranger to using the F-word and more during sex (although never in any other context). My wife says she gets very turned-on by my “dirty talk.” She’s just beginning to experiment with some coarse language in bed, but still cautious. But, when she speaks back to me or provokes me (in a fun way) with an edgy, sexual vocabulary, my junk jumps. The freedom to be loud and vocal is a win, but, as with others, when the kids are home or we’re in a space where we might be overheard, we can have a really good time toning it down, too. But, what do I (and my wife) prefer? Loud, primal, sexual vernacular and slang, free.
My wife is not very vocal. Some slight noises, yes. Nothing major. Especially when I’m focused on pleasing her (manual or oral) I would love for her to tell me more about things I’m doing that feel good. She’s quick to tell me what is not working but expects me to just magically know what is working (although I usually do not get the physical cues until shortly before she O’s).
During sex, same thing: More affirmation that it feels good.
I prefer nothing from him, he breathes very loudly which is gratifying as then i know he is coming or is into what i am doing but FOR ME it’s a turn off when men get really vocal, i don’t think the same of women, however. I can get pretty vocal at orgasm but although i really wish i could climbing the mountain, it’s too distracting for me as i have to intensely concentrate, i envy those women who do not have to