Today’s Question(s) of the Day for 11/05/2019

    What are the ways that you stay warm during autumn or winter time to have sex?  Has it ever been so cold that you two did not have sex that day?


    On the floor Asked on November 5, 2019 in Question of the Day.

    My wife says that I am a radiator because my metabolism is high and I put off a lot of heat.. which as far as she’s concerned is good in the winter and not so good in the summer. We are entering the season that this is good as we both love for me to wrap myself around her and enshrouding her with my body heat. The only time that the weather kept us from ML was when our AC was out a few scorching hot summer days two years ago…

    She’s long past menopause and our “internal thermostats” are rarely synched up… she usually is much hotter than me in the summer which means she’s only comfortable when the AC is much colder than I need or want, along with the ceiling fan blowing down on us. I really wish she’d come to bed nude – which, besides the eroticism, would help with the comfort disparity in the summer but that doesn’t often happen – she’s a clean-freak and would change the sheets 3X week if we sweat on them much so she usually puts her PJs back on after ML. We both like the room temperature to be a bit on the cool side in the winter as the dry air causes our sinuses to close along with occasional nosebleeds and she favors flannel “granny” PJs :>( I love as much skin-to-skin contact as possible before, during, and after ML but she usually puts them back on.

    I’ve found that as long as my feet are warm, I am… and in the winter I usually wear socks at night, even when I’m nude during and after ML… a funny sight but it works for us.

    The first house we owned 41 yrs ago in the mountains of E. Tennessee was a cracker box built in the 40’s with little or no insulation in the exterior walls, single-glazed windows, and an oil heater in the floor of the little central “corridor” in the middle of the house. I remember windows with frost on the inside and us seeing our breath on many frosty mornings. I also remember getting up in the middle of a winter night to pee and having to carefully thread my way around the furnace grate in the corridor floor to keep from “grilling” my feet (ouch!) Even so, our sex life was rich and oldest son, now 40, was born in that town.

    on November 6, 2019.
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      My husband is a heater.

      We often start out under the covers, but seldom finish that way.

      A hot shower at night, getting directly under the covers afterwards, will keep me warmed up, as long as my husband doesn’t take too long coming to bed as well.

      I have also used fuzzy socks and/or cute leg warmers during certain activities, when the legs must be exposed but there’s not much activity or skin on skin for me.

      No, it’s never been so cold not to have sex. From my experience, the skin on skin and the energy it takes, seems to warm things up pretty quickly. Worst case scenario is we remain under the covers.

      Under the stars Answered on November 5, 2019.
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        My lovely wife gets cold very easily. She also has zero natural drive so I don’t want to exacerbate this by having a cold house. I wouldn’t say it gets too cold to have sex, but its more of a mood killer for her. In addition, as a man cold can cause cause some serious temporary shrinkage of the man parts. 🙂 This could reduce some confidence in getting naked and diminish pursuit of one’s wife. Our answer is a woodstove in the winter. There is no heat like radiant heat off of a woodstove, nothing else comes close. Quite romantic as well, although unfortunately the kids love the stove just as much as we do. We also added an infrared quartz heater to the bedroom. When it looks like sex is likely I make sure to turn it on a couple hours before bedtime. For those who like to signal to your spouse when you are interested turning on the bedroom heater would be a great signal.

        Double bed Answered on November 5, 2019.
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          Our house is a California house meaning that it will stand in an earthquake and freeze when its 50F outside.  We put extra blankets on the bed so that sex is a real workout with the added weight and restrictions.   That’s our secrete.  Yes, the cold has stopped us in the past when we have not been able to warm her hands up.

          Fell out of ... Answered on November 5, 2019.
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            We use a space heater. It serves two purposes. Heats the room and provides white noise.

            We visited a country where there wasn’t sufficient heating. So, in winter we could see our breath in the bedroom! We stayed under the covers those days!

            Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on November 5, 2019.
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              We use a portable space heater…one of those fan ones that oscillates. Works great in our relatively small bedroom.

              Cot Answered on November 5, 2019.
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                Space heater, electric blanket turned on an hour before hand, living in Florida 😜

                Queen bed Answered on November 5, 2019.
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                  N/A for me, but in case nobody else mentions it, shower sex allows for simultaneous warmth and nudity.

                  On the floor Answered on November 5, 2019.
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                    Our room is always cool, except for a small span of time in the summer. We stay under the covers a lot. We do have a small heater that we have sometimes set up beside the bed, we rarely use it. Too much work.

                    California King Answered on November 5, 2019.
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                      I will sometimes wear socks or leg warmers because my feet get cold a lot.  Dh is usually very generous about me warming them up between his legs.  Our bedroom is pretty cold (on purpose we sleep better that way)  so for most of the winter we have sex partially or completely under the blankets, but usually by the end we are pretty warmed up. We also sleep naked which actually helps keep us warm, there is nothing like the feeling of skin on skin.  Sometimes when the kids are in bed we will lock the gate at the top of our stairs and have sex in front of our pellet stove with a nest of blankets on the floor.  I like the warmth and dh likes the visual of the firelight.

                      Fell out of ... Answered on November 5, 2019.
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                        Space heater…and covers. The cold hasn’t and won’t stop us…but it may limit certain activities or positions until it’s warm in the room.

                        King bed Answered on November 5, 2019.
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