Today’s Question(s) of the Day for 11/05/2019
My husband is a heater.
We often start out under the covers, but seldom finish that way.
A hot shower at night, getting directly under the covers afterwards, will keep me warmed up, as long as my husband doesn’t take too long coming to bed as well.
I have also used fuzzy socks and/or cute leg warmers during certain activities, when the legs must be exposed but there’s not much activity or skin on skin for me.
No, it’s never been so cold not to have sex. From my experience, the skin on skin and the energy it takes, seems to warm things up pretty quickly. Worst case scenario is we remain under the covers.
My lovely wife gets cold very easily. She also has zero natural drive so I don’t want to exacerbate this by having a cold house. I wouldn’t say it gets too cold to have sex, but its more of a mood killer for her. In addition, as a man cold can cause cause some serious temporary shrinkage of the man parts. 🙂 This could reduce some confidence in getting naked and diminish pursuit of one’s wife. Our answer is a woodstove in the winter. There is no heat like radiant heat off of a woodstove, nothing else comes close. Quite romantic as well, although unfortunately the kids love the stove just as much as we do. We also added an infrared quartz heater to the bedroom. When it looks like sex is likely I make sure to turn it on a couple hours before bedtime. For those who like to signal to your spouse when you are interested turning on the bedroom heater would be a great signal.
Our house is a California house meaning that it will stand in an earthquake and freeze when its 50F outside. We put extra blankets on the bed so that sex is a real workout with the added weight and restrictions. That’s our secrete. Yes, the cold has stopped us in the past when we have not been able to warm her hands up.
We use a space heater. It serves two purposes. Heats the room and provides white noise.
We visited a country where there wasn’t sufficient heating. So, in winter we could see our breath in the bedroom! We stayed under the covers those days!
I will sometimes wear socks or leg warmers because my feet get cold a lot. Dh is usually very generous about me warming them up between his legs. Our bedroom is pretty cold (on purpose we sleep better that way) so for most of the winter we have sex partially or completely under the blankets, but usually by the end we are pretty warmed up. We also sleep naked which actually helps keep us warm, there is nothing like the feeling of skin on skin. Sometimes when the kids are in bed we will lock the gate at the top of our stairs and have sex in front of our pellet stove with a nest of blankets on the floor. I like the warmth and dh likes the visual of the firelight.